Saturday, January 23, 2010

Simplicity is Complicated

Simplicity (noun): 1. Being simple. A lack of complexity, complication,
embellishment, or difficulty.
2. Simple thing. A simple quality or thing.

Simplicity sounds like such an easy thing. It’s simple, of course! Yet when it comes to people and society at large, it seems that most people I encounter have forgotten this. They have forgotten the simple things of life. Yet, at the end of the day… it’s the simple things that make us smile. The simple things that make us happy. Moreover, it’s the simple things that are constant, never changing and will always be there.

I would first like to address the miserable people who are walking this green earth… GET OVER YOURSELF! I see so many people who constantly complain about bullshit in their lives. They complain about the most miniscule things. They make life harder on themselves and as a result- are never fucking happy. You see, even when happy, they’ll STILL find something to complain about.

These are the same people who complain that they’re never happy. These people suffer from attention problems a lot of the time. They want attention and seek it through looking miserable all the time in hopes that someone will come along and ask what’s wrong. They want to be able to tell their story of woe to someone. They yearn for drama and aren’t at peace unless some type of chaos surrounds them.

These people sulk in their misery. They are often depressed. They often verbalize this to anyone around them who will listen. Many have been this way for so long that this characteristic has become something that is a part of who they are. They are miserable and enjoy being sad and depressed. What’s crazy though is that most of them don’t know this and will still say that they just want to be happy!

What is especially crazy though is that many of these people PUT THEMSELVES IN THESE SITUATIONS. These people complain all day, yet they themselves are the keepers of their own demise. The only thing I have to say about that is this: if you PUT YOURSELF in a situation and STAY THERE, then guess what poppet’s…. You have FORFEITED all rights to complain about said situation.

This may be cruel to say for some, but nevertheless, it is the TRUTH. You cannot complain about something or anything for that matter if you stay in that situation- no matter what it is. Real talk, if it were THAT BAD, you would have found a way to escape. But, you don’t. This tells us one of two things… Either you LIKE IT or you just want something to complain about.

It is so simple to walk away from a fucked up situation. It’s as easy as getting up, walking away and not looking back. Yet so many people find this hard to do. Know this… Walking away is the easiest, most simple thing to do. Most don’t, only because they either want to be there or they let their feelings and fears dictate them.

I have known many of people in fucked up situations, that they just could not seem to get out of. The main reason being, that when they think of solutions, they are not happy with any of them. They may have to deal with another situation they may not like or people they may not like. Know this… at any point in time in our lives; we will face situations that we may not necessarily want to deal with. You can either run the opposite way and forever more have problems, or you can stand your ground and deal with it. Which in turn makes you a stronger person.

This is a part of growing up. Learning when and how to pick your battles, learning when and how to speak up for yourself, and most importantly learning when and how you should let certain things go. You have to think beyond what is happening in the here and now, and look at the bigger picture. You may have to deal with fucked up shit, just to get to where you want to be in life.

When I think about the phrase “Easier said than done”, this applies to the majority of the population. This though is only because, like I said, most people let their feelings and fears dictate them. It is not the end of the world if you walk away, stop thinking so. Those fears are what will hinder you for your entire lives. Fear of rejection, fear of loneliness, fear of the unknown… are common amongst society. Get over it!

This also goes back to what I said about drama chasers. Many of them claim that they HATE drama, yet are constantly surrounded by it. Look around you and you’ll see it everywhere. I’ve personally seen bitches pick a fight with her man over NOTHING. All because she wanted that drama, something to complain to her girls about. This scenario is definitely seen more with women. Women after all LOOOOOVE to complain about SHIT.

The ones who love the drama are often surrounded by others of their kind. Misery loves company of course, and the depressed run in packs. Look around you, examine your peers and you will eventually start to see who people really are. The drama lovers are surges of negative energy, and that shit DOES rub off. So if you don’t want to be miserable, stay away from those who generate it like the heat from the sun. It can and will eventually affect you as an individual.

On to the people in fucked up relationships, who can’t seem to walk away. I’ve seen a wide array and variety of relationships that were shot to hell, but the people still stayed. They stayed for various reasons, mainly because they fear being alone and they fear the unknown. I’ve also seen people who live with each other and are only doing so because it’s cheaper than living on your own. For those people… one word, two syllables: roommate.

You shouldn’t stay in a fucked up relationship, where no one is happy, just so you can go half with someone on rent. It’s called a ROOMMATE! Not that fucking hard; but instead, you people just stay in fucked up relationships, more than half of you cheat, you aren’t happy and at the end of the day most of you go home to someone you have grown to hate. Guess what? You have forfeited all rights to complain about that shit! It’s not that hard to get up and leave, nor is it that hard to find a roommate.

People make their own lives harder than it has to be. You put yourselves in fucked up situations. Then, you have the audacity to sit there and complain about it. I am here to tell you, that if you are in a fucked up situation, and you know it… and you STILL stay there. Then guess what? No complaints should ever escape your breathe.

This is just the tip of the iceberg, being that there are many marriages that are like this too. If children are involved, then it just makes it that much worse. The only thing I will say about this though is that society has come to accept divorce and accept broken homes- I have not. If people would actually get to know one another before deciding to marry, things would be so much different. But… people are impulsive, people are deceitful and many have hidden agendas. Your job in a relationship is to get to REALLY know a person, and not who they portray themselves to be.

The bottom line of all this is that life can be extremely simple. We as people have made it hard upon ourselves only because we let our fears and feelings dictate us. This in essence is what makes situations harder upon us. The fact that we can’t see the bigger picture and do whatever it takes to get to where we want to be.

To those of you in shitty relationships, especially women, you bitches are disillusioned to believe certain things. Never forget one thing though, that thing you hold in between your legs IS POWERFUL! Bitches who cry over dudes and get all depressed and shit- I laugh at you bitches, cuz you REALLY don’t know what you have, nor do you value yourself.

If he was fucked up to you, get over him. There are PLENTY of men, all over the place. As a woman, we can pick and choose who we want. We have that advantage over men. We can literally pick who we want, when we want, within reason of course. So ladies, stop moping around. The world is our oyster, and we can have just about anyone within it… even if you are an ugly bitch.

Men on the other hand don’t have it as easy. They can’t just go out and get whatever girl he wants, unless of course, he is an alpha male. So men, if you are in a fucked up situation, let it go. Go out with your friends, get wasted and live it up.

It amazes me how many of you cope out and sell yourself short just because a bitch is giving you pussy on the regular. STOP SELLING YOURSELF SHORT! You will never be happy that way, and that bitch will always be the naggy ass bitch you met her as. Men, practice and learn some fucking self-control. No woman should want a man who displays little self-control and will power.


So, to wrap this all up. Simplicity is simple, yet we have made it hard upon ourselves. We have made our lives way harder than they originally were. Let go of certain things, it is the only way to progress. And sometimes the road less travelled may seem longer, darker and scarier, but in turn you will not only acquire growth in mind, body and spirit; you will also finally be where you want to be in life. Lastly, if you are in a fucked up situation and you know it, and you really hate it as much as you say you do- then leave. You are putting yourself through torture and it’s your own fault. Remember that anything that can easily be said, CAN easily be done. Stop being scared now, because if you don’t you will remain this way forever. If you don’t leave, also know that now, you can’t complain about it. You cannot complain about a situation or anything that is SELF-INFLICTED! Period.


Until next time, Be Real with Yourself and Each Other.