What Drives us to want Relationships?

Throughout history, relationships of all kinds have been important to not only our expanding world, but our inner selves. What drives both men and women to want these relationships though, all stems from the very way we were raised. At one point in history, when religion became more prevalent in government affairs, the rules of engagement were also constructed. You must understand that although the institution of marriage is not a new idea, at one point, most were not completely concerned with it.

In the 1800’s America itself was host to some of the world’s craziest brothels, and some of the world’s craziest whores. There was one woman who was said to be so skilled in fellatio, that if she didn’t bring you to the Promised Land in a minute or less… you got your money back! Imagine for a minute just how SICK her head game must have been. Men travelled from all across the land to see her!

In the olden days, women were more in control of their sexualities. They knew what they were worth and what they possessed! Many took to the life as a courtesan because married life seemed rather dreary. As a courtesan, the world was her oyster. She could do as she wished. Now, in the early 1900’s there was a wave of fear that swept the nation and sex became a very shameful thing. Even masturbation was said to make you crazy. This has filtered through to our modern days.

This was truly when religion became the front runner, and many things changed in the way we view sexuality and ourselves. I began this with a bit of a sexuality lesson mainly because sexuality is at the very root of it all. It is one of our most basic needs and it is innate! Sexuality, believe it or not is the driving force behind many issues faced today in relationships.

Now… what exactly drives men/women to extend themselves to want relationships? First of all, it ALL begins when we are children. Personally, I am the oldest of four children, but what is worse is that I am the oldest AND the only girl. I remember growing up and always being told that my virginity should be kept intact until marriage. That is was very special and that I should only do it with someone I loved. I got told this all while growing up, right up until puberty.

That was when my Daddy sat me down and gave me the realest talk ever. I will never forget. He told me, sex was very natural and that my hormones would be raging. He said, he would like it if I waited until I was older, and felt ready… but that he understood that things happen and with or without his consent… I would do it whenever the hell I wanted. He then proceeded to tell me all about STDs and more importantly protection. “Do what u want, but don’t come home pregnant. I don’t want no grandbabies.” I’ll never forget.

On the contrary though, my brothers were taught right from the start that they should run through every bitch that offers the pussy. No rules, no regard. I was the oldest, yet anytime a love scene in a movie happened, I had to shut my eyes and they got to watch. They were taught to sow their wild oats! They weren’t taught that if they wanted to have sex, they should be in a committed relationship… They were taught that if they wanted sex, they should lie, cheat and steal in the pursuit of pussy!

THAT in essence is the reason why women are so driven to want a relationship. Hormonally speaking, it is true that most normal women do not want the physical aspect of sex the way men do. What women yearn for instead is the intimacy felt while in the act. Many normal women want intimacy more than anything. Women want relationships because they are TAUGHT to want them. Many feel that they can’t have sex with a man they don’t love or feel for. THIS stems from childhood when we are taught all that bullshit about only having sex with men we love and/or are married to. It is drilled in our heads, and as adults, many women take those lessons with them and never make it outside the box.

You see, it is not that women don’t want sex. Women want sex too, and some just as much as men. BUT, for most women, it is hard for them to have sex outside of a relationship because of how they were raised. THIS is why women yearn for relationships… They feel that is the only way they can even fuck! So sad.

Men on the other hand are raised for the most part to be providers and protectors. Their main goal in life is to reach success in their eyes. Most men feel that they can’t be in a serious relationship until they have either reached that goal or are well on their way there. Men have sex purely to serve their physical needs. They aren’t driven to want relationships the way women do.

A fantastic book of reference for you women would be Steve Harvey’s “Think Like a Man, Act Like a Lady”. Seriously, it’s probably one of the only books I’ve read written by a man that was pretty much dead on with just about everything. He breaks down exactly what drives men and what they want. I’ll tell you one thing though, as I’ve said before, most men under the age of 25 are NOT seeking commitment. They are seeking careers, prestige and good pussy.

In today’s modern world with all that Independent women shit, guess what most women should ALSO be after… Careers, prestige and good dick. That’s a problem for most women mainly because they feel they need relationships to have sex. But TRUST, ya bitches got the game twisted! I see so many women complaining about their sex lives, or lack thereof… BUT seriously, the ONLY one who is getting in the way of YOU fucking… is YOU!

See while men are driven to want sex, and only commit once they are happy with themselves in life… women are driven to want relationships right off the bat! They equate that their sexualities and needs can only be met while in a relationship. SO… THIS is why women want them so bad! It is why they yearn for them. It is why she will fuck around and make you wait, or why she’ll be stuck on you once you do fuck. She was programmed that way!

Ladies… take a good look at yourself. Take a good look at your lives. Take a good look at YOUR wants, YOUR needs, YOUR desires. We are on the verge of 2011. IF you want to fuck, then like Nike, Just Do It! The only one who is holding you back from satisfaction, is you. You let your emotions and fears dictate your actions, and because of this, you will almost always feel as if you’ve lost. You will feel used and sometimes abused.

It is time to change the way you FEEL and they way you THINK of yourselves. Make decisions because of what YOU want, not what you have been told you SHOULD want. Think for yourself! Really, I want EVERY woman who reads this to take a GOOD look at themselves and how they lead their lives. Are you depriving yourself of your most innate needs? Probably.

To conclude, men will be men, but women will be women. What drives us to do many things in life stems from society’s standards in correlation with our upbringing. In order to understand ourselves better and what exactly is driving us takes some time and self evaluating. But, this much is true, men will ONLY settle once they are happy with themselves and women will ALWAYS settle just so they can get laid. Yea, that’s a damn shame… but nonetheless, it is the TRUTH! Until women can think and fuck outside the box, they will forever more be miserable bitches who get no dick.