MODERN DATING: The Dudes Edition

Modern dating from a man’s perspective of course, is naturally next. We will explore the depths of the male mind, see what makes them tick and break down my theories on them. Of course they can only be theories taken from observations and research, for I am not a man myself, so although I’ll never purely know what it’s like, I can sympathize enormously… 70% of my mentality is Dude.

Men… Mostly seen as a bed of nails. Hard. Tough. Sometimes, it’s even hard for me, and I too forget that men have real feelings as well. Although, from the time they are born, most men are taught to bottle their emotions. “Boys don’t cry”, is the common phrase, uttered by many parents in hopes of toughening up their sons. But, alas, boys DO cry. They just don’t usually let anyone see them when they do so.

Yes. Men have feelings too. Yet, the difference between men and women is that men not only internalize their feelings, their mental processes are different. When a man is normally hit with some crazy or bad news, he emotionally shuts down in an effort to sort his feelings. Women on the other hand, externalize everything and then some.

It is true that there are many men out there who are also disillusioned into believing they want something, when it is merely what society states he should want. Men can be just as confused as women when it comes to properly trying to pick a mate. But the main issue is WHEN he will be able to actually pick a mate. For you see, I don’t necessarily think MOST men actually want relationships- many just don’t know it but I have theories as to why they may do certain things.

You see the biology of a man is very different from that of a woman’s, and this includes everything from the way we perceive things, talk, our sexuality, our chemical processes… everything. Men, are in their primes early during puberty… Usually from ages 18-25… Women on the other hand don’t reach their sexual peaks until their 30’s-40’s. Now the thing with young men, is, I REALLY believe the majority of them do not want actual relationships.

Dating for men is way different than it is for women. Even growing up, a man is taught that his goal in life is to acquire status and fortunes. That is what every good man strives for- success. Now when it comes to dating, especially during the college years, I believe the reason why most relationships do not work out, is because how they came about.

Men are fairly simple creatures. They want good company and conversation, they want someone they can really be their TRUE selves around, they want a woman who will feed them and rock their worlds in the sack. Simple enough, but it’s usually never accomplished, because most of them can NEVER be their true selves around their women. And most of them resent the fact that they can’t do so.

Most men feel inadequate in this world. Which is why they lie about their status, how much they make, where they work and the such. The media, society and women do not make it any better. It’s hard out there for a Pimp! Lol… With all the images of dudes ballin out with hella hoes all over the tv screen, men in turn realize that the fastest way to get women, is to ball out. And they are right, some women are so shallow, all it takes it a dude with a nice car and clothes, and she’s dick ridin him hella hard!

What they do not realize though, is that those types of women, are truly the ones you should stay away from, because in essence, she’s with you for what you have- not who you are. This is the main way that men in turn, constantly feel used by women but like I always say- STOP trying to play Captain Save a Hoe to hoes that don’t wanna be saved. We also have loads of women who will verbalize and are very vocal about being with broke busters, so as a man, he has to step it up and he realizes that in order to get women, he must either acquire status… or lie about it. Which usually works!

Now, most men get caught up in the PUSSY=POWER extravaganza, only because they are thirsty, regular or Submissive males. An Alpha male, NEVER gets caught up, because there are no games. When dating, as a man, you usually have to pick a place, pay for it and entertain your chick. You also have to listen attentively and offer your two cents when it is asked of you. Now if you actually like this girl and want to really be with her, that is all fine and dandy. But I believe most of the men who are my peers, are not on this level yet.

You see, when men are in their prime, they aren’t trying to settle down. The ones that do, either have low self-esteems or aren’t getting any buns on the regular. I have surveyed more than a few dozen men, and when asked this question, 95% of them responded as I’d hoped.

The sample question was this… “Forget everything you know about society and dating- throw it out the window. Now if you had the choice, what would you chose? You could either be in a relationship with one girl, or you could be single and guaranteed sex, no strings ever, with as many women as you’d like- most women would never deny you. In fact, 9 outta 10 times, if you approach a girl for some ass, she’d say YES.”

Most men, picked the single option. So ladies are right in a sense… Most men, only DO want one thing. And if they could get it, they would have no reason to be in a relationship, until they got older, their testosterone levels dropped, and they finally know what they want. Most men, don’t want all the things that come with a relationship. Sure, they’d like the company and the pussy, but most men hate all the drama that comes along with that pussy.

What is funny about my sample question, is that men would love to live this type of way, almost never being denied. If they were almost never denied, they wouldn’t have a reason to settle down. The question though is derived from the way women are in this world. Women actually DO have this option, the option of either being taken or single and almost never denied dick. If women wanted, they COULD live this way, most just choose not to. Most have never thought about it that way… Drool Boys, I know you’re HATIN! Lol

So for men, the regular and Submissive’s, being that they usual work hard for the pussy- they have their own issues to attend to. Many of them have been rejected and in turn, they have low self-esteems. What is funny is that many of them, will settle with the first girl who is willing to give them ass on the regular! That is why they wanna lock that shit down. Not necessarily because they want to be in a relationship, but because they don’t have many options when it comes to sex partners and you come along and fuck em on the regular. That alone makes many men settle.

So, it’s is not necessarily that he wants to get serious and wants all the drama that comes with being with a most women (bitches are crazy lol), because he’d really rather go without it. Men being the easy creatures that they are, usually have very little will power, and will usually not deny a girl some of his dick- especially if he’s attracted to her. They have and exhibit very little self-control when faced with the scenario I previously stated. So, if men actually had it the way women did when it comes to those options, relationships probably wouldn’t start until people were in their late 20’s.

Now when men date women, it is all about the front, mainly because you have no idea what kind of chick you are with. Many men will sit there, front, and lie about what they have, like a peacock parading around proudly showing his colorful feathers, in hopes of attracting a mate. This is mainly because the media and bitches make it hard for a man to get and attract women, if you’re not balling out. So most men will lie about all that shit, in hopes of impressing a girl enough.

Sure, many men DO just want pussy. Some will be forthcoming and many more, will be sneaky about the whole thing. The main thing they like to say is “I just wanna get to know you”… that is also about the only thing they really say. So if he says some shit like that, then it’s definitely all about the pussy. And sure, he may take you out on a few dates, but he’s usually trying to get that by the 3rd or 4th date. If he doesn’t get it, many of them move on. But for some, you have become a challenge that they have accepted, and they will then do almost anything to get that pussy. Even if it means getting into a relationship with you.

Men who are serious about a woman, will take their time, and show her the upmost respect… even if he’s extra attracted to her and has already fucked her 50 times in his mind. He is chivalrous, and most importantly, he will court you properly. Men who have reached this stage, are serious about settling down, and they usually know exactly what they want and what they expect from their woman. Men will ONLY get to this stage on their own- and no amount of persuading, or pussy, will change that.

Now men in relationships, we’re gunna break it down into two sections- real and fake relationships. Fake relationships are what many men have in their teens and early 20’s. I say they are fake because most of them, if they had the chance to fuck any chick they want at any time- most would chose to do so over a relationship any day! So men in fake relationships, sure lots of them don’t care and many will lie and cheat. Many of them can’t stand their girlfriends- but, it is constant pussy, so many of them stay… Until something better comes along that is.

Now men in real relationships, who actually know what they want and want to settle down- those are gems. Those are the “good men” women claim they seek. What most men have to deal with in relationships is crazy though. Like I said before, most men, want more than anything to be able to be himself around you. He wants to be able to break down the walls and relax. Most of them can’t though, because the type of women they are with, never allows that to happen.

These men may stay around, like I said, many of them stay for the constant pussy, but many of them start to resent their other halves. It gets tiring and annoying, when you can never be real with the person you love. It also gets tiring and annoying, when it becomes a project every time you are real with a bitch. Like I said men are ill equipped and women DO NOT make it easy. Believe me when I say that some of your boyfriends and husbands deserve head all night long, just for putting up with your crazy ass shit.

Now on to sex, my favorite topic of course ;) I felt the need to address this area when it comes to men because this is something that is never talked about, and I feel that women SHOULD know this. Any woman who have ever strapped up, and fucked someone, can sympathize and will know what the fuck I’m talking about. Men spend an enormous amount of energy and strength, just to fuck you right. The amount of work that men do, the stamina that some of them have- I COMMEND YOU! Women REALLY don’t know what it is like to fuck like a man, so if your man is fucking you right… treat him nice, he works hard!

Sure, there are MANY men who don’t fuck their women right, if they did, more women would know what the Big O REALLY feels like. But like I stated before there are advantages AND disadvantages to being a beast in the sheets. If you are serious about your chick, and you want to keep her at bay- BLOW HER BACK OUT! That shit will calm her ass down, seriously, I promise. Women who are sexually happy, only become more enthralled with their men, and the power their pussy has over the situation breaks. I’ll explain more about what happens in the next blog when I break down Alpha’s, Submissive’s and Everyone Else.

Now the negative impact that this can have, is if you are doing you’re woman wrong. If you do her wrong, or plan on doing so, please, DO NOT fuck her all crazy. I swear that the craziness levels in women increase, the better you fuck them. So if you blow her back out, and then do her dirty- she WILL make your life a living hell. And it’s mainly because she is PISSED you gave away that good dick- I don’t entirely blame her.

In conclusion, men are simple creatures, they want to be able to be themselves and they want a woman to fuck them right. Sure, many of them lie just to get to the pussy, but women don’t make it easy for a regular man to get some action too. They work hard, just as hard as women and harder in the sack (some of them), so for a woman to feel entitled to his ends- get a new hustle Gold Digger… its 2010. Sure, many of them don’t even want relationships, many of them are “trapped” into relationships, JUST cuz you give them pussy on the regular. Most don’t know what it is they want yet, but one day he will- hopefully.

Until next time kiddies… Stay tuned for the breakdown of societies Alpha’s, Submissive’s and Everyone Else.