MODERN DATING: Alpha's, Submissives and Everyone Else

We live in quite a society, and as products of our environments, society has molded most of us well. Now in the world at large, there are certain things that are forever more constant- the dating scene is no exception. There are certain categories that people fall into, and the broader categories are the Alpha’s, the Submissive’s and then Everyone Else. We will explore and examine how each of these categories effect each other and how they relate and get along in the dating world.

[Please also note: This perspective, and entire series was written from an Urban stand point. These things only really occur in urban society where dating has certainly evolved into some other shit. When I looked at different socio-economic levels, what I realized was shocking to me. ONLY people in the “hood” have a problem with dating. They have communication problems, they have power and control struggles. ONLY people in the hood don’t know the difference between “dating” and “going out”.

In fact, most people in the hood, don’t date at all. There is NO courting, they don’t get to know someone before they settle down with them, or fuck them for that matter. Most have reached their 20’s, never even knowing what a real date consist of. The struggle over Gold Diggers and Independent women is also prevalent, for in other socio-economic classes, this isn’t a factor. Which leads me to believe that low-income cities and hoods around the world, have evolved the dating scene to adequately match their life situations.]

Well, now that we have broken the dating population down into categories, I will try to explain how each one of these parties goes about in the dating scene. I will also try to explain what works well with one another and what doesn’t and why. It can be tedious, but I’m going to try to cover it all in as little time as possible.

Everyone Else Explained

Everyone else is about 70% of the population. Sure, Everyone Else is what we in society would deem as “normal”. They are the typical run of the mill types of people. Everyone Else can be broken down into sub-categories, depending on how far along you have come mentally and psychologically. There is a straight correlation between the levels of ignorance and how “normal” or typical you are as a person. The more you know- about yourself and the world around you, the closer you are to becoming an Alpha.

What I mean, is that the more ignorant and oblivious you are as to the real world and how it works, the more typical and predictable you are as a person. You fall in line with stereo-types and you keep them alive. Most people are so predictable, it hurts me to even have to watch them, but I digress. For Everyone Else, the farther away you are from Enlightment, the more typical you are as a person. This runs, holds true, and will forever more be a constant- I have researched this.

Universal Constants are what I like to call occurrences that are forever more, just that- constant. What I learned is that people in the Everyone Else and Submissive categories are products of these constants. An Alpha is a lot harder to read into and predict their movements- depending on how far they are in their journey of life. One thing that holds true though is that there are certain types of people, who fall into many different categories. The important part though, is that any two different people, within the same category, will ALWAYS react the same way. This is what a constant is.

People in the EE/Submissive categories fit into this nicely. It is because of their categories that I could predict their movements and reactions to situations. To break it down a bit further, through observing people, I have learned that people who share common characteristics, will act the same way. These could be two very different people on the outside, but because of their common traits, they will ALWAYS react the same way or do the same thing in life. This is what is a Universal Constant and because of this, I can predict peoples movements and gestures, way before anything even pops off.

If I could break down the subcategories of people in the EE category, I’d do so in the following fashion- high, middle and low. People in the high category are closer to an Alpha. People in the middle would be your average Joe type of person, who is not entirely ignorant to things- but they rarely think about it. The people in the low category, are people who are completely oblivious to the real world and how it works.

-Everyone Else vs. Everyone Else

Now for Everyone Else. We will start with them, for they are the majority of the population. Everyone is typical, right? So that means that, for my peers- most of the women, are trying to control the situation and most of the men, really just want a good friend and regular pussy. They are ALL about the games. It’s all cat and mouse, and guess what? Usually the woman wins… Remember PUSSY=POWER.

The “normal” women exhibit their typical crazy bitch traits- impulsiveness and being irrational as all hell. Many use their pussies as leverage to get what they want. Most of them really have self-esteem and self-image problems, but many don’t know it. Many of them don’t think highly of themselves and don’t think they deserve better. Many of them are sexually oppressed.

The “normal” men exhibit their lying ass horn dog traits- in a constant conquest for pussy. Many of them lie and front to get what they want. Many of them ONLY want to have sex and be cool with a chick, with no strings attached. Many of them are trapped into relationships by women- only because its constant pussy that he wasn’t getting before. Many of them really don’t want relationships, but most don’t know it.

When these two types of people get together, you can ALWAYS expect drama to proceed. This is mainly because it is always a constant struggle of power with these two. If the woman holds the power, chances are, the man will start to resent her and all her crazy ass traits. If the man holds the power, chances are he’s cheating and the woman will stay, only making herself more miserable in the end- wasting her youth and time on a man of no substance. The only time there is no drama, is when both parties are open and honest with themselves and each other. Any time your relationship becomes a power struggle- it is doomed to fail. THIS IS A UNIVERSAL CONSTANT!

-Everyone Else vs. Alpha’s

When someone of the Everyone Else variety dates an Alpha, one thing is certain. They are almost always dominated easily. EE falls for the charms of an Alpha quickly. Sometimes it gets to the point where an EE would do anything and everything in their power to satisfy their Alpha- even if it makes them unhappy doing so. Some sacrifice their dignity, power and forget their self worth when they get with an Alpha. They almost lose themselves completely in that other person.

This relationship is almost always doomed to fail. This is because any self respecting Alpha will tire of an EE. EE will bend backwards to make an Alpha happy, and lose their backbone- always giving in. This will eventually bore an Alpha and will infuriate most. Most Alpha’s don’t want someone who always agrees, they want someone who challenges them. For this reason, in most cases, this relationship won’t work. It ONLY does under one circumstance, that I will explain later.

Submissives Explained

Now the Submissive’s are the bottom of the barrel. These are the people who are the doormat’s of the world. Many are masochist but many more aren't- but most love to be miserable. These are the people that stay in fucked up situations and relationships. Most normal people look at these people, like, WTF is wrong with you? Why would you put up or deal with that? Well, the plain explanation for this, is that many of these people have deep rooted psychological problems.

Moreover, many of these people tend to have mommy/daddy issues. Many enjoy being dominated, humiliated and taken advantage of. Most complain about it, and never change what is going on. This is because they secretly like it. They may not even be aware of it either. Honestly, most people in this world don’t think about what they are doing or why they are doing it. Most people get caught in the daily rat race and most never sit down to think about what it is THEY really want. Not what society tells you that you should want, but what YOU really want.

Submissives vs. Everyone Else/Alpha’s

While most Alpha’s won’t dare date a submissive, people who fall in the Everyone Else category know that it is not beneath them. The thing with submissive’s though is that they can be dominated by anyone. It’s what they want and what they get off on. They desire to be obedient and subservient to someone. It is true to say that most suffer from deep emotional or psychological problems. They have issues that stem from their childhood and/or adolescence, and as adults- it all shows.

The people who would deal with a submissive, of course, are from the sadist variety. They are dominating individuals. Do not get this confused with an Alpha though. While an Alpha has dominating characteristics, it is natural, and something they do not work on, or are in control of most of the time. They do not necessarily take joy in dominating another. A sadist on the other hand, seeks weak people to dominate, and they get off on it!

Alpha’s Explained

What makes an Alpha though, has NOTHING to do with looks and everything to do with CONFIDENCE! Alpha’s may or may not suffer from self-image issues in certain other areas of their lives, but one thing is for sure, when it comes to dating or anything else they want bad enough- they KNOW they got it. This is mainly because while other people dream of things, an Alpha goes for the chase and pursues theirs. For this reason, an Alpha is almost always successful in life.

The thing with an Alpha is that many of them have dominating characteristics. They dominate people and situations easily. An Alpha is the REALIST of the bunch, for they know and understand how things work, without having to play games to get what they want. Many of them are seen as reckless, the way they talk to people and get away with it, but most of the time, it’s always real and straight to the point… No salt… No lime… No chaser.

Some people are natural born Alpha’s, but most develop later on in life. An Alpha embodies swagger… as if they needed it though, their confidence alone speaks for itself. The Alpha’s are like no other, for they have been on their journey of self discovery. They know who they are in the world, and exactly what they want out of life. If we lived in the animal kingdom, an Alpha would be the mighty lion, King of the jungle.

Being that an Alpha rules the jungle, it is only right to know that an Alpha is impervious to the power of pussy or dick, for that matter. Where Everyone Else and Submissive’s get caught up- an Alpha would never. This is the only time that a female can’t control the situation with the power of her pussy. This is also the only time that a man can’t control a female with beating it out the frame. Seriously, the main reason for this is because an Alpha already gets play like no other. Men get panties thrown at them, women get men beating down doors in an effort to get at her. Alpha’s NEVER have to work hard to get sex, so as a result, they don’t obsess about it the way that Everyone Else does.

In the dating world, this means that tactics used by Everyone Else, doesn’t work on an Alpha. A woman can’t use the “power of pussy” to get an Alpha male under control. See a male who falls under EE, would jump at that situation, only because he isn’t normally getting laid. An Alpha male though, can have pussy whenever he wants it- so you trying to control him with that, will only piss him off- especially when he can get pussy anywhere. For men who try to tame an Alpha female, and try to beat her shit off the hinges, this will also not work. An Alpha female, is secure in herself and knows that at the end of the day, she can have almost any man she wants. She isn’t going to let a little thing like dick fuck her head up. A female of the EE variety would be trapped by some great dick. She would be so trapped, that her man could do or say almost anything and all is forgiven, JUST because he had good dick. An Alpha female is the Queen of her domain, she runs shit and would never let dick stray her from her path.

In the dating world, this is probably the first thing I noticed about an Alpha. It is something they have that no one else has. That confidence and the means to rule. They don’t let anyone else run them, but they will compromise when needed. The main reason an Alpha is like this though, stems from their ambitions in life. They have mastered emotional detachment and can easily remove themselves from people and situations. This is because, they know that although relationships are good and dandy- if they ever want to achieve their goals, they cannot invest their emotions and time into others. This would only take away from what they are trying to achieve for themselves and in the mind of an Alpha, no one but themselves come first. THIS is what sets apart an Alpha from anyone else in the world.

Alpha vs. Alpha

When two Alpha’s get together, things can go one of two ways (depending on their personalities)- they will either bump heads endlessly or they will mesh perfectly. There is no in between and middle ground when two Alpha’s get together- it is always either one way or the other. Two Alpha’s who bump heads do so mainly because one of them or both for that matter, have a hard time letting go of the reigns a bit and compromising. If they can learn to do this, it just may work. Each has to learn though how to first, keep their dominating traits at bay in an effort to compromise with one another.

Two Alpha’s that mesh perfectly though, have the best type of relationship. They communicate effectively and most importantly, games are not played, for they are beyond them. Both are open and honest at all times and most importantly, they don’t let their emotions get in the way of the truth. This is never a problem, for their other half handles the truth gracefully at all times and things are debated- not argued. Seriously though, unless an Alpha exhibits sadist traits, and Alpha will ONLY ever be happy with another Alpha- for no one else could understand or come close to comprehending where our mentalities lie.

Alpha vs. Everyone Else/Submissive’s

An Alpha who deals with a Submissive is a sadist. They enjoy dominating others. This is what they get off on. Like I said before though, although an Alpha naturally dominates people and situations, most don’t want to and most can’t control that from happening- it just happens. This is the main reason that an Alpha will bore and tire, when dealing with anyone who isn’t an Alpha.

People on the Everyone Else tier are a bit different. Some may try their power and control tactics, not knowing who they are dealing with. In most cases this will irritate an Alpha, and if you caught the Alpha while bored, you’ll probably get played and toyed with like a mouse between the paws of the mighty lion. Alpha’s don’t like, nor do they play games of their own, yet they are not above being a player in your game- just know that they will always be victorious.

When an Alpha deals with these types of people, under normal circumstances it will not work. This is because an Alpha seeks a challenge. People in an EE/Sub category are dominated easily, and are easily swayed. You can get them to do just about anything for you, and while some Alpha’s may enjoy this power, most tire of it and want a challenge instead. They do not want someone who is going to agree with everything they say or do. They do not want someone who will compromise themselves and beliefs, which is what will normally happen in these situations.

A self respecting Alpha wants someone who compliments them and this is often not found with an EE/Sub. This should be a warning to those of you in the EE/Sub category though because there are some Alpha’s who are assholes, who do not possess morals or values. We are not all cut from the same cloth and if you are not careful, an Alpha could very well eat you alive and you will be rendered powerless and trapped. At this point, no one could free you, but yourself, yet an Alpha is so keen on things, they will have broken your spirit well before you are fed up enough to try to leave. Evil in this world does exist everywhere- and we should never forget that.



So… In conclusion, we live in a society that has evolved over time. I wouldn’t say its been a good evolution either, in fact, in many ways it has hindered us in this society. If we can’t mate properly, what does that say about us or our children for that matter. Yes, I believe it is way deeper than what I have already expressed to all of you. This series focused on the modern dating of our times, written from an urban point of view, yet after observing people from other socio-economic levels I realized so much about the people of the hood.

We are going about doing things the WRONG way. We don’t even date… or court for that matter. In other places, people date for months on end before becoming exclusive and then finally being a “boyfriend/girlfriend”. Sure some of em may fuck, but they go about doing things the right way in their ways of dating. In the hood dating is almost non-existent and I know way too many people who have never been on or have any idea what happens on one.

This shouldn’t discourage any of us though, because like I said, not everyone is cut from the same clothe. Not everyone is on the bullshit, and some people actually think about deeper things than JUST what is on the surface. It is up to each individual to get to their rightful places in life. The beautiful thing about this though is that we have room to grow and expand. People who are Subs and EE can evolve into an Alpha. An Alpha will only get more fiercer in time though, sharpening their skills and taking no prisoners as they climb up the ladder to success.

People are different, yet the same in so many ways. This is how Universal Constants are able to exist. This is how I am able to predict the movements of most and most people are not even aware of this. Yet we are different in ways and we each belong to our respectful categories and subcategories. How we date within these categories, are usually one in the same. Depending on our personalities, things may work out differently when dating across different categories.

Our personalities and character traits are what make us, not what category we fall under in the dating world. Everything changes day to day, people and places evolve- this much is only natural and it should occur, as long as these changes are positive. These changes come from within and only come with the realization that we each will face in life. If we evolve, we are only one step closer to knowing who we are, and it turn understanding each other. If we don’t, we are at a steady pace in limbo… stuck in the matrix. The choice is yours to make, when you are ready.