We live in a world where many people strive every day of their waking lives to be an individual. People try to develop their own styles, their own phrases, their own traits, their personalities. Yet, the media, the press, the internet set thousands of trends yearly, and worldwide for that matter. Celebrities are walking billboards for trends, and are modeled by many people. Therefore, when new trends are seen, people flock to them.
This goes more much deeper than the clichéd celebrities doing and wearing some new “cool” thing. It goes to the very heart of individualism, and deep down into the self. Who we are as individuals is an elusive thing. I say this because although many claim their stake at being an individual, many are sheep!
There are many of us who do NOT know who we TRULY are… deep down inside, behind the surface fronts. I think it’s ridiculous that many people live in the dream worlds they have created. They live in their front, and believe it to be true. They lie so much, front so much that eventually, it becomes their alter ego in a sense. They start to BELIEVE their own lies.
What I believe is that once upon a time, we all had a sense of self. As we grew older, we began to realize that in order to survive or maintain in this world, a front must be created, like I said, an alter ego. What happens though, is that many resent who they TRULY are therefore they formulate fronts sampled off of who they would like to be.
Many people don’t like who they REALLY are, so they live in the worlds they create for themselves. Yes. Many hold feelings involving self-hate. The formulation of a front is a way to escape who you TRULY are as a person. Yet, what they don’t realize is that you can’t run and hide forever. In order to be the person you picture yourself being, changes must occur and you must first start from within.
Yet, this is not just about fronting in general, it’s about what these fronts represent and how they are formulated. Most people have fronts they formulate after things deemed socially accepted at the moment in time. They then form lies to support this and put the act on and their front becomes who they are in the eyes of others.
Most people I seem to encounter though, don’t know who they truly are anymore. They have yet to take the journey to Grown-up Land. This journey doesn’t have complete set rules, as to when and how it will occur. Most of us don’t take the boat when it comes, instead, we stay where we are and never fully mentally take it to the next step.
It all begins with the self. Self-discovery is a wondrous thing, and it can be completely shocking and mind blowing. Sometimes, you’re not going to always like who you TRULY are as a person, deep inside. You meditate on yourself and delve deep into who you are, what you want from life, what your expectations are, your future. The deeper you dig, the more you start to realize who you are. Once you know who you are, you can make changes to becoming a better you.
Until that happens though, you begin to analyze who you are, why certain things have occurred, and more importantly, who your friends are. Most of the time, the people that gravitate towards us, happen to share similar traits with us. When you analyze yourself and start to get the bigger picture, you realize that in order to succeed, negativity must be extracted from your life.
This negativity comes in different forms, most often in character traits. When you notice the negative in you, you notice the negativity your friends possess too. This is the same time you will learn that people in your life play different roles, and they should be categorized into sections. You learn that not all can be trusted, but all play a significant role.
You will have friends you will ONLY party with, yet never share secrets with. There will be friends who feel like are your kindred spirits. There are many roles to be played, and you will realize this. You will realize that not all that smile, smile genuinely and that misery does love company. Yet what will be the deciding factor in keeping certain people closer than others will be on your vision of your future. This is because you’ll learn that birds of a feather really do flock together.
If you wish to be successful, you must surround yourself with successful people. You must surround yourself with positive people. People who share your vision of life. People who share your true interest. This positivity will help you become the person you see in your future. The negativity though, needs to be cut and for most people, this is the hardest thing to do.
You see, when you finally realize what has been holding you back, you become conscious that many of your closest friends possess the very same qualities you’re trying to rid yourself of. What does this mean for many of these friends? Well, you can either help them better themselves or cut them off. Most people will have to be cut off.
These are the people, who bring the constant drama into your life. The people who, love it, live it and keep it going. The same people MUST be cut off to succeed. If your life were a garden, these people would be the snakes and weasels infesting it.
Many of these people are secret haters, who hate on your success. Many are two-faced and talk shit behind your back. In many cases, whether or not you are aware of this, most people, won’t cut these people off. Instead, they keep them around and ultimately do damage to themselves. Understand that many of them are serious poison to who we are and what we’d like to grown into becoming.
Another reason people won’t cut people off, that I’ve witnessed, and it STILL baffles me is the amount of people who LOVE the drama. The excitement, the stirring of people, the gossip, people seem to love it all. This is why tabloids sell so much, why people love TMZ and reality television. They love the fucking drama. Some people live for this shit and feel like their lives are empty and boring without the drama to make it exciting.
This has been evident many of times, during my observations. I’ve seen people who were NOT happy in a relationship that had no arguments. They would go as far as cheat, just to create some drama in their lives. I’ve seen people get sucked into the drama of others and sit there not wanting to rise and leave the show. All in all though, know that this is NOT normal and should not be the lives we wish to live.
Yet, it stuns me every time I hear someone who loves the drama claim that they don’t. If you have never sat down and analyzed who YOU are as a person, you should. You never know what you’re going to find, but I warn you that many of us are hypocrites, and we don’t even know it!
The last note on that is that growing up and cutting the drama out of your life can be BORING at times. Yes, it can be. It can be lonely when you realize you’ve cut all your friends off and you’re home alone on a Friday night. My best advice for these trying times is the following: 1. Make NEW friends who are positive people and share your goals and 2. Idleness IS the devils playground, when you are busy, these things just don’t bother you. So take up a new hobby, read, learn something new, either way, spend your time as constructive as possible.
Back to fronting and the formulation of them…. So, the media and our peers DO have a HUGE say as to what we portray ourselves to be. Men want to be more suave to get all the bad bitches, so they front like they big balling. In all actuality though, they broke and live with their mama. Women front like they don’t wanna fuck, but in all actuality… many of them do!
My favorite trend front is the one where girls claim they’re bisexual. Bisexuality for women is a hot topic and many men would give their left nut for a ménage, so what do these chicks do? Lie and claim bisexuality to appeal to men. This one really ticks me off and as a bisexual woman, I’d like to take the time now to say this: if you have NEVER eaten some pussy, then you ain’t bisexual…. PERIOD! You fronting ass bi-curious bitches help give real bisexuals a bad name.
There are plenty of examples that I could run through, but instead, I’d like you to just think about it. Open your eyes, look around and analyze what goes on around you and you’ll see the trend fronters. They are all around us and most people are sheep to them, as they flock to these trends making them even more popular.
You see, most people, no matter how unique they think they are, are really sheep. They go with the times and follow the trends. Most of our feelings about certain topics in society, the way we feel about ourselves and others… have all been formulated by others. If certain things were not set in place, we would think about life and people in a completely different way.
If there were no double standards amongst the genders, if the current dating and mating rituals didn’t exist, if there was no media…. What kind of a world would we live in? A completely different one. If someone hadn’t deemed something good or bad hundreds of years ago, would the world be the same today? No.
These ideas and theories didn’t just come from thin air. They did not formulate over night, and a lot of the ideas, theories and stigmas we carry today were decided way back when. The way that many men and women view one another, wouldn’t be the same if society and the powers that be hadn’t stepped in and molded it that way.
These are things that should be thought of during self-discovery. You shouldn’t just analyze yourself and your actions, but all those around you. You should question things. You should try to think of things from different perspectives… not just the black and white areas, but the entire spectrum. Broadening yourself, and your mind will broaden your horizons and ultimately broaden who you are as a person.
So, before you run off and tell people how you’re different from others, wait. Think about who you are, and what makes you so different. What are your strongest character traits? What is your personality like? What do you have to offer a mate? (Real talk, you CANT ask for shit that you don’t possess.)
To wrap it all up, growing up is HARD to do, and many of us will never mentally achieve that goal. Some of us are too busy following trends and fronting like our lives depend on it. Some of us love the drama that surrounds us and just can’t seem to function normally without it. Yet, at the end of the day, before you can call yourself a SHEPHERD, you need to know WHO you really are, behind the mask. Soul searching can be tedious, it can be shocking, and tiring, but at the end of the day understanding yourself helps you better understand those around you. So, next time your alone and have some time to delve into yourself, ask yourself this… Are you a SHEPHERD or a SHEEP?
Monday, October 19, 2009
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Teen Pregnancy & Hood Babies
After a conversation with a friend [hi j =)], I felt the need to rant and rave about this subject matter. I would like to start off by saying- this is ALL A VICIOUS CYCLE and that IGNORANCE IS BLISS.
Well, off to the conversation that sparked my rant… So, my homeboy hits me up and asks me to read this conversation he had been having and so I read on. Now, the jist of it all was that the female was upset and went as far as to say literally, “what‘s wrong with you,” when he stated that he had no children at the age of 27.
She went on to say that she does not know ANYONE over the age of 16, who does not have at least ONE child. I say- WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THAT PICTURE! Now, in the hood, its true to say that there are an alarming number of teen pregnancy and single- parent households.
What is CRAZY is that 100, 50, even 30 years ago- in society, if you were a teen mother, a single-parent, had children out of wed lock, or got a divorce- you were SCRUTINIZED! Women were seen as whores for having children out of wedlock and being teen mothers, their children were ridiculed in school, and lets not even go to what they thought of you if you got a divorce.
What I believe is wrong is that these things have become an ACCEPTABLE part of society- and maybe not society as a whole, but it is definitely acceptable in the hood. It has become acceptable to become a teen mother and it is even ENCOURAGED! What the fuck happened to parents wanting better for their children? This concept has gone DOWN the fucking drain. What society is stuck with is children having children- and not just one child… but a shit load of them.
Now, it’s one thing if you had a child- it may or may not of been a mistake, and you REALIZE how hard it REALLY is and strive to make your life and the life of your child better. You work, you go to school- you handle your handle. I commend you women who work full-time, go to college at night and have a child(ren) to go home to after. I personally have classes with many women like this (and I don’t know how you do it)… You women are fierce warriors- Stay Strong and Keep Doing You! But… not everyone is as smart- the ignorant bitches continue to populate our planet and what happens to these hood babies (yes, I said hood babies)?
First of all, teens having children- you must understand that children are EXPENSIVE! Children will probably be what you spend the most money on in your entire lifetime. And if you don’t have a job- you should NOT be having a damn baby. I believe that you shouldn’t even THINK of having children until you are financially secure, but guess what- you dumb fucks will NEVER be financially secure if you keep having children every other year.
Secondly, think of what damage you are placing upon your child- children who live in poverty, are less likely to develop as quickly cognitively, socially and emotionally. Now what do these big words mean- they mean when you’re not financially secure- the child is affected even more than you are.
Children are not exposed to as much- something even as simple as a book. Socially- hood babies spend waaay too much time watching shit on tv that is not age appropriate, they are allowed to talk in certain ways, and are not taught basic social skills. Emotionally- you IGNORANT ASS BITCHES spend entirely too much time talking to your children in DISGUSTING ways.
When you put a child down, call them names, curse them out, or degrade them- you are not only destroying their self-image and self-esteem, but you are also setting an example for them to model… and it IS considered child abuse- it’s called VERBAL ABUSE bitches! And, you would know this… if you got some type of higher education- but you didn’t, instead, you chose to increase the population, and destroy the lives of your children. Now when these children go to school, they experience the most difficulty- socially, and academically. There are a lot of aspects tied into poverty.
Thirdly, teenage girls- you are not done developing yet, and you are actually FUCKING UP your body every time you get pregnant and/or have an abortion. Fourth, babies do not come with INSTRUCTION MANUELS- and chances are that if you’re in high school, you know VERY LITTLE about properly rearing children. And guess what, if you’re one of those people in the cycle- your parent knows absolutely nothing about rearing children (look at how the fuck you came out).
And if you helped raised the hood babies produced around you- that doesn’t count! You are not learning proper anything and should not be following those examples. Word of advice- PICK UP A FUCKING BOOK AND READ IT! I’ve known grown ass people with CAREERS, not a fucking job, a profession- who know SHIT about raising a baby- and they were college educated. Now, what the fuck makes YOU think YOU know anything?
Next, I need to address the parents of these broads. In the hood- it’s likely that you’ll find a girl, her mother and grandmother all under the age of 50. Why? Because this behavior has been condoned and is acceptable. You should want more and expect more from your children. You should want them to break the cycle… but you don’t because you’re a SELFISH bitch yourself.
I’ve seen mothers HATE on their children when they were doing better for themselves. I’m sorry, I don’t give a fuck if your rich or poor- EVERYONE has the same opportunities- you just have to want it. There is NO FUCKING EXCUSE for not receiving a higher education of some type- and not just college and there is NO FUCKING EXCUSE for not having a high school diploma.
We are living in an age where a high school diploma is even becoming obsolete- go ahead and try to get a decent job with just a high school diploma and see what happens. You have to plan for your future and most importantly the future of your offspring. In the hood, it is acceptable to live at home with your mom and your five kids and its acceptable because these fucking PARENTS are accepting it.
Understand that helping your kid out is one thing, but doing everything for them is something completely different. For these teens, it’s like nothing has ever changed and they do not feel the full weight of the responsibility they have because they have someone there to help them out.
I know bitches who go out every weekend and leave their kids with their parent… WTF is this? Everyone needs some me time, space and time to unwind- but not ALL the time. Know that when you have a child- there is NO YOU ANYMORE… it’s is ALL FOR THEM! I think that’s why they continue to have so many children, for they do not know the weight of such a responsibility- if they did BELIEVE ME they would stop at one.
By helping them out so much and being their crutch- they are actually becoming hindered in their natural progression through life. You are basically saying- sure, it’s ok to have a baby, even if you’re only 15- but, it’s NOT ok and should NOT be accepted.
Lastly, is the cycle of welfare. Now, I’m all for getting the government for what it’s worth- IF, you are trying to better your life. What I have a problem with is the bitches who have a million kids so they can stay on welfare FOREVER. You bitches are fucking lazy.
How about doing something CONSTRUCTIVE with your time, instead of being at the club all the time, shopping, gossiping and getting your hair and nails did. How about while you’re on welfare, you go back to school- THEY PAY FOR IT. How about you go and learn a trade? How about you acquire a skill of some kind? This would ensure a brighter future for both you and your children. But… you don’t do it. Why? Because you’re a LAZY ASS BITCH! There is absolutely no other damn excuse for not bettering yourself, and I DON’T RESPECT YOU!
Damn…. This was longer than I expected, but fuck it, two tears in a bucket. What have we learned? 1- There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with someone who does not have children and is older than 25. If anything, these are the SMART people- who will ensure that their future and the future of their children is not a fucked up one. 2- People need to stop condoning teen pregnancy. Its fucking wrong- kids, should not be having kids. You are not ready- physically or mentally. If you think you are, think again- cuz your fucking delusional. (on a side note: teens who are hell bent on having children have problems that are deeply rooted psychologically- and these problems NEED to be addressed). And 3- WRAP IT UP! People need to start talking to their children about sex.. I know it may be uncomfortable, but they need to know FACTS. Whether or not you believe it- your kids are gunna fuck with, or without your consent. The best thing you can do for your children as parents is to EDUACTE them so they can make the RIGHT decision and at least use a condom.
Well, off to the conversation that sparked my rant… So, my homeboy hits me up and asks me to read this conversation he had been having and so I read on. Now, the jist of it all was that the female was upset and went as far as to say literally, “what‘s wrong with you,” when he stated that he had no children at the age of 27.
She went on to say that she does not know ANYONE over the age of 16, who does not have at least ONE child. I say- WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THAT PICTURE! Now, in the hood, its true to say that there are an alarming number of teen pregnancy and single- parent households.
What is CRAZY is that 100, 50, even 30 years ago- in society, if you were a teen mother, a single-parent, had children out of wed lock, or got a divorce- you were SCRUTINIZED! Women were seen as whores for having children out of wedlock and being teen mothers, their children were ridiculed in school, and lets not even go to what they thought of you if you got a divorce.
What I believe is wrong is that these things have become an ACCEPTABLE part of society- and maybe not society as a whole, but it is definitely acceptable in the hood. It has become acceptable to become a teen mother and it is even ENCOURAGED! What the fuck happened to parents wanting better for their children? This concept has gone DOWN the fucking drain. What society is stuck with is children having children- and not just one child… but a shit load of them.
Now, it’s one thing if you had a child- it may or may not of been a mistake, and you REALIZE how hard it REALLY is and strive to make your life and the life of your child better. You work, you go to school- you handle your handle. I commend you women who work full-time, go to college at night and have a child(ren) to go home to after. I personally have classes with many women like this (and I don’t know how you do it)… You women are fierce warriors- Stay Strong and Keep Doing You! But… not everyone is as smart- the ignorant bitches continue to populate our planet and what happens to these hood babies (yes, I said hood babies)?
First of all, teens having children- you must understand that children are EXPENSIVE! Children will probably be what you spend the most money on in your entire lifetime. And if you don’t have a job- you should NOT be having a damn baby. I believe that you shouldn’t even THINK of having children until you are financially secure, but guess what- you dumb fucks will NEVER be financially secure if you keep having children every other year.
Secondly, think of what damage you are placing upon your child- children who live in poverty, are less likely to develop as quickly cognitively, socially and emotionally. Now what do these big words mean- they mean when you’re not financially secure- the child is affected even more than you are.
Children are not exposed to as much- something even as simple as a book. Socially- hood babies spend waaay too much time watching shit on tv that is not age appropriate, they are allowed to talk in certain ways, and are not taught basic social skills. Emotionally- you IGNORANT ASS BITCHES spend entirely too much time talking to your children in DISGUSTING ways.
When you put a child down, call them names, curse them out, or degrade them- you are not only destroying their self-image and self-esteem, but you are also setting an example for them to model… and it IS considered child abuse- it’s called VERBAL ABUSE bitches! And, you would know this… if you got some type of higher education- but you didn’t, instead, you chose to increase the population, and destroy the lives of your children. Now when these children go to school, they experience the most difficulty- socially, and academically. There are a lot of aspects tied into poverty.
Thirdly, teenage girls- you are not done developing yet, and you are actually FUCKING UP your body every time you get pregnant and/or have an abortion. Fourth, babies do not come with INSTRUCTION MANUELS- and chances are that if you’re in high school, you know VERY LITTLE about properly rearing children. And guess what, if you’re one of those people in the cycle- your parent knows absolutely nothing about rearing children (look at how the fuck you came out).
And if you helped raised the hood babies produced around you- that doesn’t count! You are not learning proper anything and should not be following those examples. Word of advice- PICK UP A FUCKING BOOK AND READ IT! I’ve known grown ass people with CAREERS, not a fucking job, a profession- who know SHIT about raising a baby- and they were college educated. Now, what the fuck makes YOU think YOU know anything?
Next, I need to address the parents of these broads. In the hood- it’s likely that you’ll find a girl, her mother and grandmother all under the age of 50. Why? Because this behavior has been condoned and is acceptable. You should want more and expect more from your children. You should want them to break the cycle… but you don’t because you’re a SELFISH bitch yourself.
I’ve seen mothers HATE on their children when they were doing better for themselves. I’m sorry, I don’t give a fuck if your rich or poor- EVERYONE has the same opportunities- you just have to want it. There is NO FUCKING EXCUSE for not receiving a higher education of some type- and not just college and there is NO FUCKING EXCUSE for not having a high school diploma.
We are living in an age where a high school diploma is even becoming obsolete- go ahead and try to get a decent job with just a high school diploma and see what happens. You have to plan for your future and most importantly the future of your offspring. In the hood, it is acceptable to live at home with your mom and your five kids and its acceptable because these fucking PARENTS are accepting it.
Understand that helping your kid out is one thing, but doing everything for them is something completely different. For these teens, it’s like nothing has ever changed and they do not feel the full weight of the responsibility they have because they have someone there to help them out.
I know bitches who go out every weekend and leave their kids with their parent… WTF is this? Everyone needs some me time, space and time to unwind- but not ALL the time. Know that when you have a child- there is NO YOU ANYMORE… it’s is ALL FOR THEM! I think that’s why they continue to have so many children, for they do not know the weight of such a responsibility- if they did BELIEVE ME they would stop at one.
By helping them out so much and being their crutch- they are actually becoming hindered in their natural progression through life. You are basically saying- sure, it’s ok to have a baby, even if you’re only 15- but, it’s NOT ok and should NOT be accepted.
Lastly, is the cycle of welfare. Now, I’m all for getting the government for what it’s worth- IF, you are trying to better your life. What I have a problem with is the bitches who have a million kids so they can stay on welfare FOREVER. You bitches are fucking lazy.
How about doing something CONSTRUCTIVE with your time, instead of being at the club all the time, shopping, gossiping and getting your hair and nails did. How about while you’re on welfare, you go back to school- THEY PAY FOR IT. How about you go and learn a trade? How about you acquire a skill of some kind? This would ensure a brighter future for both you and your children. But… you don’t do it. Why? Because you’re a LAZY ASS BITCH! There is absolutely no other damn excuse for not bettering yourself, and I DON’T RESPECT YOU!
Damn…. This was longer than I expected, but fuck it, two tears in a bucket. What have we learned? 1- There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with someone who does not have children and is older than 25. If anything, these are the SMART people- who will ensure that their future and the future of their children is not a fucked up one. 2- People need to stop condoning teen pregnancy. Its fucking wrong- kids, should not be having kids. You are not ready- physically or mentally. If you think you are, think again- cuz your fucking delusional. (on a side note: teens who are hell bent on having children have problems that are deeply rooted psychologically- and these problems NEED to be addressed). And 3- WRAP IT UP! People need to start talking to their children about sex.. I know it may be uncomfortable, but they need to know FACTS. Whether or not you believe it- your kids are gunna fuck with, or without your consent. The best thing you can do for your children as parents is to EDUACTE them so they can make the RIGHT decision and at least use a condom.
He's Alright, But He's NOT REAL!
I believe that in today’s society… it is becoming increasingly hard to find someone who is REAL and GENUINE. But, unfortunately this is not where it stops. We also have to think about the millions of people who walk the face this earth everyday and live in these little Delusional Lie Worlds they have created. Men, women… its all the same because when you REALLY look at it, no one side can be blamed. They both go hand in hand and in fact, build on each other. Know that both men and women do this shit but today we will address men, just keep in mind that this shit is definitely interchangable.
Men… lie about stupid shit. Shit that isn’t even significant such as your status, where you work, what you drive, how much you make, whether or not u have kids (to those that do this one- STOP NOT CLAIMING YOUR KIDS FUCKTARDS- its not they‘re fault they are spawn to such an incompetent ass as yourself), where you live at, blah, blah, blah… and what’s the point of all this??? To make YOURSELF seem more desirable then what you really are (ladies realize this: you are part of the reason why men feel they need to lie). Men lie to make themselves look good. They want to get “the bad bitches” and they will lie about any and everything in order to attain her.
Now, this would work out for them if they were just fucking the chick and keeping it moving (hey, all is fair in love & fuckin and it doesn’t really matter what you tell a 1 night stand or a jump off for that matter- the bitch don’t even need to know your real name) but it doesn’t just stop there. No you end up getting close with a bitch and now that’s your “wifey”. Well, guess what? Wifey’s gunna be pissed when she finds out her dream man works at Game Stop *( ;) @ S.), lives at home with his momma, drives her car and has 2 kids he ain’t NEVER mention. And what does she do when she finds out? Hopefully leave your sorry ass for lying about STUPID shit… but most of you IGNORANT broads stay with a nigga after finding out he done lied to you about all that shit.
I SAY: if a PERSON can lie about things as insignificant as where they work at and who they live with- shit, they can LIE ABOUT ANYTHING!!!!
Men, I understand how hard it can be chasing after the bad bitches- but you need to understand some thing’s about bitches… 1- a REAL bitch doesn’t care about the little things, especially in the beginning (if a bitch is asking you how much you make and where you work at and you JUST met her- LEAVE THAT GOLD DIGGIN BITCH ALONE- it will result ONLY in sorrow for you and fuller pockets for her), 2- Realize this: a bitch KNOWS whether or not she’d give you the pussy after a minute of seeing you. Shit, she may WANT TO give you the pussy… and YOUR MAIN GOAL is to not fuck that up. This means by not doing or saying anything that would make her look at you like you’s a crazy ass mofo. And guess what, most of the time- if she wanna fuck you- she doesn’t even care how much you spend on her, cuz she’ll FUCK YOU ANYWAY.
Ok, so now that you have lied, you have definitely SABOTAGED your relationship if it happens to go beyond fuckin or if you just lied to get her to begin with. What will your relationship be based on? LIES… all lies. And you two will never have that extra deep connection because you don’t know who each other really is. If you done lied to a bitch to get at her and then got her, the least you can do is keep it real with her and let her know who YOU really are. Its NOT FAIR that you know her and she doesn’t know you nor is it fair that you TRICKED her into being with you (how about showing her who you truly are and then letting HER decide if she REALLY does wanna be with you). Its also NOT FAIR that you are parading around like a WOLF IN SHEEP’S CLOTHING, because that is EXACTLY what you are- a damn impersonator (thanks J. lol). And in the end, you may be aight… but YOU AIN’T REAL!
Whatever, so you LIED and got you the “bad bitch”… but now what? You basically have to keep up this front as long as humanly possible in order to keep her… more work than you ever thought it would be. As a result, she will not know who you truly are as a person, but eventually you will begin to show your true colors. All I’m saying is DO NOT be upset, surprised or angry if the bitch wanna leave your silly ass- she was never with YOU anyways, her ass was with your made up character. And I must address all you SILLY HOES who stay with the men who have lied to you about all this important shit…
Realize this: he IS a fucking liar and has the capacity to do so at any given time, and I know that its hard cuz you’re attached, you don’t wanna be lonely… blah, blah, blah but KNOW THIS- you were NEVER really in love/love/liked HIM anyways, it was his LIES that kept you open. And I KNOW ya bitches have a PROBLEM separating emotions and fucking and your silly ass wanna be addicted to HIS pipe game, but TRUTH BE TOLD: FOR EVERY NIGGA WHO FUCKED ME PROPER, THERE WAS 5 NIGGAS BEHIND HIM WHO COULD SERVE ME BETTER!!! And that’s REAL TALK!
How I see it… Men, how do you ever expect to find that REAL bitch, and REAL love if your ass is lying about every and any thing? How do you ever expect a chick to love you for who YOU are if your ass never let her know who you are. If you have to front and make yourself seem like your worth more than you really are- that’s sad, you need a damn hug and some fucking CONFIDENCE (it goes a looooong way niggas).
See this is exactly why I be on some “I don’t give a fuck” shit…. Why? Cuz at the end of the day- you either gunna fuck with me or you’re not. Truth be told 9 out of 10 times… you’re gunna fuck with me. I don’t like surprises which is why I try to throw all my cards on the table and let a mofo know from the door how this shit is gunna go. If he don’t like it… fuck em, but like I said, 9 out of 10 times… its going down. Niggas, you need to realize that bitches wanna fuck just as much as you do (maybe not all of em, but most of em). Bitches who say otherwise… ARE LYING TO THEIR DAMN SELVES. They KNOW they wanna fuck, they just don’t wanna be deemed a “slut, whore, hoe, jump, smut, etc…” so they are careful of how they go about it. *Ladies: it is 2009, get with it… if niggas can do them, so can you- and you are none the lesser for it*
Moral of the story kids is: KEEP IT A FUCKIN HUNDRED! Learn to keep it real with yourselves so that you can be real with others. Fellas: don’t be so quick to lie to a bitch- you may have just found the woman of your dreams, but a REAL bitch will NOT TOLERATE being lied to. Bitches: Stop condoning these lying ass niggas… if he’s a liar, take the L, and drop him like a bad habit. No, he’s not gunna change and its so sad that your still holding on to some hope that he will… and hop off his dick shorty- its not that serious and like I said- there’s ALWAYS gunna be someone else who does it better.
Men… lie about stupid shit. Shit that isn’t even significant such as your status, where you work, what you drive, how much you make, whether or not u have kids (to those that do this one- STOP NOT CLAIMING YOUR KIDS FUCKTARDS- its not they‘re fault they are spawn to such an incompetent ass as yourself), where you live at, blah, blah, blah… and what’s the point of all this??? To make YOURSELF seem more desirable then what you really are (ladies realize this: you are part of the reason why men feel they need to lie). Men lie to make themselves look good. They want to get “the bad bitches” and they will lie about any and everything in order to attain her.
Now, this would work out for them if they were just fucking the chick and keeping it moving (hey, all is fair in love & fuckin and it doesn’t really matter what you tell a 1 night stand or a jump off for that matter- the bitch don’t even need to know your real name) but it doesn’t just stop there. No you end up getting close with a bitch and now that’s your “wifey”. Well, guess what? Wifey’s gunna be pissed when she finds out her dream man works at Game Stop *( ;) @ S.), lives at home with his momma, drives her car and has 2 kids he ain’t NEVER mention. And what does she do when she finds out? Hopefully leave your sorry ass for lying about STUPID shit… but most of you IGNORANT broads stay with a nigga after finding out he done lied to you about all that shit.
I SAY: if a PERSON can lie about things as insignificant as where they work at and who they live with- shit, they can LIE ABOUT ANYTHING!!!!
Men, I understand how hard it can be chasing after the bad bitches- but you need to understand some thing’s about bitches… 1- a REAL bitch doesn’t care about the little things, especially in the beginning (if a bitch is asking you how much you make and where you work at and you JUST met her- LEAVE THAT GOLD DIGGIN BITCH ALONE- it will result ONLY in sorrow for you and fuller pockets for her), 2- Realize this: a bitch KNOWS whether or not she’d give you the pussy after a minute of seeing you. Shit, she may WANT TO give you the pussy… and YOUR MAIN GOAL is to not fuck that up. This means by not doing or saying anything that would make her look at you like you’s a crazy ass mofo. And guess what, most of the time- if she wanna fuck you- she doesn’t even care how much you spend on her, cuz she’ll FUCK YOU ANYWAY.
Ok, so now that you have lied, you have definitely SABOTAGED your relationship if it happens to go beyond fuckin or if you just lied to get her to begin with. What will your relationship be based on? LIES… all lies. And you two will never have that extra deep connection because you don’t know who each other really is. If you done lied to a bitch to get at her and then got her, the least you can do is keep it real with her and let her know who YOU really are. Its NOT FAIR that you know her and she doesn’t know you nor is it fair that you TRICKED her into being with you (how about showing her who you truly are and then letting HER decide if she REALLY does wanna be with you). Its also NOT FAIR that you are parading around like a WOLF IN SHEEP’S CLOTHING, because that is EXACTLY what you are- a damn impersonator (thanks J. lol). And in the end, you may be aight… but YOU AIN’T REAL!
Whatever, so you LIED and got you the “bad bitch”… but now what? You basically have to keep up this front as long as humanly possible in order to keep her… more work than you ever thought it would be. As a result, she will not know who you truly are as a person, but eventually you will begin to show your true colors. All I’m saying is DO NOT be upset, surprised or angry if the bitch wanna leave your silly ass- she was never with YOU anyways, her ass was with your made up character. And I must address all you SILLY HOES who stay with the men who have lied to you about all this important shit…
Realize this: he IS a fucking liar and has the capacity to do so at any given time, and I know that its hard cuz you’re attached, you don’t wanna be lonely… blah, blah, blah but KNOW THIS- you were NEVER really in love/love/liked HIM anyways, it was his LIES that kept you open. And I KNOW ya bitches have a PROBLEM separating emotions and fucking and your silly ass wanna be addicted to HIS pipe game, but TRUTH BE TOLD: FOR EVERY NIGGA WHO FUCKED ME PROPER, THERE WAS 5 NIGGAS BEHIND HIM WHO COULD SERVE ME BETTER!!! And that’s REAL TALK!
How I see it… Men, how do you ever expect to find that REAL bitch, and REAL love if your ass is lying about every and any thing? How do you ever expect a chick to love you for who YOU are if your ass never let her know who you are. If you have to front and make yourself seem like your worth more than you really are- that’s sad, you need a damn hug and some fucking CONFIDENCE (it goes a looooong way niggas).
See this is exactly why I be on some “I don’t give a fuck” shit…. Why? Cuz at the end of the day- you either gunna fuck with me or you’re not. Truth be told 9 out of 10 times… you’re gunna fuck with me. I don’t like surprises which is why I try to throw all my cards on the table and let a mofo know from the door how this shit is gunna go. If he don’t like it… fuck em, but like I said, 9 out of 10 times… its going down. Niggas, you need to realize that bitches wanna fuck just as much as you do (maybe not all of em, but most of em). Bitches who say otherwise… ARE LYING TO THEIR DAMN SELVES. They KNOW they wanna fuck, they just don’t wanna be deemed a “slut, whore, hoe, jump, smut, etc…” so they are careful of how they go about it. *Ladies: it is 2009, get with it… if niggas can do them, so can you- and you are none the lesser for it*
Moral of the story kids is: KEEP IT A FUCKIN HUNDRED! Learn to keep it real with yourselves so that you can be real with others. Fellas: don’t be so quick to lie to a bitch- you may have just found the woman of your dreams, but a REAL bitch will NOT TOLERATE being lied to. Bitches: Stop condoning these lying ass niggas… if he’s a liar, take the L, and drop him like a bad habit. No, he’s not gunna change and its so sad that your still holding on to some hope that he will… and hop off his dick shorty- its not that serious and like I said- there’s ALWAYS gunna be someone else who does it better.
Wanna Better Relationship? Learn How 2 Fuck!
So, lately I’ve been talking about sex a lot… and I decided to do a little research on my own and develop some theories as to why certain things occur in society. I’m really trying to get down to the nitty gritty of things and it all revolves around sex and society. What I found interesting, was that according to a recent survey conducted, 75% of women reported never climaxing to orgasm. How does this affect society, you may ask… Well, it certainly explains certain things about women.
Now, let’s start at the very beginning… the very first time you touched yourself. As children many of us were taught that it was a BAD thing to do. Many of us became very shameful, and as a result ultimately really stopped exploring. While the rest of us, only found better ways to cover our tracks. ;)
Those who grow up shameful, mostly women, never got to really explore themselves, their bodies. Many of them don’t even know what really arouses them and what they like. This is a sad fucking story to me. If you’re a grown ass woman, and have never reached cloud 10 and exploded into a million pieces… then, you better get like Mariah and “Touch ya Body”!
Explore your folds, your tunnels… your crook and fucking crannies. This is the only way you will ever learn your body… If YOU don’t know what you like, how the hell you gunna explain it to someone else? (That’s right most of you don’t, because you’re too embarrassed.) Get over it! If he ain’t doing it right… tell him about himself! He’s not the only one who should get to orgasm.
I believe that this is why many women don’t enjoy having sex, or don’t want it as much as men. It’s just not that enjoyable to them. This is also the reason why many women would rather have oral sex, instead of vaginal sex. Many can climax easily clitoral, but have a very hard time vaginally. I say, what’s the point of having sex, if you’re not gunna orgasm? Sex with no orgasm is pure blasphemy to me.
Ladies, if you cannot orgasm during vaginal sex, it is your own fault! First, you need to explore your body and bring yourself to full climax. If you can achieve that, then you’re ready for the big times. You need to know that, not all men know how to fuck. If that is the case, then you need to also know, that you should take it upon yourself to learn how to position yourself right. The positioning of yourself, is EVERYTHING! Practice makes perfect… So stop being a lazy bitch, and RIDE EM’ COWBOY!
You see, men on the other hand, almost always orgasm and 98% surveyed, reported doing so. Do you know why… because THEY BEAT OFF! Men are simple and straightforward with sex. They know what they like and how to reach the promised land. Although they know all of this though, what they don’t know is that most of them are terribly disillusioned.
That’s right, DISILLUSIONED! Personally, I have met many of men who were terribly disillusioned, but it’s not their fault entirely. Sure, many men have a big ego, but women play a large part in their disillusionment. Therefore, men talk a lot of shit and think highly of themselves. They believe they are a lion in the sheets, when in all actuality they are a mere kitten.
This happens purely because bitches don’t know how to keep it G and tell a man when he’s whack in the sack. Instead, they fake orgasms, moan and scream like crazy and act like he’s a sex god, when in all actuality… he couldn’t fuck his way out of a wet paper bag.
Today I read in Men’s Health, something that made me feel normal. When watching porn, you always see bitches screaming and moaning something crazy. Now, when bitches fake, being that that is the norm, they scream and moan too. But here is a rude awakening, “When climaxing, it’s almost IMPOSSIBLE to exhale. She’ll draw in her breathe, tighten her muscles, and then sigh or pant when she comes back to Earth. But scream? Never.”
And here I thought I was doing it wrong, because it wasn’t the “normal” thing associated with a woman climaxing. In all actuality though, many women fake it, and even worse, they lie and say the sex was great. Women seem to sympathize with the men and really just don’t want to hurt his feelings. That is what it allllll boils down to, not wanting to hurt his feelings. Bitch! Get real! You are the reason why men walk around thinking they really doing it.
Ladies, you need to learn how not to sugar coat shit. If the man was whack, tell him so, and how he could improve himself. Consider this constructive criticism. Men, need to take the criticism gracefully, and realize they may not be all they thought they were cracked up to be. Most men will accept it as such, and try to switch it up for you, ultimately increasing his own skills. Yet, if you never tell him, then he’s gunna SUCK until he meets a bitch like me, who’ll set his ass straight!
Now, let’s tie this in with society and relationships. I concur that being that many women never climax, this leads to their bitchness level. Women are seen as nags and many are very catty, especially at one another. Thinking of this logically though, I’d be a bitch too if I had sex all the time, yet never climaxed. Sex with no orgasm often leads to many women feeling empty after sex.
Achieving orgasm with your partner is the highest form of intimacy, but if most women never meet orgasm, they never truly connect with their partners. This also leads to resentment of their mates, all because he gets to orgasm and she doesn’t. Being that 75% of women, the majority, never climax, these numbers are a basic sample of the world at large. This means that 3 out of 4 women never climax, and that MOST women are ticking time bombs, waiting to explode.
Explode, these bombs do, and many women explode in crazy ways. Many women get violent, others emotional, some get depressed but all of them explode. It’s crazy because so many people talk shit about women (mainly men), about how they always nag, and they are NEVER happy. Women are depicted as such in the media, and we can see and hear shit like this said everywhere.
Well, guess what Einstein’s, you’re RIGHT! Most women, the majority, are NEVER HAPPY! Do you know why? Let me relate this to the men in terms you’d understand… Now, close your eyes and imagine spending most of your life, NEVER being able to bust a nut. I mean sure, your dick gets hard… but you could NEVER nut- like permanent blue balls. Now, tell me your ass wouldn’t be angry ALL the time too!
Although I believe that sex isn’t the most important aspect of a relationship, I would have to put it up there in my top 5. Sex to me, can make or break a relationship. Everything can be fine with a person, but if they are missing that critical element, things may go off course.
If the sex is bad, resentment occurs. This is true for both parties involved, because some men don’t talk to their women about what they like either. Also, being that you are never really satisfied, you are also easily tempted by others. You may lie to yourself, and say that sex isn’t important… but in the end, if your sex life sucks, your relationship can become subject to damage.
What is a remedy for this? Discuss sex with your partner. If you are in a committed relationship, then communication should be open and an open mind should be kept. Talk about your likes and dislikes, things you’ve dreamt of doing.
Also, keep in mind, that in a relationship you should want to please your partner and vice versa. Which means NO HOLDS BAR, sometimes. Ladies, it is 2009, if your man wants you to suck his dick, then SUCK IT! Same thing goes for you fellas. If you wanna keep your partner happy, ROCK THEIR FUCKING WORLD!
Know this: if you won’t do it, someone else will! So, don’t get caught out there, you’re in a relationship for Christ sake.
What have we learned?
Women, to discover orgasm, you must discover your bodies. The G-Spot, DOES exist, believe me, I know! Learn how to fuck right, stop being lazy logs and pillow queens and take control of the situation. Cummin makes sex so much better, so STOP lying to men and letting them think they the shit.
Men, realize that YES many women are angry at the world, but you could help, if you fucked her right! She’d be hella happier if she orgasmed! Sure, bitches lie, but you need to know how to spot that shit, and correct your flaws. Many of you are disillusioned now, but get with it! You’ll only increase your skills, and then finally be the beast, you thought you were.
Bottom line: Communication is key. It will be the way to relate to one another and REALLY find out just how good we are at doing the do.
Now, let’s start at the very beginning… the very first time you touched yourself. As children many of us were taught that it was a BAD thing to do. Many of us became very shameful, and as a result ultimately really stopped exploring. While the rest of us, only found better ways to cover our tracks. ;)
Those who grow up shameful, mostly women, never got to really explore themselves, their bodies. Many of them don’t even know what really arouses them and what they like. This is a sad fucking story to me. If you’re a grown ass woman, and have never reached cloud 10 and exploded into a million pieces… then, you better get like Mariah and “Touch ya Body”!
Explore your folds, your tunnels… your crook and fucking crannies. This is the only way you will ever learn your body… If YOU don’t know what you like, how the hell you gunna explain it to someone else? (That’s right most of you don’t, because you’re too embarrassed.) Get over it! If he ain’t doing it right… tell him about himself! He’s not the only one who should get to orgasm.
I believe that this is why many women don’t enjoy having sex, or don’t want it as much as men. It’s just not that enjoyable to them. This is also the reason why many women would rather have oral sex, instead of vaginal sex. Many can climax easily clitoral, but have a very hard time vaginally. I say, what’s the point of having sex, if you’re not gunna orgasm? Sex with no orgasm is pure blasphemy to me.
Ladies, if you cannot orgasm during vaginal sex, it is your own fault! First, you need to explore your body and bring yourself to full climax. If you can achieve that, then you’re ready for the big times. You need to know that, not all men know how to fuck. If that is the case, then you need to also know, that you should take it upon yourself to learn how to position yourself right. The positioning of yourself, is EVERYTHING! Practice makes perfect… So stop being a lazy bitch, and RIDE EM’ COWBOY!
You see, men on the other hand, almost always orgasm and 98% surveyed, reported doing so. Do you know why… because THEY BEAT OFF! Men are simple and straightforward with sex. They know what they like and how to reach the promised land. Although they know all of this though, what they don’t know is that most of them are terribly disillusioned.
That’s right, DISILLUSIONED! Personally, I have met many of men who were terribly disillusioned, but it’s not their fault entirely. Sure, many men have a big ego, but women play a large part in their disillusionment. Therefore, men talk a lot of shit and think highly of themselves. They believe they are a lion in the sheets, when in all actuality they are a mere kitten.
This happens purely because bitches don’t know how to keep it G and tell a man when he’s whack in the sack. Instead, they fake orgasms, moan and scream like crazy and act like he’s a sex god, when in all actuality… he couldn’t fuck his way out of a wet paper bag.
Today I read in Men’s Health, something that made me feel normal. When watching porn, you always see bitches screaming and moaning something crazy. Now, when bitches fake, being that that is the norm, they scream and moan too. But here is a rude awakening, “When climaxing, it’s almost IMPOSSIBLE to exhale. She’ll draw in her breathe, tighten her muscles, and then sigh or pant when she comes back to Earth. But scream? Never.”
And here I thought I was doing it wrong, because it wasn’t the “normal” thing associated with a woman climaxing. In all actuality though, many women fake it, and even worse, they lie and say the sex was great. Women seem to sympathize with the men and really just don’t want to hurt his feelings. That is what it allllll boils down to, not wanting to hurt his feelings. Bitch! Get real! You are the reason why men walk around thinking they really doing it.
Ladies, you need to learn how not to sugar coat shit. If the man was whack, tell him so, and how he could improve himself. Consider this constructive criticism. Men, need to take the criticism gracefully, and realize they may not be all they thought they were cracked up to be. Most men will accept it as such, and try to switch it up for you, ultimately increasing his own skills. Yet, if you never tell him, then he’s gunna SUCK until he meets a bitch like me, who’ll set his ass straight!
Now, let’s tie this in with society and relationships. I concur that being that many women never climax, this leads to their bitchness level. Women are seen as nags and many are very catty, especially at one another. Thinking of this logically though, I’d be a bitch too if I had sex all the time, yet never climaxed. Sex with no orgasm often leads to many women feeling empty after sex.
Achieving orgasm with your partner is the highest form of intimacy, but if most women never meet orgasm, they never truly connect with their partners. This also leads to resentment of their mates, all because he gets to orgasm and she doesn’t. Being that 75% of women, the majority, never climax, these numbers are a basic sample of the world at large. This means that 3 out of 4 women never climax, and that MOST women are ticking time bombs, waiting to explode.
Explode, these bombs do, and many women explode in crazy ways. Many women get violent, others emotional, some get depressed but all of them explode. It’s crazy because so many people talk shit about women (mainly men), about how they always nag, and they are NEVER happy. Women are depicted as such in the media, and we can see and hear shit like this said everywhere.
Well, guess what Einstein’s, you’re RIGHT! Most women, the majority, are NEVER HAPPY! Do you know why? Let me relate this to the men in terms you’d understand… Now, close your eyes and imagine spending most of your life, NEVER being able to bust a nut. I mean sure, your dick gets hard… but you could NEVER nut- like permanent blue balls. Now, tell me your ass wouldn’t be angry ALL the time too!
Although I believe that sex isn’t the most important aspect of a relationship, I would have to put it up there in my top 5. Sex to me, can make or break a relationship. Everything can be fine with a person, but if they are missing that critical element, things may go off course.
If the sex is bad, resentment occurs. This is true for both parties involved, because some men don’t talk to their women about what they like either. Also, being that you are never really satisfied, you are also easily tempted by others. You may lie to yourself, and say that sex isn’t important… but in the end, if your sex life sucks, your relationship can become subject to damage.
What is a remedy for this? Discuss sex with your partner. If you are in a committed relationship, then communication should be open and an open mind should be kept. Talk about your likes and dislikes, things you’ve dreamt of doing.
Also, keep in mind, that in a relationship you should want to please your partner and vice versa. Which means NO HOLDS BAR, sometimes. Ladies, it is 2009, if your man wants you to suck his dick, then SUCK IT! Same thing goes for you fellas. If you wanna keep your partner happy, ROCK THEIR FUCKING WORLD!
Know this: if you won’t do it, someone else will! So, don’t get caught out there, you’re in a relationship for Christ sake.
What have we learned?
Women, to discover orgasm, you must discover your bodies. The G-Spot, DOES exist, believe me, I know! Learn how to fuck right, stop being lazy logs and pillow queens and take control of the situation. Cummin makes sex so much better, so STOP lying to men and letting them think they the shit.
Men, realize that YES many women are angry at the world, but you could help, if you fucked her right! She’d be hella happier if she orgasmed! Sure, bitches lie, but you need to know how to spot that shit, and correct your flaws. Many of you are disillusioned now, but get with it! You’ll only increase your skills, and then finally be the beast, you thought you were.
Bottom line: Communication is key. It will be the way to relate to one another and REALLY find out just how good we are at doing the do.
So... You Wanna Be a Mistress?
In a perfect world, no one would lie. Not about themselves and not to others, or themselves for that matter. Unfortunately, lying is what most people do, mostly about themselves. Everyone walking this green Earth, has some type of front that they put on at some point of their lives. People are scared to be who they truly are, and in turn, our pure and true essence is lost in translation.
In a perfect world, no one would cheat. Not themselves, their children or their partners. Unfortunately, cheating or infidelity occurs more than some would like to admit. According to a recent survey, 45-55% of women and 50-60% of men WILL engage in some extramarital sex at least once in their marriage.
The reasons behind cheating are far too many to name, and if I had the time I would go through the top ten reasons behind cheating, (maybe in another blog), but I’m going to concentrate on the main two. Sex and Emotions. These are the two most publicized, and I will speak on them briefly before really getting the party started.
Sex. It is said that many people cheat on their partners, because their sex lives are whack! Their partners are either unfulfilling or disinterested. Others cheat because their current partner won’t try something new they want to do. Bottom line is this: learn to communicate and compromise. Remember, don’t knock it, until you’ve tried it! Lastly, if you won’t do it, someone else will!
Emotions. Other people cheat because they aren’t emotionally attached to their partners. How does this happen? Most of the time because you put other things before your relationship and put your relationship on auto-pilot. Know that, unlike a plane, your relationship will burn and crash when not tended to.
When this happens, you grow apart and then the worst thing happens- you stop communicating. When this happens, you run off and find someone you CAN talk to, who will GIVE you attention, and viola’, you’ve got an emotional affair. Nowadays, these can be trickier than physical affairs as they are hidden as such and the internet makes them oh so convenient. So that nowadays, infidelity has branched out to not just include physical involvement.
Many people don’t see emotional affairs as cheating, being that there wasn’t any penetration. Think of it like this though, all those intimate things you talk to your buddy about, are things you should be telling your spouse. The more you talk, the more intimate things become, the more you trust a person and then become curious. And you know what they said about curiosity and that damn cat!
Bottom line is this: In most aspects of a relationship, communication is KEY! It is the whole fucking kit and caboodle! Without it, your relationship will deteriorate and you WILL grow apart. People will become resentful and hostile. So, if you’ve gotten to the point that you cant talk to your mate anymore, know that something has TERRIBLY gone wrong! And that should be worked on immediately. Remember that it takes two people to make a relationship work, but only one to fuck it all up!
Now, on to the main event, someone and an area rarely covered when we speak of cheating and cheaters… The mistresses (and I’m talking about men and women)! What amazes the shit out of me, is their sheer disregard for the family they are helping to hurt and the people for that matter. The moral level of many people are severely low, and it’s sad to say that this society is not only accepting it, it is EMBRACING IT!
Look around you, everywhere in the media- there is infidelity. Turn on the radio, and you hear that my girl got a girlfriend or boyfriend number two. I really can’t even listen to shit like that only because it condones this destructive behavior and it makes me angry. This is how you know this shit has become acceptable, and even worse is that children are now growing up seeing this shit and thinking it’s acceptable.
Back to the cum buckets… So, you meet someone and learn they are taken… and it doesn’t even matter what kind of taken, (whether it’s a relationship or its marriage), taken is taken, just like a dime is a dime; but you continue to talk to that person. Not only are you WRONG, you’re a fucking ignorant with no morals or values. If you would of stopped them right there and declined their advances, that would have been the RIGHT thing to do… but that’s NOT what you did.
Ahh… to be the other woman, or man for that matter, may be a fun thing to some, but seriously, people who see nothing wrong with playing that position in life, have serious mental problems occurring. It may trace back to your childhood, it may have to do with you feeling you have no self worth, or that you don’t deserve any better. You might have self-esteem problems or be out on a vendetta, either way, you’re wrong!
I have a serious bone to pick with the people that are ok with being the “other person”, only because you people help contribute to the pain, the lies and stigmas around relationships. You are helping to deteriorate families, and although that family may of already been on the brink, you helped to destroy it in the worst way.
This doesn’t only affect the person who was cheated on. In many instances, the person your fucking has an entire family at home, and needless to say, the children of divorced parents, suffer more than their parents do. Finding out that your dad/mom had an affair equals crazy problems in that child’s future when it comes to trust and THEIR relationships. So you see, you’re not just fucking them, your fucking their WHOLE family!
What has cheating done to people in general in this society? Cheating has contributed to the creation of fronts. Fronting is pure lies and illusion and cheating goes hand in hand with that. When someone is cheated on, it often changes the person they are, and there are not many people who do not become jaded when cheated on.
This creates barriars and trust issues, making it that much harder to find true happiness… all because someone cheated and you now can’t let that shit go. It’s easy to say to just get rid of the rocks in your bag, but it’s harder to actually get it done. Many of us have unforgiving traits and find it very hard to forget the things done to us in the past. So although we try to go on and not judge a new person, for past occurances, this often happens. And we end up pushing good people away.
When a person is cheated on, it’s a blow to who they are as a person. Many negative feelings float around their heads. Many of those feelings involve the self and how you feel about yourself. Feelings of resentment, inaquedacy, betrayal, hopelessness, are among a few. This battle leaves many of us with wounds, the scars of which we will carry forever.
Back to the scum… So, mistresses help to contribute to the demise of people and families. Even worse than that is that many just don’t give a fuck, and that’s what blows my fucking lid. This irks me especially with women, who some have went as far to say “it’s not my problem he’s coming to me.”
You are right super slut, it isn’t your fault, but it does take two to tango and you are being USED! That’s right bitch, USED! It doesn’t matter whether you are a man or woman, you ARE being used and the person who is using you is the ultimate playa, for getting they cake, AND eating that shit too!
Men, know that you are not above being used. I totally see your side, and sure, many of you see it as a win for you. Understand that the ONLY reason that you feel that way is because men are not offered sex as much as women. Therefore, for many of you, it’s HARD to turn down pussy, because opportunities like that don’t always present itself.
As a result, many of you men are ruthless and don’t have morals, and it is true to say that most of you wouldn’t turn down pussy when it is offered. (STOP BEING SO DAMN EASY, that shit aint cute! We, ladies, want a challenge too!) This is the same reason why some men cheat, simply because they were given the option to do so, and they took it!
Okay dude, so you’re getting pussy right, so it MUST be a win. WRONG! You too are helping to contribute to the demise of relationships. You may think you just won, but actually, SHE won, because now she has her man, and YOU in pocket. It doesn’t matter if you don’t care about all the technicalities, she now has the power and she’s got 2 for 1, homie.
You need to understand that when you give a person in a relationship you’re goodies, you are also giving them the power. The power over you and the situation. Whenever they want you, there you are and when they get tired, back home they go. Either way, you have just given them control of the whole situation.
They have the perfect scenario, their perfect home and the ass on the side. Many of them will NEVER leave their spouses. Why? Because many of them really do love their spouses, many of them have just lost communication, and since their sexual or emotional needs are being met by YOU now, it creates the perfect win-win situation for them.
Except you lose. If you don’t think you are a loser, think of it like this. Many of you mistresses WILL fall in love with your taken fuck buddy. You will invest your time, your effort, your hearts, and you will NEVER be with them the way you want to. Those of you ruthless enough to take it to the next level and break up a happy home, (especially you conniving ass bitches), remember that what goes around comes around, and you ARE NOT above that law.
Also, know that in most situations, the person who you are with is a LIAR! They are cheating on their spouse/mate, believe me, they ARE NOT above lying. Many of them play the victim role, and lie about their home situations to make it seem worse than it is. This helps you sympathize with them, and when you feel bad, you’re more likely to fuck them. In all actuality though, many of them are content where they are. It’s usually just one or two missing elements, that YOU are just happening to now help fulfill.
Real talk if nothing else bothers you as a mistress, remember, that at the end of the day, they go HOME! And do you know what MOST of them do when they get home? They FUCK their mates/spouses. Sure, they aren’t gunna tell you and some of them may lie, and say they don’t. Know, that they DO, and do you REALLY know where their mouths have been?? I think not.
At the end of the day mistresses, you are a mere accessory to the crime. You help the bad guys get away, and enable them to do so. You let the greedy people of the world have their cake and eat it too. To be able to live with that, and look at yourself in the mirror every day is ridiculous. How do you do it? No morals or conscience. No guidelines for life. STOP enabling cheaters.
It’s a cold world we live in, and there will always be mistresses, the people who just don’t give a fuck. The ones who have no guidelines. Our jobs as individuals though, is to try to live as righteously as possible, even when we are wronged. And just keep in mind, that those who wronged us, always meet their own demise sooner or later.
So if you were cheated on, breathe deep, move on with as little baggage as possible and sit back and enjoy the show! No matter what you may want to do to the cheater, KNOW that THEY WILL get theirs too. Eventually, they too will fall and KARMA will be right on their asses being a BIGGER BITCH THAN YOU COULD OF EVER BEEN
In a perfect world, no one would cheat. Not themselves, their children or their partners. Unfortunately, cheating or infidelity occurs more than some would like to admit. According to a recent survey, 45-55% of women and 50-60% of men WILL engage in some extramarital sex at least once in their marriage.
The reasons behind cheating are far too many to name, and if I had the time I would go through the top ten reasons behind cheating, (maybe in another blog), but I’m going to concentrate on the main two. Sex and Emotions. These are the two most publicized, and I will speak on them briefly before really getting the party started.
Sex. It is said that many people cheat on their partners, because their sex lives are whack! Their partners are either unfulfilling or disinterested. Others cheat because their current partner won’t try something new they want to do. Bottom line is this: learn to communicate and compromise. Remember, don’t knock it, until you’ve tried it! Lastly, if you won’t do it, someone else will!
Emotions. Other people cheat because they aren’t emotionally attached to their partners. How does this happen? Most of the time because you put other things before your relationship and put your relationship on auto-pilot. Know that, unlike a plane, your relationship will burn and crash when not tended to.
When this happens, you grow apart and then the worst thing happens- you stop communicating. When this happens, you run off and find someone you CAN talk to, who will GIVE you attention, and viola’, you’ve got an emotional affair. Nowadays, these can be trickier than physical affairs as they are hidden as such and the internet makes them oh so convenient. So that nowadays, infidelity has branched out to not just include physical involvement.
Many people don’t see emotional affairs as cheating, being that there wasn’t any penetration. Think of it like this though, all those intimate things you talk to your buddy about, are things you should be telling your spouse. The more you talk, the more intimate things become, the more you trust a person and then become curious. And you know what they said about curiosity and that damn cat!
Bottom line is this: In most aspects of a relationship, communication is KEY! It is the whole fucking kit and caboodle! Without it, your relationship will deteriorate and you WILL grow apart. People will become resentful and hostile. So, if you’ve gotten to the point that you cant talk to your mate anymore, know that something has TERRIBLY gone wrong! And that should be worked on immediately. Remember that it takes two people to make a relationship work, but only one to fuck it all up!
Now, on to the main event, someone and an area rarely covered when we speak of cheating and cheaters… The mistresses (and I’m talking about men and women)! What amazes the shit out of me, is their sheer disregard for the family they are helping to hurt and the people for that matter. The moral level of many people are severely low, and it’s sad to say that this society is not only accepting it, it is EMBRACING IT!
Look around you, everywhere in the media- there is infidelity. Turn on the radio, and you hear that my girl got a girlfriend or boyfriend number two. I really can’t even listen to shit like that only because it condones this destructive behavior and it makes me angry. This is how you know this shit has become acceptable, and even worse is that children are now growing up seeing this shit and thinking it’s acceptable.
Back to the cum buckets… So, you meet someone and learn they are taken… and it doesn’t even matter what kind of taken, (whether it’s a relationship or its marriage), taken is taken, just like a dime is a dime; but you continue to talk to that person. Not only are you WRONG, you’re a fucking ignorant with no morals or values. If you would of stopped them right there and declined their advances, that would have been the RIGHT thing to do… but that’s NOT what you did.
Ahh… to be the other woman, or man for that matter, may be a fun thing to some, but seriously, people who see nothing wrong with playing that position in life, have serious mental problems occurring. It may trace back to your childhood, it may have to do with you feeling you have no self worth, or that you don’t deserve any better. You might have self-esteem problems or be out on a vendetta, either way, you’re wrong!
I have a serious bone to pick with the people that are ok with being the “other person”, only because you people help contribute to the pain, the lies and stigmas around relationships. You are helping to deteriorate families, and although that family may of already been on the brink, you helped to destroy it in the worst way.
This doesn’t only affect the person who was cheated on. In many instances, the person your fucking has an entire family at home, and needless to say, the children of divorced parents, suffer more than their parents do. Finding out that your dad/mom had an affair equals crazy problems in that child’s future when it comes to trust and THEIR relationships. So you see, you’re not just fucking them, your fucking their WHOLE family!
What has cheating done to people in general in this society? Cheating has contributed to the creation of fronts. Fronting is pure lies and illusion and cheating goes hand in hand with that. When someone is cheated on, it often changes the person they are, and there are not many people who do not become jaded when cheated on.
This creates barriars and trust issues, making it that much harder to find true happiness… all because someone cheated and you now can’t let that shit go. It’s easy to say to just get rid of the rocks in your bag, but it’s harder to actually get it done. Many of us have unforgiving traits and find it very hard to forget the things done to us in the past. So although we try to go on and not judge a new person, for past occurances, this often happens. And we end up pushing good people away.
When a person is cheated on, it’s a blow to who they are as a person. Many negative feelings float around their heads. Many of those feelings involve the self and how you feel about yourself. Feelings of resentment, inaquedacy, betrayal, hopelessness, are among a few. This battle leaves many of us with wounds, the scars of which we will carry forever.
Back to the scum… So, mistresses help to contribute to the demise of people and families. Even worse than that is that many just don’t give a fuck, and that’s what blows my fucking lid. This irks me especially with women, who some have went as far to say “it’s not my problem he’s coming to me.”
You are right super slut, it isn’t your fault, but it does take two to tango and you are being USED! That’s right bitch, USED! It doesn’t matter whether you are a man or woman, you ARE being used and the person who is using you is the ultimate playa, for getting they cake, AND eating that shit too!
Men, know that you are not above being used. I totally see your side, and sure, many of you see it as a win for you. Understand that the ONLY reason that you feel that way is because men are not offered sex as much as women. Therefore, for many of you, it’s HARD to turn down pussy, because opportunities like that don’t always present itself.
As a result, many of you men are ruthless and don’t have morals, and it is true to say that most of you wouldn’t turn down pussy when it is offered. (STOP BEING SO DAMN EASY, that shit aint cute! We, ladies, want a challenge too!) This is the same reason why some men cheat, simply because they were given the option to do so, and they took it!
Okay dude, so you’re getting pussy right, so it MUST be a win. WRONG! You too are helping to contribute to the demise of relationships. You may think you just won, but actually, SHE won, because now she has her man, and YOU in pocket. It doesn’t matter if you don’t care about all the technicalities, she now has the power and she’s got 2 for 1, homie.
You need to understand that when you give a person in a relationship you’re goodies, you are also giving them the power. The power over you and the situation. Whenever they want you, there you are and when they get tired, back home they go. Either way, you have just given them control of the whole situation.
They have the perfect scenario, their perfect home and the ass on the side. Many of them will NEVER leave their spouses. Why? Because many of them really do love their spouses, many of them have just lost communication, and since their sexual or emotional needs are being met by YOU now, it creates the perfect win-win situation for them.
Except you lose. If you don’t think you are a loser, think of it like this. Many of you mistresses WILL fall in love with your taken fuck buddy. You will invest your time, your effort, your hearts, and you will NEVER be with them the way you want to. Those of you ruthless enough to take it to the next level and break up a happy home, (especially you conniving ass bitches), remember that what goes around comes around, and you ARE NOT above that law.
Also, know that in most situations, the person who you are with is a LIAR! They are cheating on their spouse/mate, believe me, they ARE NOT above lying. Many of them play the victim role, and lie about their home situations to make it seem worse than it is. This helps you sympathize with them, and when you feel bad, you’re more likely to fuck them. In all actuality though, many of them are content where they are. It’s usually just one or two missing elements, that YOU are just happening to now help fulfill.
Real talk if nothing else bothers you as a mistress, remember, that at the end of the day, they go HOME! And do you know what MOST of them do when they get home? They FUCK their mates/spouses. Sure, they aren’t gunna tell you and some of them may lie, and say they don’t. Know, that they DO, and do you REALLY know where their mouths have been?? I think not.
At the end of the day mistresses, you are a mere accessory to the crime. You help the bad guys get away, and enable them to do so. You let the greedy people of the world have their cake and eat it too. To be able to live with that, and look at yourself in the mirror every day is ridiculous. How do you do it? No morals or conscience. No guidelines for life. STOP enabling cheaters.
It’s a cold world we live in, and there will always be mistresses, the people who just don’t give a fuck. The ones who have no guidelines. Our jobs as individuals though, is to try to live as righteously as possible, even when we are wronged. And just keep in mind, that those who wronged us, always meet their own demise sooner or later.
So if you were cheated on, breathe deep, move on with as little baggage as possible and sit back and enjoy the show! No matter what you may want to do to the cheater, KNOW that THEY WILL get theirs too. Eventually, they too will fall and KARMA will be right on their asses being a BIGGER BITCH THAN YOU COULD OF EVER BEEN
NY State of Mind
You may believe it or not, but this society has been constructed in a certain way. The powers that be have definitely made it so that certain people are forced to live certain ways. This runs true throughout our entire invisible cast system. The rich can only get richer and the poor can only get poorer, or stay poor for that matter.
For the majority of my life, I lived in an urban neighborhood. Gangs, violence, drugs and teen pregnancy runs rampant where I’m from. Now in my old hood, the majority of the population were of course, Blacks and Hispanics, as it is in most hoods across the nation. Why is that these certain minorities never seem to rise above?
Sure… My President is Black, but not much has changed throughout the years when it comes to racism and the powers that be trying to keep minorities in their place. The kicker though, is that no other minority is targeted and generally FUCKED WITH, except Blacks and Hispanics. Do you see Asians, or Indians pulled over like crazy? Checked for drugs? Ridiculed and searched? NO. And REAL TALK… some of them use as many drugs. I know more than a dozen Indian and Asian IT techs who swear by weed. Yet, they are never searched or pulled over… Guess they don’t “Fit the Description”.
We live in a world, where yes… If you are Black or Hispanic… You ARE targeted. You ARE seen as a threat to society and they ARE trying to take us out. Now, what people in the hood do though, is contrary to what they NEED to do. I’d like to first of all…. Blame it on the PARENTS!
It’s crazy because I work with kids and REAL TALK… No one likes to be told they aren’t raising their children correctly. No one likes it when you try to suggest something different or if you’re opposed to their child rearing skills. If you say something… all hell breaks loose. Yet, honestly, MOST people in the hood, DON’T know how to properly raise their children. They aren’t educated enough to know how children really work emotionally and psychologically AND most of them DID NOT have a good role model for parenting… as most sample their own parents.
This goes back to what I wrote about teen pregnancy. Most people in the hood, aren’t concerned with the future… they have no 5 year plan. They also seem to have lost all type of hope and faith in themselves and their communities… which is the sad part. What people need to realize is this- Just because you LIVE in the hood, doesn’t mean that you HAVE to have a HOOD MENTALITY. This one goes out ESPECIALLY to the young MEN in the hood.
It is a conspiracy to get everyone in the hood to stay in their place… and by feeding into it, we all help contribute to our own demise. They want us to act a fool, to run the streets, to get caught and most importantly- to KILL each other, that way they won’t have to. The powers that be makes sure the drugs are brought into this country and make sure they are put in the right hands. They set us up for failure, and what do we do?? We fall for that shit!
The government works in funny ways and it’s all a set up to make us fail. They give us assistance and welfare so that we can live. Yet they make it so comfortable, that people live on welfare forever. Moms encourage their daughters to have more children, cuz the more kids you have- the more money you get. What does this do?? Create more problems than you can actually imagine.
The children of these women, often get improper care, and it’s not just because they have 5 other siblings. They often live in crowded, dirty, and dangerous environments and see this from the time they are born.( Here’s a fun fact: psychologically, people who live in crowded environments- tend to be more VIOLENT! )What is worse, is that these mothers DO NOT expect much from their children. And most of them will be lost to the streets, most won’t make it to see their 21st birthday, most will be a product of their environment and help the cycle continue.
These children know nothing more than their environment, which is why I blame it on the parents. Just because you LIVE IN the hood, doesn’t mean that you have to LIVE the hood. If these children had parents who SUPPORTED them and gave them a good FOUNDATION, then our youth would NOT be lost to the streets- not in such large numbers.
On to other matters, the young men in the hood sadden me just as much as the young women. Many of them sell drugs, join gangs, rob and kill people… it’s the stereotype, I know… But, you must realize that you LIVE the stereotype. You do everything they say you do, some of you do it proudly. Know that this is just a way of keeping us in our place.
The government makes it so that they take care of us in the ghetto. They make sure we live comfortable enough, that MOST of you… don’t want better, and even worse, you can’t SEE yourself doing better. They put drugs out in the street and see what happens to us. Power and money are evil things. They drive us to do harm to ourselves and harm to others. That what it’s ALL about in the hood. Power, territory and money… but REAL TALK- it’s ALL bullshit! The power you think you possess ain’t shit in the REAL WORLD, and neither is the money!
Gangs… while I can see why some people just want to belong to some type of family. This is rooted in with families in the hood, who don’t take care of their children. Who don’t make their children grounded individuals, with a strong foundation. These children in search of something greater, a sense of belonging- join gangs. And what do most of these gangs do? KILL EACH OTHER! While our numbers as a minority dwindle, the powers that be- ARE LAUGHING AT YOU! Wanna kill someone? Kill Whitey… He’s the one for all your problems, not your fellow brother.
But no, you feed into the bullshit and you shoot, rob, sell and end up where? JAIL! This is another method of keeping us down. Once you have a record, there isn’t much you can do as a citizen. You can’t vote, which takes away your voice as a citizen. You can’t join the military (which most of ya’ll SHOULD do since you like killing so much). You can’t get a JOB. That last one is the most important because it is the MAIN reason that this vicious cycle exist.
Most men in the hood start early and have a record early on in life, and continue into their old age. Without families to SUPPORT them, they rarely graduate high school and college is a foreign word. This helps contribute because they stay in this cycle of incarceration. They have little to no real education, and have little qualifications for jobs. Since they can’t get a regular job, what do they do? Rob and sell drugs. Get caught, serve time and do it all over again.
The government makes it so that you can’t get out of that, once you’ve gotten there. They WANT you to sell drugs, rob people, and get CAUGHT! You need to realize that MONEY is the root to all evil. They know that when money is non-existent to people, people get desperate. As a result, that desperation turns into stupidity. And most people who sell and rob, have families to care for. It all goes hand in hand.
What saddens me the most though, is talking to people in the hood and analyzing their points of views. What I have discovered is that morale and HOPE is gone from most. Most feel that they will never be much and most don’t see themselves as much. Yet, they NEED to realize this- WE CAN ALL RISE ABOVE!
Just because you come from the hood, doesn’t mean that you should die in the hood. We should want more from ourselves and even more for our children. I honestly FEEL for this next generation coming up. Most of these children are being raised by people who don’t know what the fuck their doing. Most of them are damaging their children psychologically, and the worst part? OUR CHILDREN ARE THE FUTURE! And we won’t have much of a future, being that there are a million kids having kids… who don’t know SHIT about kids.
Just because you come from the hood, doesn’t mean you can’t get an education, and go to college. GUESS WHAT! Here’s something they DON’T want you to know. YOU go to college for FREE! If you’re in the hood then there is a VERY good chance that you will get FULL financial aid. This means, your tuition and books are paid for… and you thought you needed that football scholarship! You see, there is so much you don’t know, and so much aid out there. YOU ARE NOT A HOPELESS CASE! Educate yourself and LEARN about your possibilities and opportunities.
Just because you come from the hood, doesn’t mean that you have to LIVE the stereotype. Sure, it’s dangerous in the hood. The guns, the drugs, the violence, but seriously if families cared more for their children… there wouldn’t be gangs to begin with. If parents were on top of their kids, knew where they were, knew what they were doing… there wouldn’t be as many kids who WANT TO join gangs. It’s ok not to be a gangbanger… it doesn’t make you a PUSSY, it makes you SMART. And just think of it like this, when you grow up and have a career, those same gangbangers will be on those same corners.
Lastly, it seems that the powers that be, have made many of you hopeless. Many of you complain that the “White Man” is bringing you down. Well guess what? THEY ARE! And now, your spirits are broken and self confidence doesn’t exist. Real talk, the BEST way to RISE ABOVE is to EDUCATE yourself. You need to KNOW that just because you live in the hood, doesn’t mean that constitutes who YOU ARE and you don’t need that type of mentality! We all need to help one another get to where we as a people should be. It all starts with the kids, so love your kids, and support them. YOU are their HERO! ACT LIKE IT!
(Side Note: The shit I hate the MOST… are mothers who talk about shit they shouldn’t in front of their kids and the ones who curse at their kids. First, know that although children cannot fully understand what goes on, they DO understand in their own sense. Certain things should NOT be said in front of children- STOP making them grow up faster than they have to. And second, cursing and putting down your children is not only fuckin disgusting… it damages them emotionally and psychologically… According to DYFS… it is also considered ABUSE…. Verbally… learn how to talk to your kids you worthless, selfish bitches.)
For the majority of my life, I lived in an urban neighborhood. Gangs, violence, drugs and teen pregnancy runs rampant where I’m from. Now in my old hood, the majority of the population were of course, Blacks and Hispanics, as it is in most hoods across the nation. Why is that these certain minorities never seem to rise above?
Sure… My President is Black, but not much has changed throughout the years when it comes to racism and the powers that be trying to keep minorities in their place. The kicker though, is that no other minority is targeted and generally FUCKED WITH, except Blacks and Hispanics. Do you see Asians, or Indians pulled over like crazy? Checked for drugs? Ridiculed and searched? NO. And REAL TALK… some of them use as many drugs. I know more than a dozen Indian and Asian IT techs who swear by weed. Yet, they are never searched or pulled over… Guess they don’t “Fit the Description”.
We live in a world, where yes… If you are Black or Hispanic… You ARE targeted. You ARE seen as a threat to society and they ARE trying to take us out. Now, what people in the hood do though, is contrary to what they NEED to do. I’d like to first of all…. Blame it on the PARENTS!
It’s crazy because I work with kids and REAL TALK… No one likes to be told they aren’t raising their children correctly. No one likes it when you try to suggest something different or if you’re opposed to their child rearing skills. If you say something… all hell breaks loose. Yet, honestly, MOST people in the hood, DON’T know how to properly raise their children. They aren’t educated enough to know how children really work emotionally and psychologically AND most of them DID NOT have a good role model for parenting… as most sample their own parents.
This goes back to what I wrote about teen pregnancy. Most people in the hood, aren’t concerned with the future… they have no 5 year plan. They also seem to have lost all type of hope and faith in themselves and their communities… which is the sad part. What people need to realize is this- Just because you LIVE in the hood, doesn’t mean that you HAVE to have a HOOD MENTALITY. This one goes out ESPECIALLY to the young MEN in the hood.
It is a conspiracy to get everyone in the hood to stay in their place… and by feeding into it, we all help contribute to our own demise. They want us to act a fool, to run the streets, to get caught and most importantly- to KILL each other, that way they won’t have to. The powers that be makes sure the drugs are brought into this country and make sure they are put in the right hands. They set us up for failure, and what do we do?? We fall for that shit!
The government works in funny ways and it’s all a set up to make us fail. They give us assistance and welfare so that we can live. Yet they make it so comfortable, that people live on welfare forever. Moms encourage their daughters to have more children, cuz the more kids you have- the more money you get. What does this do?? Create more problems than you can actually imagine.
The children of these women, often get improper care, and it’s not just because they have 5 other siblings. They often live in crowded, dirty, and dangerous environments and see this from the time they are born.( Here’s a fun fact: psychologically, people who live in crowded environments- tend to be more VIOLENT! )What is worse, is that these mothers DO NOT expect much from their children. And most of them will be lost to the streets, most won’t make it to see their 21st birthday, most will be a product of their environment and help the cycle continue.
These children know nothing more than their environment, which is why I blame it on the parents. Just because you LIVE IN the hood, doesn’t mean that you have to LIVE the hood. If these children had parents who SUPPORTED them and gave them a good FOUNDATION, then our youth would NOT be lost to the streets- not in such large numbers.
On to other matters, the young men in the hood sadden me just as much as the young women. Many of them sell drugs, join gangs, rob and kill people… it’s the stereotype, I know… But, you must realize that you LIVE the stereotype. You do everything they say you do, some of you do it proudly. Know that this is just a way of keeping us in our place.
The government makes it so that they take care of us in the ghetto. They make sure we live comfortable enough, that MOST of you… don’t want better, and even worse, you can’t SEE yourself doing better. They put drugs out in the street and see what happens to us. Power and money are evil things. They drive us to do harm to ourselves and harm to others. That what it’s ALL about in the hood. Power, territory and money… but REAL TALK- it’s ALL bullshit! The power you think you possess ain’t shit in the REAL WORLD, and neither is the money!
Gangs… while I can see why some people just want to belong to some type of family. This is rooted in with families in the hood, who don’t take care of their children. Who don’t make their children grounded individuals, with a strong foundation. These children in search of something greater, a sense of belonging- join gangs. And what do most of these gangs do? KILL EACH OTHER! While our numbers as a minority dwindle, the powers that be- ARE LAUGHING AT YOU! Wanna kill someone? Kill Whitey… He’s the one for all your problems, not your fellow brother.
But no, you feed into the bullshit and you shoot, rob, sell and end up where? JAIL! This is another method of keeping us down. Once you have a record, there isn’t much you can do as a citizen. You can’t vote, which takes away your voice as a citizen. You can’t join the military (which most of ya’ll SHOULD do since you like killing so much). You can’t get a JOB. That last one is the most important because it is the MAIN reason that this vicious cycle exist.
Most men in the hood start early and have a record early on in life, and continue into their old age. Without families to SUPPORT them, they rarely graduate high school and college is a foreign word. This helps contribute because they stay in this cycle of incarceration. They have little to no real education, and have little qualifications for jobs. Since they can’t get a regular job, what do they do? Rob and sell drugs. Get caught, serve time and do it all over again.
The government makes it so that you can’t get out of that, once you’ve gotten there. They WANT you to sell drugs, rob people, and get CAUGHT! You need to realize that MONEY is the root to all evil. They know that when money is non-existent to people, people get desperate. As a result, that desperation turns into stupidity. And most people who sell and rob, have families to care for. It all goes hand in hand.
What saddens me the most though, is talking to people in the hood and analyzing their points of views. What I have discovered is that morale and HOPE is gone from most. Most feel that they will never be much and most don’t see themselves as much. Yet, they NEED to realize this- WE CAN ALL RISE ABOVE!
Just because you come from the hood, doesn’t mean that you should die in the hood. We should want more from ourselves and even more for our children. I honestly FEEL for this next generation coming up. Most of these children are being raised by people who don’t know what the fuck their doing. Most of them are damaging their children psychologically, and the worst part? OUR CHILDREN ARE THE FUTURE! And we won’t have much of a future, being that there are a million kids having kids… who don’t know SHIT about kids.
Just because you come from the hood, doesn’t mean you can’t get an education, and go to college. GUESS WHAT! Here’s something they DON’T want you to know. YOU go to college for FREE! If you’re in the hood then there is a VERY good chance that you will get FULL financial aid. This means, your tuition and books are paid for… and you thought you needed that football scholarship! You see, there is so much you don’t know, and so much aid out there. YOU ARE NOT A HOPELESS CASE! Educate yourself and LEARN about your possibilities and opportunities.
Just because you come from the hood, doesn’t mean that you have to LIVE the stereotype. Sure, it’s dangerous in the hood. The guns, the drugs, the violence, but seriously if families cared more for their children… there wouldn’t be gangs to begin with. If parents were on top of their kids, knew where they were, knew what they were doing… there wouldn’t be as many kids who WANT TO join gangs. It’s ok not to be a gangbanger… it doesn’t make you a PUSSY, it makes you SMART. And just think of it like this, when you grow up and have a career, those same gangbangers will be on those same corners.
Lastly, it seems that the powers that be, have made many of you hopeless. Many of you complain that the “White Man” is bringing you down. Well guess what? THEY ARE! And now, your spirits are broken and self confidence doesn’t exist. Real talk, the BEST way to RISE ABOVE is to EDUCATE yourself. You need to KNOW that just because you live in the hood, doesn’t mean that constitutes who YOU ARE and you don’t need that type of mentality! We all need to help one another get to where we as a people should be. It all starts with the kids, so love your kids, and support them. YOU are their HERO! ACT LIKE IT!
(Side Note: The shit I hate the MOST… are mothers who talk about shit they shouldn’t in front of their kids and the ones who curse at their kids. First, know that although children cannot fully understand what goes on, they DO understand in their own sense. Certain things should NOT be said in front of children- STOP making them grow up faster than they have to. And second, cursing and putting down your children is not only fuckin disgusting… it damages them emotionally and psychologically… According to DYFS… it is also considered ABUSE…. Verbally… learn how to talk to your kids you worthless, selfish bitches.)
Hoes Vs. Sexually Liberated Women
Women…. Statistically, we out number men easily 3 to 1... Women also live longer. Why is that we don’t rule the world? We could easily take over everything, and kick men out of positions of power…. So why don’t we?
Well… lately I’ve been thinking about this very topic more and more. The more I educate myself and reflect on history; the more I realize how fucked up we’re living. As time has gone by, women have fought for rights that were denied to us even a hundred years ago. So we now have rights and are to be seen as “equals” to men… now what?
I’d like to reflect on history and begin to analyze where and why women began being treated in such a fashion. Hmmm… not to go far too much, lets start with Medieval times, and the Dark Ages- for they were fairly dark… especially for women. Women were seen as emotional creatures… something they are still seen as today. But I found the way they described the women of the time fascinating.
Women were easily swayed and tempted by the devil… They also were said to have insatiable sex drives and for this, were seen as evil and products of the devil. They were to remain virgins in order to preserve the name and honor of her family. She was to be humble, devout and motherly. Now this all ties into religion as well… because religion back then was EVERYTHING. If you disobeyed what had been written, you were most certainly going to be condemned to Hades.
This is what I think REALLY happened. Men… know now and forever, that PUSSY runs the world. Many of wars have been fought over just that- PUSSY! Women have power in their panties, and most women don’t even know of the power that they TRULY have. Pussy has the ability to make a man dumb as shit, it has the ability to make him want to spend all his money, it can make him become estranged from family and friends, it can make him KILL someone. Sorry to tell you, but that is how powerful pussy is… some men would do ANYTHING for it.
Now the reason why men go all gaga over pussy is because logically speaking… Men have a way harder time getting laid then women do. The men who have acquired “game” and those that look good enough to eat… need not apply- you guys get the pussy thrown at you…. But, for the everyday Joe, pussy is a quest… If you don’t believe me, think about it like this- the UGLIEST, FATTEST bitch in the world, would STILL get dick, before the UGLIEST man got some pussy. Why? Men are ALWAYS down to fuck something… and most niccas don’t give a shit- especially when now, you can officially blame it on the alcohol!
Now, when it comes to getting laid…. Women have NO problem. The only thing that holds women back is their NEED to have a mental/emotional connection with the person they’re sleeping with. Real talk though…. To all the bitches that BITCH and COMPLAIN they ain’t getting laid- LOOK AROUND BITCH! Pick one, any one you want, maybe some eye candy … and 9 out of 10 times… he’s down… Bitches, stop DEPRIVING yourself of dick, and LEARN to fuck and detach feelings when doing so. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself which equals confidence; besides, you’re a MEGA bitch when you ain’t getting laid!
That is a MAIN difference in sex when it comes to men and women. Women are mental and emotional, and men are visual and physical. Women, you need to know that YOU hold the power, and if you see something you like… There’s nothing wrong with sampling different cookies in the jar. Plus, it gives you more experience and when you’re married and 40, you won’t REGRET not fucking the shit outta that sexy man 20 yrs ago.
Back to the oppression of women back in time… So what I think happened, is some MAN figured out what I just explained. PUSSY IS POWER! He figured it out and said “Oh Shit! What we gunna do, women ain’t running shit”, Why? Because men are territorial and egotistical. And at that point in time, they would of rather died, than let a WOMAN tell them about religion, politics, family or anything that involved deeper thinking skills. And…. So began the oppression of women and the double-standards that we until today carry in society.
In order to keep the women of those times in “check” and obedient… what they did was tie in RELIGION! These women were scared to do or say anything for a long time, because they believed that in doing so, they were going to HELL! The men of these times can be summed up in two words- DOUCHE BAGS!
How has times changed? Eh, while women carry many rights today that our sisters failed to have so many years ago; women are still seen in an inferior light as opposed to men. We still carry many double-standards today that existed back then as well. Double-standards that were MADE by who? MEN!
It’s crazy how much the times have changed. Women are coming up in the world, but who knows if we will ever be TRULY seen as “equals”. This can not be blamed on just one sex though. Women and men alike have fair involvement in making it what it is today. Women…. Some of you play that damsel in distress card a little too much, we’re living in 2009- get independent bitch! Men… Some of you have the audacity to judge a women for things she has done sexually, but believe it is quite all right for men to fuck everything that walks! Until everyone learns to keep an open mind and be none judgmental… the world will cease to be this way and women will be oppressed.
Women… I must address you first on this one, because frankly if you didn’t know- WOMEN are the WORST ENEMIES of other WOMEN. Seriously, we are… and you hater ass bitches KNOW who you are deep inside. It’s crazy how women could plot so deviously against other women. And it’s ridiculous that women get MAD when they see another woman doing BETTER than she is.
If you see another woman out there doing good for herself, you should be HAPPY for her. She should serve as your MOTIVATION! Hey, if SHE can do it, then so can YOU! I’m so tired of bitches hating on other bitches. You have the EXACT SAME OPPORTUNITIES THAT I DO… If you don’t make it work out for yourself- that’s on you dumb ass. But don’t hate on me and mine when I’m doing better than you!
Next, is how green with ENVY a bitch will get when she sees that you have a “good” man. Of course she’ll compliment you two as a couple, but secretly, she plots to steal that “good” man for herself. You sniveling, conniving, desperate sewer RATS! Be happy that your friend has gotten herself a good man, and STOP trying to take what’s not yours. You bitches help contribute to the struggle that we, as women are in. You get NO RESPECT. And remember this you GREEDY BITCH- if he cheated WITH you, then he will cheat ON you. Don’t act all surprised when that shit happens, you set yourself up lovely for that one!
Which brings me to the bitches who fuck the men of other women. You bitches are despicable and are at the extreme bottom of the food chain. It is one thing to fuck a man who lied to you about a girlfriend and/or wife, that’s his fault- you didn’t know. Now when you find out… CUT IT OFF. Have some dignity and morals. To the leeches who KNOW that a man is in a relationship… You help contribute to cheating, the breaking of families, and more seriously the hate and jealousy that shadows all women. I’d like to take this moment to say- FUCK YOU! You have no morals, values or a conscience… You, get that “Scum of the Earth” classification.
Another thing, bitches… Stop being STUPID! If your man cheated on you… your beef is NOT with the tramp he cheated with. It is with him! Unless you know the bitch, then you can whip her ass on principle alone… but if you DO NOT know the female, leave her ass out of it. HE is the ENEMY, NOT HER! I see so many bitches fighting over niccas that ain’t worth a DIME, stop playing yourself! He ain’t Reggie Bush, Denzel or Usher… and even then you shouldn’t be fighting over a damn man. Stop letting MEN put women against each other… that’s what he wants, just so you’ll forget that HE’S THE ONE THAT CHEATED!
*sigh… Back to equality, one of the main reasons I believe that men DO NOT take women seriously is because BITCHES DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY REALLY WANT. Really though, women want to be seen as equals, yet at the same time want special consideration because why? She’s a woman. Make up your fucking minds… You can be equal and INDEPENDENT or you can be seen as the inferior damsel in distress… You can only chose one!
Enough about the catty bitches that roam the earth… on to the DOGS! Men, for as long as history tells… You have oppressed women and honestly, I don’t all the way blame you. Women ARE emotionally unstable creatures who don’t know what the hell they want- well, MOST of them. And yea, they may fuck important shit up, who knows. But, what I DO NOT agree with are the double-standards that have come from this oppression.
In early times, women would be killed by her father and/or brothers if she were found to not be a virgin before she was married. This was done to preserve the honor of her family. Ok, WTF is that about? Marriages were arranged, and husbands were “brought”. If you had money, you could buy your daughter a great husband. Women were not a part of her fathers inheritance, and they were almost invisible in a sense to society. They held no class, instead they were seen as whatever class their fathers or husbands were in.
For centuries, men held on tightly to the reins they had invisibly and secretively thrown over women. Women worked hard to tend their homes and first and foremost, bear and raise children. Now, although women have come a long way from these dark times, some things are still alive today. One thing in particular is the double-standard of sexual escapades.
It is the year 2009, why is it that forever, men have been able to fuck WHOEVER they want… and they can fuck as MANY women they want- yet, they are NOT seen as the whores that they are? Instead, they get a pat on the back because they’re “the man”. Honestly, the world needs to WAKE THE FUCK UP! If men can do it, so can women- and women are none the lesser for it. Women have wants and needs as well, and seriously, women want to fuck JUST AS MUCH as men do. They don’t though, because they don’t want to be seen as “whores, hoes, sluts, etc.”
This is a new century, and women need to come out of those shells and get THEIR FUCK ON! There’s nothing wrong with casual sex. There is nothing wrong with fucking more than a fixed amount of men. You only get one life and you should live it to the fullest. Wild the fuck out, before you run off, get married and end up a desperate housewife. When you look back, you should say “wow, I had fun” not “damn, I should of done that when I had the chance”. Most women get hung up on emotions and sex, but IT IS possible to have emotionless sex. Get with the times bitches!
Now, I’m NOT saying to go fuck every man you see. What I AM saying though is, if you REALLY want to fuck… What other people may think of you, should not be a factor. There are differences between a SEXUALLY LIBERATED woman, and a HOE! A sexually liberated woman knows the following things:
- Some sexual acts are intimate and should only be done with those special to your heart. So, sucking off every nicca on the block… is a hoeish activity.
- When you fuck two men within the same social circle, they WILL talk about your ass. So… fucking two brothers, cousins, best friends or participating in a free for all train… is a hoeish activity.
-There are hundreds of diseases in this world and sex should be done SAFELY. So, fucking and sucking raw… is a hoeish activity.
- A sexually liberated woman is confidant and knows she can get any man, and doesn’t want the ones that are already taken- even if they want her. Fucking another woman’s man is not just CLASSLESS… it is a hoeish activity.
Hmmm… Some women REALLY are hoes and they conduct themselves as much. But there are other women who just enjoy indulging in sex, and lots of it. These women should not be seen as “hoes”, when in all actuality, they are not committing any “hoeish” crimes. They just want to experience new things and people… and they SHOULD NOT be treated as the nasty, devious RATS that are REAL hoes.
Men’s main argument with why women shouldn’t have as many sexual partners is this… “Your pussy is going to be all loose”. Well, I’d like to yell BULLSHIT! The vagina is a WONDROUS invention, for you see, it is like pure ELASTIC. Women have the ability to push out something 10 cm. and above in diameter and guess what? The pussy SNAPS back to its original form. Seriously, if a bitch can push out babies and NOT be loose… I HIGHLY DOUBT some dick is going to knock the walls off that shit.
Blah… This has proven to be a lot longer than I thought it would be, so I’m a wrap this shit up. Women, we have come a long way and have fought for RIGHTS. Women protested, burned bras and FOUGHT for us to be seen as EQUALS. But seriously, bitches are FREMENEMIES to other bitches. STOP HATIN and stop letting men RUN YOUR SHIT!
It is 2009, ain’t nothing wrong with FUCKIN and enjoying sex… as long as you ain’t participating in HOEISH activities. Lastly, HOW can you expect MEN to treat us as EQUALS when we ourselves can’t treat each other with RESPECT! Men… KNOW that there is a DIFFERENCE between a sexually liberated woman and a hoe. And real talk, most of you can’t talk shit anyways, because in all actuality, you are the one who is a HOE. And lastly, if you REALLY think women’s pussies stretch out the more men they fuck- you’re a DE-DE-DE! Granted, like dicks, vaginal canals come in all shapes and sizes… But chances are if she can push out something as big as 10 cm. and it STILL snap back… NO amount of dick can do damage… And, did it ever occur to you that she’s not really loose? Maybe, you’re just REALLY small… Whomp, Whomp…
Until next time kiddies….
Well… lately I’ve been thinking about this very topic more and more. The more I educate myself and reflect on history; the more I realize how fucked up we’re living. As time has gone by, women have fought for rights that were denied to us even a hundred years ago. So we now have rights and are to be seen as “equals” to men… now what?
I’d like to reflect on history and begin to analyze where and why women began being treated in such a fashion. Hmmm… not to go far too much, lets start with Medieval times, and the Dark Ages- for they were fairly dark… especially for women. Women were seen as emotional creatures… something they are still seen as today. But I found the way they described the women of the time fascinating.
Women were easily swayed and tempted by the devil… They also were said to have insatiable sex drives and for this, were seen as evil and products of the devil. They were to remain virgins in order to preserve the name and honor of her family. She was to be humble, devout and motherly. Now this all ties into religion as well… because religion back then was EVERYTHING. If you disobeyed what had been written, you were most certainly going to be condemned to Hades.
This is what I think REALLY happened. Men… know now and forever, that PUSSY runs the world. Many of wars have been fought over just that- PUSSY! Women have power in their panties, and most women don’t even know of the power that they TRULY have. Pussy has the ability to make a man dumb as shit, it has the ability to make him want to spend all his money, it can make him become estranged from family and friends, it can make him KILL someone. Sorry to tell you, but that is how powerful pussy is… some men would do ANYTHING for it.
Now the reason why men go all gaga over pussy is because logically speaking… Men have a way harder time getting laid then women do. The men who have acquired “game” and those that look good enough to eat… need not apply- you guys get the pussy thrown at you…. But, for the everyday Joe, pussy is a quest… If you don’t believe me, think about it like this- the UGLIEST, FATTEST bitch in the world, would STILL get dick, before the UGLIEST man got some pussy. Why? Men are ALWAYS down to fuck something… and most niccas don’t give a shit- especially when now, you can officially blame it on the alcohol!
Now, when it comes to getting laid…. Women have NO problem. The only thing that holds women back is their NEED to have a mental/emotional connection with the person they’re sleeping with. Real talk though…. To all the bitches that BITCH and COMPLAIN they ain’t getting laid- LOOK AROUND BITCH! Pick one, any one you want, maybe some eye candy … and 9 out of 10 times… he’s down… Bitches, stop DEPRIVING yourself of dick, and LEARN to fuck and detach feelings when doing so. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself which equals confidence; besides, you’re a MEGA bitch when you ain’t getting laid!
That is a MAIN difference in sex when it comes to men and women. Women are mental and emotional, and men are visual and physical. Women, you need to know that YOU hold the power, and if you see something you like… There’s nothing wrong with sampling different cookies in the jar. Plus, it gives you more experience and when you’re married and 40, you won’t REGRET not fucking the shit outta that sexy man 20 yrs ago.
Back to the oppression of women back in time… So what I think happened, is some MAN figured out what I just explained. PUSSY IS POWER! He figured it out and said “Oh Shit! What we gunna do, women ain’t running shit”, Why? Because men are territorial and egotistical. And at that point in time, they would of rather died, than let a WOMAN tell them about religion, politics, family or anything that involved deeper thinking skills. And…. So began the oppression of women and the double-standards that we until today carry in society.
In order to keep the women of those times in “check” and obedient… what they did was tie in RELIGION! These women were scared to do or say anything for a long time, because they believed that in doing so, they were going to HELL! The men of these times can be summed up in two words- DOUCHE BAGS!
How has times changed? Eh, while women carry many rights today that our sisters failed to have so many years ago; women are still seen in an inferior light as opposed to men. We still carry many double-standards today that existed back then as well. Double-standards that were MADE by who? MEN!
It’s crazy how much the times have changed. Women are coming up in the world, but who knows if we will ever be TRULY seen as “equals”. This can not be blamed on just one sex though. Women and men alike have fair involvement in making it what it is today. Women…. Some of you play that damsel in distress card a little too much, we’re living in 2009- get independent bitch! Men… Some of you have the audacity to judge a women for things she has done sexually, but believe it is quite all right for men to fuck everything that walks! Until everyone learns to keep an open mind and be none judgmental… the world will cease to be this way and women will be oppressed.
Women… I must address you first on this one, because frankly if you didn’t know- WOMEN are the WORST ENEMIES of other WOMEN. Seriously, we are… and you hater ass bitches KNOW who you are deep inside. It’s crazy how women could plot so deviously against other women. And it’s ridiculous that women get MAD when they see another woman doing BETTER than she is.
If you see another woman out there doing good for herself, you should be HAPPY for her. She should serve as your MOTIVATION! Hey, if SHE can do it, then so can YOU! I’m so tired of bitches hating on other bitches. You have the EXACT SAME OPPORTUNITIES THAT I DO… If you don’t make it work out for yourself- that’s on you dumb ass. But don’t hate on me and mine when I’m doing better than you!
Next, is how green with ENVY a bitch will get when she sees that you have a “good” man. Of course she’ll compliment you two as a couple, but secretly, she plots to steal that “good” man for herself. You sniveling, conniving, desperate sewer RATS! Be happy that your friend has gotten herself a good man, and STOP trying to take what’s not yours. You bitches help contribute to the struggle that we, as women are in. You get NO RESPECT. And remember this you GREEDY BITCH- if he cheated WITH you, then he will cheat ON you. Don’t act all surprised when that shit happens, you set yourself up lovely for that one!
Which brings me to the bitches who fuck the men of other women. You bitches are despicable and are at the extreme bottom of the food chain. It is one thing to fuck a man who lied to you about a girlfriend and/or wife, that’s his fault- you didn’t know. Now when you find out… CUT IT OFF. Have some dignity and morals. To the leeches who KNOW that a man is in a relationship… You help contribute to cheating, the breaking of families, and more seriously the hate and jealousy that shadows all women. I’d like to take this moment to say- FUCK YOU! You have no morals, values or a conscience… You, get that “Scum of the Earth” classification.
Another thing, bitches… Stop being STUPID! If your man cheated on you… your beef is NOT with the tramp he cheated with. It is with him! Unless you know the bitch, then you can whip her ass on principle alone… but if you DO NOT know the female, leave her ass out of it. HE is the ENEMY, NOT HER! I see so many bitches fighting over niccas that ain’t worth a DIME, stop playing yourself! He ain’t Reggie Bush, Denzel or Usher… and even then you shouldn’t be fighting over a damn man. Stop letting MEN put women against each other… that’s what he wants, just so you’ll forget that HE’S THE ONE THAT CHEATED!
*sigh… Back to equality, one of the main reasons I believe that men DO NOT take women seriously is because BITCHES DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY REALLY WANT. Really though, women want to be seen as equals, yet at the same time want special consideration because why? She’s a woman. Make up your fucking minds… You can be equal and INDEPENDENT or you can be seen as the inferior damsel in distress… You can only chose one!
Enough about the catty bitches that roam the earth… on to the DOGS! Men, for as long as history tells… You have oppressed women and honestly, I don’t all the way blame you. Women ARE emotionally unstable creatures who don’t know what the hell they want- well, MOST of them. And yea, they may fuck important shit up, who knows. But, what I DO NOT agree with are the double-standards that have come from this oppression.
In early times, women would be killed by her father and/or brothers if she were found to not be a virgin before she was married. This was done to preserve the honor of her family. Ok, WTF is that about? Marriages were arranged, and husbands were “brought”. If you had money, you could buy your daughter a great husband. Women were not a part of her fathers inheritance, and they were almost invisible in a sense to society. They held no class, instead they were seen as whatever class their fathers or husbands were in.
For centuries, men held on tightly to the reins they had invisibly and secretively thrown over women. Women worked hard to tend their homes and first and foremost, bear and raise children. Now, although women have come a long way from these dark times, some things are still alive today. One thing in particular is the double-standard of sexual escapades.
It is the year 2009, why is it that forever, men have been able to fuck WHOEVER they want… and they can fuck as MANY women they want- yet, they are NOT seen as the whores that they are? Instead, they get a pat on the back because they’re “the man”. Honestly, the world needs to WAKE THE FUCK UP! If men can do it, so can women- and women are none the lesser for it. Women have wants and needs as well, and seriously, women want to fuck JUST AS MUCH as men do. They don’t though, because they don’t want to be seen as “whores, hoes, sluts, etc.”
This is a new century, and women need to come out of those shells and get THEIR FUCK ON! There’s nothing wrong with casual sex. There is nothing wrong with fucking more than a fixed amount of men. You only get one life and you should live it to the fullest. Wild the fuck out, before you run off, get married and end up a desperate housewife. When you look back, you should say “wow, I had fun” not “damn, I should of done that when I had the chance”. Most women get hung up on emotions and sex, but IT IS possible to have emotionless sex. Get with the times bitches!
Now, I’m NOT saying to go fuck every man you see. What I AM saying though is, if you REALLY want to fuck… What other people may think of you, should not be a factor. There are differences between a SEXUALLY LIBERATED woman, and a HOE! A sexually liberated woman knows the following things:
- Some sexual acts are intimate and should only be done with those special to your heart. So, sucking off every nicca on the block… is a hoeish activity.
- When you fuck two men within the same social circle, they WILL talk about your ass. So… fucking two brothers, cousins, best friends or participating in a free for all train… is a hoeish activity.
-There are hundreds of diseases in this world and sex should be done SAFELY. So, fucking and sucking raw… is a hoeish activity.
- A sexually liberated woman is confidant and knows she can get any man, and doesn’t want the ones that are already taken- even if they want her. Fucking another woman’s man is not just CLASSLESS… it is a hoeish activity.
Hmmm… Some women REALLY are hoes and they conduct themselves as much. But there are other women who just enjoy indulging in sex, and lots of it. These women should not be seen as “hoes”, when in all actuality, they are not committing any “hoeish” crimes. They just want to experience new things and people… and they SHOULD NOT be treated as the nasty, devious RATS that are REAL hoes.
Men’s main argument with why women shouldn’t have as many sexual partners is this… “Your pussy is going to be all loose”. Well, I’d like to yell BULLSHIT! The vagina is a WONDROUS invention, for you see, it is like pure ELASTIC. Women have the ability to push out something 10 cm. and above in diameter and guess what? The pussy SNAPS back to its original form. Seriously, if a bitch can push out babies and NOT be loose… I HIGHLY DOUBT some dick is going to knock the walls off that shit.
Blah… This has proven to be a lot longer than I thought it would be, so I’m a wrap this shit up. Women, we have come a long way and have fought for RIGHTS. Women protested, burned bras and FOUGHT for us to be seen as EQUALS. But seriously, bitches are FREMENEMIES to other bitches. STOP HATIN and stop letting men RUN YOUR SHIT!
It is 2009, ain’t nothing wrong with FUCKIN and enjoying sex… as long as you ain’t participating in HOEISH activities. Lastly, HOW can you expect MEN to treat us as EQUALS when we ourselves can’t treat each other with RESPECT! Men… KNOW that there is a DIFFERENCE between a sexually liberated woman and a hoe. And real talk, most of you can’t talk shit anyways, because in all actuality, you are the one who is a HOE. And lastly, if you REALLY think women’s pussies stretch out the more men they fuck- you’re a DE-DE-DE! Granted, like dicks, vaginal canals come in all shapes and sizes… But chances are if she can push out something as big as 10 cm. and it STILL snap back… NO amount of dick can do damage… And, did it ever occur to you that she’s not really loose? Maybe, you’re just REALLY small… Whomp, Whomp…
Until next time kiddies….
Captain Save a Hoe!
So… Captain Save a Hoe, what does this mean in essence? Well, according to Urbandictionary.com, Captain Save a Hoe is:
1. Derived from a 1993 rap song by rapper E-40 about the adventures of a Financial Savior to under privileged inner city hood rats.
2. A Gold Digger's dream. A man that will drop dimes on you (i.e. get your hair and nails done, take care of your child, pay your bills).
Ok, so lets go with number 2... A GOLD DIGGERS DREAM. Now, the elusive gold digger has many forms and DON’T get that shit twisted cuz MEN are GOLD DIGGERS too. How do you recognize a gold digger?
First of all, whether it’s a man or a woman, gold diggers are usually BROKE… as hell. Like, don’t got two nickels to rub together broke. Secondly, know that they are the BEST LIARS, and do so CHRONICALLY! I like to believe that they lie so much, they actually believe their own lies. Lastly, they tend to play the VICTIM role… and some of them could win a Oscar’s for their damn performances.
They get in your head and play that good FRIEND role, they feed you their sob story… share dreams and goals with you, make it seem like they DO have their shit together…but what they really are, are the MASTERS of MANIPULATION. And, because they have now gotten you to CARE… you are right where they want you. Why? Because when you CARE, you are MORE LIKELY to help them out… when their certain situations arise.
So, when RECOGNIZING a gold digger look for certain signs- like if you go out and they never have money and they make hints at wanting certain things. There are also those who are SCAVENGERS when you go out with them, and they don’t ever got money to drink or smoke… but they’re always STRATEGICALLY there when blunts and bottles are being passed around. These people have a large social network because they need to have SEVERAL options. They are also like LEECHES and will suck you dry for everything you have right before they leave you for someone else who has what they want and/or needs.
Now, there are some dudes… who play their position right and by some MIRACLE get women to buy them shit. They talk a good game and usually LIE like their ass depends on it (and sometimes it does). They make these women DELUSIONAL… and then, RAPE their pockets. I would like to address those men by first saying: YOU’RE A MAN! MAN THE FUCK UP! Stop being a lil bitch, in all actuality, that is what you are doing… pulling a BITCH move and you get NO respect for that.
These men are usually SURROUNDED (but not always) by others of his kind… DOGS run in packs. They usually look good, smell good and act right, but it is ALL a FRONT! In all actuality, they are broke, but you usually don’t find that out until later. Now when you do ladies, KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB… I don’t know about you broads, but I REFUSE to take care of a GROWN ASS MAN. He is NOT handicapped, therefore, if I can bust my ass for mine, SO CAN YOU NICCA!
Women, we are in 2009... And therefore, your ass SHOULD BE independent. I always had a problem with depending on other people: 1. Because if you need something done right, you have to do it yourself and 2. Because NOTHING in this world is free, and I NEVER want to feel like I OWE someone something. So, I totally believe that things should be 50/50. Ladies have some remorse for the brothers, they work JUST as hard for their cash… and shouldn’t HAVE TO spend it all on your ass.
On to women who are gold diggers… I’ve seen bitches get dudes to pay for everything- and all the man got was a KISS. For one, brother, STOP BEING STUPID. If a bitch wanna fuck you, she’s gunna REGARDLESS of how much money you shell out. So stop trying to pay to play, most of the bitches you spend YOUR hard earned cash on… DO NOT even wanna fuck you. So, find someone else who DOES… even though, I know some dudes are really dumb enough to put themselves out there and offer it. For being a DUMB ASS… lmao, YOU DESERVE IT! Stop telling bitches how much you make in hopes of impressing her… REAL WOMEN, are NOT impressed by your bank account.
To the VICTIMS of gold diggers… I cannot address a certain gender, as this is 2009, and men are JUST as bad as the bitches are. STOP playing captain save a hoe. If you don’t know that’s your ROLE, take a good look at the person you fucking with… some examples:
- If you cant really ever think of a time THEY got YOU something…
- If you feel like they ALWAYS are asking for shit, and you get nothing in return… and NO sex doesn’t fucking count… (I know some of you think it does)
- If their ass ALWAYS smoking and drinking YOUR shit, and they NEVER got shit of their own…. (and they don’t even got 5 on it or go buy the damn blunt)…
If you said yes, to any one of these above- you may very well be a CAPTAIN SAVE A HOE! What to do now? Drop that broke ass mofo.
Next, on my agenda… I must address the other type of Captain Save a Hoe… cuz in my opinion too many damn people are out trying to save hoes that DO NOT want to be saved. Men and women do it… I’d say that women do it waaaaay more though.
Women like a challenge and like to play “fix it”. What do I say about that?? If its broken, chances are YOU can’t fix it. Women preoccupy themselves with what I like to call “PROJECTS” and she meets a man who is less than up to par, but she kinda likes him and what does she say? “He’ll change”… Bitch, your fucking delusional! The way you met that man is the way he will stay, unless HE wants to change. Who are you to think you can play GOD and change anything or anyone? A change comes from within a person, and it CANNOT be swayed by the opinions or actions of another person. If he’s a BUM ASS NICCA and shows no motivation or ambition… his ass DO NOT wanna change. Which means, cut your loses and MOVE ON.
I am so TIRED of bitches who think they can change a man… if he was a HOEIN ASS NICCA when you met him, what makes you think YOU can change that? And let’s not even start on the bitches who FUCK a dude in a RELATIONSHIP. Ok, so he left her and now he with you. Now, what makes you think YOUR special… if he cheated WITH you, he will cheat ON you… if you think not… YOUR FUCKIN IGNORANT, and don’t cry when his ass FUCK your best friend.
See… people, you set yourself UP FOR FAILURE. If you’re fucking with a person who you LIKE, then HOP OFF that shit when you see RED FLAGS. Most of you don’t hop off the bandwagon, because you hope they will change, or that you can HELP them change… but true story- THAT SHIT AINT HAPPENING. So stop wasting PRECIOUS TIME on “PROJECTS”… Time is money.
So… what have we learned today? 1. If you taking care of someone else- your not ONLY a CAPTAIN SAVE a HOE, you’re also a SUCKER MC! 2. If its BROKEN, don’t FIX it… and 3. You all need to stop setting yourself up to FAIL. You will NEVER be happy that way.
Until next time kids…
1. Derived from a 1993 rap song by rapper E-40 about the adventures of a Financial Savior to under privileged inner city hood rats.
2. A Gold Digger's dream. A man that will drop dimes on you (i.e. get your hair and nails done, take care of your child, pay your bills).
Ok, so lets go with number 2... A GOLD DIGGERS DREAM. Now, the elusive gold digger has many forms and DON’T get that shit twisted cuz MEN are GOLD DIGGERS too. How do you recognize a gold digger?
First of all, whether it’s a man or a woman, gold diggers are usually BROKE… as hell. Like, don’t got two nickels to rub together broke. Secondly, know that they are the BEST LIARS, and do so CHRONICALLY! I like to believe that they lie so much, they actually believe their own lies. Lastly, they tend to play the VICTIM role… and some of them could win a Oscar’s for their damn performances.
They get in your head and play that good FRIEND role, they feed you their sob story… share dreams and goals with you, make it seem like they DO have their shit together…but what they really are, are the MASTERS of MANIPULATION. And, because they have now gotten you to CARE… you are right where they want you. Why? Because when you CARE, you are MORE LIKELY to help them out… when their certain situations arise.
So, when RECOGNIZING a gold digger look for certain signs- like if you go out and they never have money and they make hints at wanting certain things. There are also those who are SCAVENGERS when you go out with them, and they don’t ever got money to drink or smoke… but they’re always STRATEGICALLY there when blunts and bottles are being passed around. These people have a large social network because they need to have SEVERAL options. They are also like LEECHES and will suck you dry for everything you have right before they leave you for someone else who has what they want and/or needs.
Now, there are some dudes… who play their position right and by some MIRACLE get women to buy them shit. They talk a good game and usually LIE like their ass depends on it (and sometimes it does). They make these women DELUSIONAL… and then, RAPE their pockets. I would like to address those men by first saying: YOU’RE A MAN! MAN THE FUCK UP! Stop being a lil bitch, in all actuality, that is what you are doing… pulling a BITCH move and you get NO respect for that.
These men are usually SURROUNDED (but not always) by others of his kind… DOGS run in packs. They usually look good, smell good and act right, but it is ALL a FRONT! In all actuality, they are broke, but you usually don’t find that out until later. Now when you do ladies, KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB… I don’t know about you broads, but I REFUSE to take care of a GROWN ASS MAN. He is NOT handicapped, therefore, if I can bust my ass for mine, SO CAN YOU NICCA!
Women, we are in 2009... And therefore, your ass SHOULD BE independent. I always had a problem with depending on other people: 1. Because if you need something done right, you have to do it yourself and 2. Because NOTHING in this world is free, and I NEVER want to feel like I OWE someone something. So, I totally believe that things should be 50/50. Ladies have some remorse for the brothers, they work JUST as hard for their cash… and shouldn’t HAVE TO spend it all on your ass.
On to women who are gold diggers… I’ve seen bitches get dudes to pay for everything- and all the man got was a KISS. For one, brother, STOP BEING STUPID. If a bitch wanna fuck you, she’s gunna REGARDLESS of how much money you shell out. So stop trying to pay to play, most of the bitches you spend YOUR hard earned cash on… DO NOT even wanna fuck you. So, find someone else who DOES… even though, I know some dudes are really dumb enough to put themselves out there and offer it. For being a DUMB ASS… lmao, YOU DESERVE IT! Stop telling bitches how much you make in hopes of impressing her… REAL WOMEN, are NOT impressed by your bank account.
To the VICTIMS of gold diggers… I cannot address a certain gender, as this is 2009, and men are JUST as bad as the bitches are. STOP playing captain save a hoe. If you don’t know that’s your ROLE, take a good look at the person you fucking with… some examples:
- If you cant really ever think of a time THEY got YOU something…
- If you feel like they ALWAYS are asking for shit, and you get nothing in return… and NO sex doesn’t fucking count… (I know some of you think it does)
- If their ass ALWAYS smoking and drinking YOUR shit, and they NEVER got shit of their own…. (and they don’t even got 5 on it or go buy the damn blunt)…
If you said yes, to any one of these above- you may very well be a CAPTAIN SAVE A HOE! What to do now? Drop that broke ass mofo.
Next, on my agenda… I must address the other type of Captain Save a Hoe… cuz in my opinion too many damn people are out trying to save hoes that DO NOT want to be saved. Men and women do it… I’d say that women do it waaaaay more though.
Women like a challenge and like to play “fix it”. What do I say about that?? If its broken, chances are YOU can’t fix it. Women preoccupy themselves with what I like to call “PROJECTS” and she meets a man who is less than up to par, but she kinda likes him and what does she say? “He’ll change”… Bitch, your fucking delusional! The way you met that man is the way he will stay, unless HE wants to change. Who are you to think you can play GOD and change anything or anyone? A change comes from within a person, and it CANNOT be swayed by the opinions or actions of another person. If he’s a BUM ASS NICCA and shows no motivation or ambition… his ass DO NOT wanna change. Which means, cut your loses and MOVE ON.
I am so TIRED of bitches who think they can change a man… if he was a HOEIN ASS NICCA when you met him, what makes you think YOU can change that? And let’s not even start on the bitches who FUCK a dude in a RELATIONSHIP. Ok, so he left her and now he with you. Now, what makes you think YOUR special… if he cheated WITH you, he will cheat ON you… if you think not… YOUR FUCKIN IGNORANT, and don’t cry when his ass FUCK your best friend.
See… people, you set yourself UP FOR FAILURE. If you’re fucking with a person who you LIKE, then HOP OFF that shit when you see RED FLAGS. Most of you don’t hop off the bandwagon, because you hope they will change, or that you can HELP them change… but true story- THAT SHIT AINT HAPPENING. So stop wasting PRECIOUS TIME on “PROJECTS”… Time is money.
So… what have we learned today? 1. If you taking care of someone else- your not ONLY a CAPTAIN SAVE a HOE, you’re also a SUCKER MC! 2. If its BROKEN, don’t FIX it… and 3. You all need to stop setting yourself up to FAIL. You will NEVER be happy that way.
Until next time kids…
Dating... Obsolete?
Love P.T. 2... here it is.
I want to address cheating and love from a different perspective. Now, as I said in the last post- you CANNOT possibly be IN LOVE with someone and cheat on them. Now the question is… is it possible to LOVE someone and cheat on them? The answer is YES!
Like I said before, being IN LOVE and just LOVING someone are two completely different things, and they should never be used interchangeably. When you are IN LOVE- you’re a blinded race horse, but when you love someone- there is absolutely no guarantee of the magic blinders.
You can love anyone, and anything at any given point in time. The word love itself has been sooo overused that it seems to have even lost its meaning in a sense. Love is a word thrown around loosely today in age. Now to apply this to the relationship realm- when someone says the love you, are they being real?
Only you can determine this, for no one should know your partner more than you do. If you don’t REALLY know your partner that well- you better do some damn soul searching and find out EXACTLY what that person is about. That’s what is wrong today, people do not take the time to get to know each other. This is why you’re relationships fail and after being with a person for a long while- you STILL DON’T KNOW WHO THE FUCK THEY REALLY ARE!
First and foremost, before entering any relationship- you need to think of it as a business deal in a sense. Who’s gunna sign a contract for a major deal without researching, reading the damn contract FIRST, and checking out all that fine print. That’s what you need to do- delve into a person and find out who they truly are BEFORE making a commitment to them. That way, you at least know what the hell your getting yourself into before you commit to it- and most importantly, there are no surprises.
These are things that are done and discussed during the “dating” period- and seeing as its becoming obsolete- a lot of you people are FUCKED and in FUCKED UP relationships (choosing a mate- this blog will be written soon).
Now, off to matters of the heart and the monsters who cheat. I’ve come to the understanding that it is perfectly possible to cheat and still love someone. This is because there is NOT a level of deeper connections there. Being IN LOVE with someone ensures this deeper connection of mind, body and spirit.
But love… shit, I love my phone- but as soon as an upgraded model comes out, I’m getting the new one. Think of it like that, when it comes to love in these ages- anything is REPLACEABLE. Why? Because in today’s age the word love and feelings associated with JUST love (not being in love), has lost a vital part to it- LOYALTY. Anyone can say they love you, but whether or not they will be loyal is open for discussion.
How this happened… who knows, but I assure you it is very REAL. I believe that is why it is so easy for people to cheat in relationships. One, because there are a shit load of people walking the face of the earth right now who do not know the difference between love and being in love… and honestly, until you have REALLY been IN LOVE- you won’t be able to decipher these two feelings. You have absolutely nothing to go on, and people can only explain what being in love is to certain degree- but you definitely have to FEEL IT to believe it.
Being that there are so many people who do not know what the fuck they’re talking about, the words love and in love are often misused and/or used interchangeably. This causes the meaning of the word to diminish over time, and just confuse people about what these two very separate things are.
Two, because the word love has been so overused and abused… love has lost a major component- LOYALTY. Think about it like this… socially speaking, the feeling of being IN LOVE is supposed to be reserved for a significant other, while LOVE is used to describe feelings for your friends and family. Now, you love your family and friends- right? Now tell me, are you LOYAL to them? Are you loyal to your friends or family? Would you have their back at all times, support them through their endeavors, keep their secrets, stick up for them, always want to have good communication between you, and at the end of the day, you always make up after fights and you always know where home’s at.
This is the shit I’m talking about because when it comes to relationships, people can use the word love and not be loyal… which leads me to believe either one of two things- either you are a disillusioned FOOL who has absolutely no fucking idea what love is OR you simply do not REALLY love the person.
Which brings me to the conclusion that either the word LOVE in relationships has lose ties with its best friend LOYALTY, or there’s a shit load of people LYING about loving someone. This is why it may be so simple to cheat on someone you just love- because you have absolutely no loyalty to them. For you DISLOYAL FUCKERS being that you do not feel this loyalty, you don’t feel that it matters. It doesn’t matter if you cheat even if you love a person… and you can cheat with no remorse at all.
You can be on the phone with your mate and say “I love you”, hang up, and two seconds later go holla at that sexiness you just saw walk past you. I think that this is a characteristic that is becoming obsolete in the world of cheaters- loyalty. It’s come to the point where I have to give disloyal bastards their own category in the cheaters list. The main difference between disloyal cheaters and regular cheaters is their level of remorse.
Someone who is a disloyal cheater, really doesn’t GIVE A FUCK. They are serial daters, they cheat like fucking crazy in relationships, most of the time the relationship they are in is great… and the best part about it all is that they REALLY don’t give a fuck. They have NO remorse, or a moral compass instilled in them. They don’t even think what they are doing is WRONG, and that’s the worst type of cheater to deal with.
So… all my lovely readers- what did we learn today? First of all, KNOW who you are dealing with and what you are getting yourself into BEFORE you run off and commit. Don’t let someone catch you off guard and surprise you with shit a few months or years down the line (some people can front for longer periods of time).
And secondly, know the difference between love and being IN love, and discuss how you feel about these things with your partner- this is definitely something that should be discussed OPEN and HONESTLY (this means that when having this conversation: bitches- don’t get all fucking emotional and niccas- don’t lie and tell a bitch what you think she wants to hear). This should be part of the “getting to know each other phase” , before actual commitment (remember- KNOW what you’re getting yourself into).
Also, keep the conversation light- do not get too serious! The main reason for discussion is JUST to find out where their head is at when it comes to matters of love, and to find out whether or not your views are compatible.
So…. Next time someone tells you they love you- say they can keep that shit, because you’d prefer their LOYALTY!
Until next time kiddies.
I want to address cheating and love from a different perspective. Now, as I said in the last post- you CANNOT possibly be IN LOVE with someone and cheat on them. Now the question is… is it possible to LOVE someone and cheat on them? The answer is YES!
Like I said before, being IN LOVE and just LOVING someone are two completely different things, and they should never be used interchangeably. When you are IN LOVE- you’re a blinded race horse, but when you love someone- there is absolutely no guarantee of the magic blinders.
You can love anyone, and anything at any given point in time. The word love itself has been sooo overused that it seems to have even lost its meaning in a sense. Love is a word thrown around loosely today in age. Now to apply this to the relationship realm- when someone says the love you, are they being real?
Only you can determine this, for no one should know your partner more than you do. If you don’t REALLY know your partner that well- you better do some damn soul searching and find out EXACTLY what that person is about. That’s what is wrong today, people do not take the time to get to know each other. This is why you’re relationships fail and after being with a person for a long while- you STILL DON’T KNOW WHO THE FUCK THEY REALLY ARE!
First and foremost, before entering any relationship- you need to think of it as a business deal in a sense. Who’s gunna sign a contract for a major deal without researching, reading the damn contract FIRST, and checking out all that fine print. That’s what you need to do- delve into a person and find out who they truly are BEFORE making a commitment to them. That way, you at least know what the hell your getting yourself into before you commit to it- and most importantly, there are no surprises.
These are things that are done and discussed during the “dating” period- and seeing as its becoming obsolete- a lot of you people are FUCKED and in FUCKED UP relationships (choosing a mate- this blog will be written soon).
Now, off to matters of the heart and the monsters who cheat. I’ve come to the understanding that it is perfectly possible to cheat and still love someone. This is because there is NOT a level of deeper connections there. Being IN LOVE with someone ensures this deeper connection of mind, body and spirit.
But love… shit, I love my phone- but as soon as an upgraded model comes out, I’m getting the new one. Think of it like that, when it comes to love in these ages- anything is REPLACEABLE. Why? Because in today’s age the word love and feelings associated with JUST love (not being in love), has lost a vital part to it- LOYALTY. Anyone can say they love you, but whether or not they will be loyal is open for discussion.
How this happened… who knows, but I assure you it is very REAL. I believe that is why it is so easy for people to cheat in relationships. One, because there are a shit load of people walking the face of the earth right now who do not know the difference between love and being in love… and honestly, until you have REALLY been IN LOVE- you won’t be able to decipher these two feelings. You have absolutely nothing to go on, and people can only explain what being in love is to certain degree- but you definitely have to FEEL IT to believe it.
Being that there are so many people who do not know what the fuck they’re talking about, the words love and in love are often misused and/or used interchangeably. This causes the meaning of the word to diminish over time, and just confuse people about what these two very separate things are.
Two, because the word love has been so overused and abused… love has lost a major component- LOYALTY. Think about it like this… socially speaking, the feeling of being IN LOVE is supposed to be reserved for a significant other, while LOVE is used to describe feelings for your friends and family. Now, you love your family and friends- right? Now tell me, are you LOYAL to them? Are you loyal to your friends or family? Would you have their back at all times, support them through their endeavors, keep their secrets, stick up for them, always want to have good communication between you, and at the end of the day, you always make up after fights and you always know where home’s at.
This is the shit I’m talking about because when it comes to relationships, people can use the word love and not be loyal… which leads me to believe either one of two things- either you are a disillusioned FOOL who has absolutely no fucking idea what love is OR you simply do not REALLY love the person.
Which brings me to the conclusion that either the word LOVE in relationships has lose ties with its best friend LOYALTY, or there’s a shit load of people LYING about loving someone. This is why it may be so simple to cheat on someone you just love- because you have absolutely no loyalty to them. For you DISLOYAL FUCKERS being that you do not feel this loyalty, you don’t feel that it matters. It doesn’t matter if you cheat even if you love a person… and you can cheat with no remorse at all.
You can be on the phone with your mate and say “I love you”, hang up, and two seconds later go holla at that sexiness you just saw walk past you. I think that this is a characteristic that is becoming obsolete in the world of cheaters- loyalty. It’s come to the point where I have to give disloyal bastards their own category in the cheaters list. The main difference between disloyal cheaters and regular cheaters is their level of remorse.
Someone who is a disloyal cheater, really doesn’t GIVE A FUCK. They are serial daters, they cheat like fucking crazy in relationships, most of the time the relationship they are in is great… and the best part about it all is that they REALLY don’t give a fuck. They have NO remorse, or a moral compass instilled in them. They don’t even think what they are doing is WRONG, and that’s the worst type of cheater to deal with.
So… all my lovely readers- what did we learn today? First of all, KNOW who you are dealing with and what you are getting yourself into BEFORE you run off and commit. Don’t let someone catch you off guard and surprise you with shit a few months or years down the line (some people can front for longer periods of time).
And secondly, know the difference between love and being IN love, and discuss how you feel about these things with your partner- this is definitely something that should be discussed OPEN and HONESTLY (this means that when having this conversation: bitches- don’t get all fucking emotional and niccas- don’t lie and tell a bitch what you think she wants to hear). This should be part of the “getting to know each other phase” , before actual commitment (remember- KNOW what you’re getting yourself into).
Also, keep the conversation light- do not get too serious! The main reason for discussion is JUST to find out where their head is at when it comes to matters of love, and to find out whether or not your views are compatible.
So…. Next time someone tells you they love you- say they can keep that shit, because you’d prefer their LOYALTY!
Until next time kiddies.
Love & Cheating Pt. 2- WTF Happened 2 LOYALTY?
Love P.T. 2... here it is.
I want to address cheating and love from a different perspective. Now, as I said in the last post- you CANNOT possibly be IN LOVE with someone and cheat on them. Now the question is… is it possible to LOVE someone and cheat on them? The answer is YES!
Like I said before, being IN LOVE and just LOVING someone are two completely different things, and they should never be used interchangeably. When you are IN LOVE- you’re a blinded race horse, but when you love someone- there is absolutely no guarantee of the magic blinders.
You can love anyone, and anything at any given point in time. The word love itself has been sooo overused that it seems to have even lost its meaning in a sense. Love is a word thrown around loosely today in age. Now to apply this to the relationship realm- when someone says the love you, are they being real?
Only you can determine this, for no one should know your partner more than you do. If you don’t REALLY know your partner that well- you better do some damn soul searching and find out EXACTLY what that person is about. That’s what is wrong today, people do not take the time to get to know each other. This is why you’re relationships fail and after being with a person for a long while- you STILL DON’T KNOW WHO THE FUCK THEY REALLY ARE!
First and foremost, before entering any relationship- you need to think of it as a business deal in a sense. Who’s gunna sign a contract for a major deal without researching, reading the damn contract FIRST, and checking out all that fine print. That’s what you need to do- delve into a person and find out who they truly are BEFORE making a commitment to them. That way, you at least know what the hell your getting yourself into before you commit to it- and most importantly, there are no surprises.
These are things that are done and discussed during the “dating” period- and seeing as its becoming obsolete- a lot of you people are FUCKED and in FUCKED UP relationships (choosing a mate- this blog will be written soon).
Now, off to matters of the heart and the monsters who cheat. I’ve come to the understanding that it is perfectly possible to cheat and still love someone. This is because there is NOT a level of deeper connections there. Being IN LOVE with someone ensures this deeper connection of mind, body and spirit.
But love… shit, I love my phone- but as soon as an upgraded model comes out, I’m getting the new one. Think of it like that, when it comes to love in these ages- anything is REPLACEABLE. Why? Because in today’s age the word love and feelings associated with JUST love (not being in love), has lost a vital part to it- LOYALTY. Anyone can say they love you, but whether or not they will be loyal is open for discussion.
How this happened… who knows, but I assure you it is very REAL. I believe that is why it is so easy for people to cheat in relationships. One, because there are a shit load of people walking the face of the earth right now who do not know the difference between love and being in love… and honestly, until you have REALLY been IN LOVE- you won’t be able to decipher these two feelings. You have absolutely nothing to go on, and people can only explain what being in love is to certain degree- but you definitely have to FEEL IT to believe it.
Being that there are so many people who do not know what the fuck they’re talking about, the words love and in love are often misused and/or used interchangeably. This causes the meaning of the word to diminish over time, and just confuse people about what these two very separate things are.
Two, because the word love has been so overused and abused… love has lost a major component- LOYALTY. Think about it like this… socially speaking, the feeling of being IN LOVE is supposed to be reserved for a significant other, while LOVE is used to describe feelings for your friends and family. Now, you love your family and friends- right? Now tell me, are you LOYAL to them? Are you loyal to your friends or family? Would you have their back at all times, support them through their endeavors, keep their secrets, stick up for them, always want to have good communication between you, and at the end of the day, you always make up after fights and you always know where home’s at.
This is the shit I’m talking about because when it comes to relationships, people can use the word love and not be loyal… which leads me to believe either one of two things- either you are a disillusioned FOOL who has absolutely no fucking idea what love is OR you simply do not REALLY love the person.
Which brings me to the conclusion that either the word LOVE in relationships has lose ties with its best friend LOYALTY, or there’s a shit load of people LYING about loving someone. This is why it may be so simple to cheat on someone you just love- because you have absolutely no loyalty to them. For you DISLOYAL FUCKERS being that you do not feel this loyalty, you don’t feel that it matters. It doesn’t matter if you cheat even if you love a person… and you can cheat with no remorse at all.
You can be on the phone with your mate and say “I love you”, hang up, and two seconds later go holla at that sexiness you just saw walk past you. I think that this is a characteristic that is becoming obsolete in the world of cheaters- loyalty. It’s come to the point where I have to give disloyal bastards their own category in the cheaters list. The main difference between disloyal cheaters and regular cheaters is their level of remorse.
Someone who is a disloyal cheater, really doesn’t GIVE A FUCK. They are serial daters, they cheat like fucking crazy in relationships, most of the time the relationship they are in is great… and the best part about it all is that they REALLY don’t give a fuck. They have NO remorse, or a moral compass instilled in them. They don’t even think what they are doing is WRONG, and that’s the worst type of cheater to deal with.
So… all my lovely readers- what did we learn today? First of all, KNOW who you are dealing with and what you are getting yourself into BEFORE you run off and commit. Don’t let someone catch you off guard and surprise you with shit a few months or years down the line (some people can front for longer periods of time).
And secondly, know the difference between love and being IN love, and discuss how you feel about these things with your partner- this is definitely something that should be discussed OPEN and HONESTLY (this means that when having this conversation: bitches- don’t get all fucking emotional and niccas- don’t lie and tell a bitch what you think she wants to hear). This should be part of the “getting to know each other phase” , before actual commitment (remember- KNOW what you’re getting yourself into).
Also, keep the conversation light- do not get too serious! The main reason for discussion is JUST to find out where their head is at when it comes to matters of love, and to find out whether or not your views are compatible.
So…. Next time someone tells you they love you- say they can keep that shit, because you’d prefer their LOYALTY!
Until next time kiddies.
I want to address cheating and love from a different perspective. Now, as I said in the last post- you CANNOT possibly be IN LOVE with someone and cheat on them. Now the question is… is it possible to LOVE someone and cheat on them? The answer is YES!
Like I said before, being IN LOVE and just LOVING someone are two completely different things, and they should never be used interchangeably. When you are IN LOVE- you’re a blinded race horse, but when you love someone- there is absolutely no guarantee of the magic blinders.
You can love anyone, and anything at any given point in time. The word love itself has been sooo overused that it seems to have even lost its meaning in a sense. Love is a word thrown around loosely today in age. Now to apply this to the relationship realm- when someone says the love you, are they being real?
Only you can determine this, for no one should know your partner more than you do. If you don’t REALLY know your partner that well- you better do some damn soul searching and find out EXACTLY what that person is about. That’s what is wrong today, people do not take the time to get to know each other. This is why you’re relationships fail and after being with a person for a long while- you STILL DON’T KNOW WHO THE FUCK THEY REALLY ARE!
First and foremost, before entering any relationship- you need to think of it as a business deal in a sense. Who’s gunna sign a contract for a major deal without researching, reading the damn contract FIRST, and checking out all that fine print. That’s what you need to do- delve into a person and find out who they truly are BEFORE making a commitment to them. That way, you at least know what the hell your getting yourself into before you commit to it- and most importantly, there are no surprises.
These are things that are done and discussed during the “dating” period- and seeing as its becoming obsolete- a lot of you people are FUCKED and in FUCKED UP relationships (choosing a mate- this blog will be written soon).
Now, off to matters of the heart and the monsters who cheat. I’ve come to the understanding that it is perfectly possible to cheat and still love someone. This is because there is NOT a level of deeper connections there. Being IN LOVE with someone ensures this deeper connection of mind, body and spirit.
But love… shit, I love my phone- but as soon as an upgraded model comes out, I’m getting the new one. Think of it like that, when it comes to love in these ages- anything is REPLACEABLE. Why? Because in today’s age the word love and feelings associated with JUST love (not being in love), has lost a vital part to it- LOYALTY. Anyone can say they love you, but whether or not they will be loyal is open for discussion.
How this happened… who knows, but I assure you it is very REAL. I believe that is why it is so easy for people to cheat in relationships. One, because there are a shit load of people walking the face of the earth right now who do not know the difference between love and being in love… and honestly, until you have REALLY been IN LOVE- you won’t be able to decipher these two feelings. You have absolutely nothing to go on, and people can only explain what being in love is to certain degree- but you definitely have to FEEL IT to believe it.
Being that there are so many people who do not know what the fuck they’re talking about, the words love and in love are often misused and/or used interchangeably. This causes the meaning of the word to diminish over time, and just confuse people about what these two very separate things are.
Two, because the word love has been so overused and abused… love has lost a major component- LOYALTY. Think about it like this… socially speaking, the feeling of being IN LOVE is supposed to be reserved for a significant other, while LOVE is used to describe feelings for your friends and family. Now, you love your family and friends- right? Now tell me, are you LOYAL to them? Are you loyal to your friends or family? Would you have their back at all times, support them through their endeavors, keep their secrets, stick up for them, always want to have good communication between you, and at the end of the day, you always make up after fights and you always know where home’s at.
This is the shit I’m talking about because when it comes to relationships, people can use the word love and not be loyal… which leads me to believe either one of two things- either you are a disillusioned FOOL who has absolutely no fucking idea what love is OR you simply do not REALLY love the person.
Which brings me to the conclusion that either the word LOVE in relationships has lose ties with its best friend LOYALTY, or there’s a shit load of people LYING about loving someone. This is why it may be so simple to cheat on someone you just love- because you have absolutely no loyalty to them. For you DISLOYAL FUCKERS being that you do not feel this loyalty, you don’t feel that it matters. It doesn’t matter if you cheat even if you love a person… and you can cheat with no remorse at all.
You can be on the phone with your mate and say “I love you”, hang up, and two seconds later go holla at that sexiness you just saw walk past you. I think that this is a characteristic that is becoming obsolete in the world of cheaters- loyalty. It’s come to the point where I have to give disloyal bastards their own category in the cheaters list. The main difference between disloyal cheaters and regular cheaters is their level of remorse.
Someone who is a disloyal cheater, really doesn’t GIVE A FUCK. They are serial daters, they cheat like fucking crazy in relationships, most of the time the relationship they are in is great… and the best part about it all is that they REALLY don’t give a fuck. They have NO remorse, or a moral compass instilled in them. They don’t even think what they are doing is WRONG, and that’s the worst type of cheater to deal with.
So… all my lovely readers- what did we learn today? First of all, KNOW who you are dealing with and what you are getting yourself into BEFORE you run off and commit. Don’t let someone catch you off guard and surprise you with shit a few months or years down the line (some people can front for longer periods of time).
And secondly, know the difference between love and being IN love, and discuss how you feel about these things with your partner- this is definitely something that should be discussed OPEN and HONESTLY (this means that when having this conversation: bitches- don’t get all fucking emotional and niccas- don’t lie and tell a bitch what you think she wants to hear). This should be part of the “getting to know each other phase” , before actual commitment (remember- KNOW what you’re getting yourself into).
Also, keep the conversation light- do not get too serious! The main reason for discussion is JUST to find out where their head is at when it comes to matters of love, and to find out whether or not your views are compatible.
So…. Next time someone tells you they love you- say they can keep that shit, because you’d prefer their LOYALTY!
Until next time kiddies.
Love & Cheating Pt.1
Love… there are so many aspects that go into love and so many different types of love. Is it true that everyone has their own versions of love- or is love a feeling that is universal? No matter where you’re from or what you do- the pure essence, the feelings that go with it… are these things the same?
We need to start at the beginning and if you didn’t know, LOVING someone and being IN LOVE with someone are two very different things. While you may love someone to a certain degree, I believe being in love is something so much greater. I believe that being in love with someone, can be related to going insane. I believe that in some way- it is like losing your sanity, your inhibitions- yourself. What you become is something and someone completely different from your normal self. Things that you normally wouldn’t tolerate, are tolerated. Things you normally wouldn’t do, are done. For you see, being IN love is BLIND!
When you are truly in love with someone… NO ONE ELSE MATTERS. It is as if you’re a race horse with blinders on, not able to see to your right or left; not knowing who it is who is really winning the race. You are blinded from the world in a sense.
You don’t seem to notice that sexy something who’s been eyeing you, or that person who boldly strikes a conversation in hopes for your number. None of this matters- because you are IN love. When you love someone, this is something that is NOT a factor. You notice EVERYONE who’s in pursuits of you, you don’t mind talking to them, and just keeping your options open.
Over the years, I have spoken to many men and women on this topic. Men seem to grasp the concept of being IN love differently than women do- but I guess women being the emotional creatures that they are, would have a upper hand on this one. Though, I have come across many of men who have been IN love and agree with my concept of how it truly feels. I also believe that those who have never felt like a damn race horse- have NEVER truly been in love. With that, those who have never been in love, can’t and won’t be able to relate to this- not until you too have basked in the glory that is being IN love.
Now don’t get me wrong for love is like a double edged sword. When its good, its great- but when things fall apart and your heart has been broken, it can be the worst feeling in the world. That’s when you know that you’ve been in love… the feelings of restlessness- that I can’t eat, can’t sleep without you shit. Some of you may of never been there, but R&B songs are made of these feelings- and they are real.
Being in love is when the mere thought of that person leaving your life hurts not only your heart, but your soul. It is when you can’t even think about them being intimate with someone else without it angering you in some way. It is when you would sacrifice everything you have just to be with that person- why? Because nothing else matters.
The two of you melt and become one. Being in love is when that special someone is on your mind all day, and a smile crosses your face at the mere thought of them. You can’t wait to talk to them, or see them and the time spent apart seems like an eternity.
Now, loving someone is completely different… you can just love a person and not be in love with them. You love your parents, children, friends, pets, etc., and you can JUST love a person you’re seeing too. You can love them for being themselves, love them because of who they are and what they stand for, or love them for everything they do for you. There are countless reasons to why you may love a person, but take those feelings, magnify and intensify them and that is called being IN love.
Over the years, I have spoken with many cheaters in hopes of solving the greatest mystery to me- why cheat? During my research I have repeatedly been told by people, (men in particular), that they LOVE their partner. They have even gone as far as tell me they are IN love. Now, I tell you this here and now- if you can THINK about cheating on your partner, then you are not really in love. Why is this? Because when you’re in love, there are those blinders remember? And no one else matters because in essence, you don’t even want anyone else… and no one else will satisfy the need for that one person.
If you were REALLY in love with your partner, you couldn’t even bring yourself to being intimate with another. Over the years, I have noticed that there are several types of cheaters and several reasons for cheating to begin with. I will address those at a later date- those who I will address now are the GREEDY, SELFISH people. If you are in a relationship, and are cheating not because your partner is doing you dirty in some way (although 2 wrongs don’t make a right, just makes you even), not because your partner is unfulfilling in some way, and not because anything is wrong in the relationship- then FUCK YOU SELFISH BASTARDS!
You are someone who just wants your cake, and eat it too. Yet, you also have issues being lonely and feel the need to have someone in your life at all times. You come in various forms, from the serial daters, to the ones who are on never ending rebounds, to the ones who never really left the being single mentality behind when you entered a relationship. You are never one in the same, but your motives and intentions for the most part are. You have your main (your partner in a relationship) and yet, you still go on rampages fucking anything else you can get your hands on, with no good reason. If you were IN LOVE with your partner, you couldn’t do this. Why? Because when you’re in love with someone, you care- about their feelings, their well being, you care about THEM.
How can you care and love someone, but hurt them at the same time? Why, you may ask? Merely because this is not being in love. It may be an illusion, attachment mixed with lust- but I assure you, it by far is not anywhere CLOSE to being IN love. That’s another issue, the people who mistake the feelings of attachment and lust with love. If you can cheat and lie to your partner with no remorse… then it is not love, you may be infatuated and attached- but you’re not in love… if you are one of these people then please just STAY SINGLE and that way you can just fuck whatever you want without hurting innocent people on your path of self destruction.
I know this won’t happen though, because although you fuckers are lying, deceiving, greedy monsters who just want your cake and eat it too- you have a fault- you can’t stand to be lonely. You need someone there. You need to feel needed, as if you’re important to someone and you need the attention. You are some of the BIGGEST attention whores and you need constant attention to feel good about yourself- which is probably why you tend to “keep your options open”. You need people around you to boost your ego and make you feel good about the person you are- some validation for what wrong you are doing… because deep down inside, most of you know you’re wrong. And deep down inside, most of you want to be caught (again, something I will discuss at a later time).
My issue with this entire thing is the way you go about saying you’re in love with your “main”, yet you have a number of jump-off’s on the side. That is NOT being IN LOVE- at all. Now all is fair in love and war, and if your partner decides to stay with you after finding out of your infidelity they need to get smacked repeatedly with a dummy stick- not only for staying with someone not worth it, but for also selling themselves short of their worth.
Stop being a dumb ass and staying with these greedy fuckers- they are not gunna magically change and yes, they will say and do everything to get back in your good graces, all the while still fuckin someone else. Stop being so fuckin STUPID- your ignorance is the reason they are allowed to get away with it. Now, for those of you who break up with these preying animals, high five to you for being smart about shit- fuck them and try to keep the hope alive, true love DOES exist- and not everyone walking the face of this earth is a COMPLETE ASSHOLE!
We need to start at the beginning and if you didn’t know, LOVING someone and being IN LOVE with someone are two very different things. While you may love someone to a certain degree, I believe being in love is something so much greater. I believe that being in love with someone, can be related to going insane. I believe that in some way- it is like losing your sanity, your inhibitions- yourself. What you become is something and someone completely different from your normal self. Things that you normally wouldn’t tolerate, are tolerated. Things you normally wouldn’t do, are done. For you see, being IN love is BLIND!
When you are truly in love with someone… NO ONE ELSE MATTERS. It is as if you’re a race horse with blinders on, not able to see to your right or left; not knowing who it is who is really winning the race. You are blinded from the world in a sense.
You don’t seem to notice that sexy something who’s been eyeing you, or that person who boldly strikes a conversation in hopes for your number. None of this matters- because you are IN love. When you love someone, this is something that is NOT a factor. You notice EVERYONE who’s in pursuits of you, you don’t mind talking to them, and just keeping your options open.
Over the years, I have spoken to many men and women on this topic. Men seem to grasp the concept of being IN love differently than women do- but I guess women being the emotional creatures that they are, would have a upper hand on this one. Though, I have come across many of men who have been IN love and agree with my concept of how it truly feels. I also believe that those who have never felt like a damn race horse- have NEVER truly been in love. With that, those who have never been in love, can’t and won’t be able to relate to this- not until you too have basked in the glory that is being IN love.
Now don’t get me wrong for love is like a double edged sword. When its good, its great- but when things fall apart and your heart has been broken, it can be the worst feeling in the world. That’s when you know that you’ve been in love… the feelings of restlessness- that I can’t eat, can’t sleep without you shit. Some of you may of never been there, but R&B songs are made of these feelings- and they are real.
Being in love is when the mere thought of that person leaving your life hurts not only your heart, but your soul. It is when you can’t even think about them being intimate with someone else without it angering you in some way. It is when you would sacrifice everything you have just to be with that person- why? Because nothing else matters.
The two of you melt and become one. Being in love is when that special someone is on your mind all day, and a smile crosses your face at the mere thought of them. You can’t wait to talk to them, or see them and the time spent apart seems like an eternity.
Now, loving someone is completely different… you can just love a person and not be in love with them. You love your parents, children, friends, pets, etc., and you can JUST love a person you’re seeing too. You can love them for being themselves, love them because of who they are and what they stand for, or love them for everything they do for you. There are countless reasons to why you may love a person, but take those feelings, magnify and intensify them and that is called being IN love.
Over the years, I have spoken with many cheaters in hopes of solving the greatest mystery to me- why cheat? During my research I have repeatedly been told by people, (men in particular), that they LOVE their partner. They have even gone as far as tell me they are IN love. Now, I tell you this here and now- if you can THINK about cheating on your partner, then you are not really in love. Why is this? Because when you’re in love, there are those blinders remember? And no one else matters because in essence, you don’t even want anyone else… and no one else will satisfy the need for that one person.
If you were REALLY in love with your partner, you couldn’t even bring yourself to being intimate with another. Over the years, I have noticed that there are several types of cheaters and several reasons for cheating to begin with. I will address those at a later date- those who I will address now are the GREEDY, SELFISH people. If you are in a relationship, and are cheating not because your partner is doing you dirty in some way (although 2 wrongs don’t make a right, just makes you even), not because your partner is unfulfilling in some way, and not because anything is wrong in the relationship- then FUCK YOU SELFISH BASTARDS!
You are someone who just wants your cake, and eat it too. Yet, you also have issues being lonely and feel the need to have someone in your life at all times. You come in various forms, from the serial daters, to the ones who are on never ending rebounds, to the ones who never really left the being single mentality behind when you entered a relationship. You are never one in the same, but your motives and intentions for the most part are. You have your main (your partner in a relationship) and yet, you still go on rampages fucking anything else you can get your hands on, with no good reason. If you were IN LOVE with your partner, you couldn’t do this. Why? Because when you’re in love with someone, you care- about their feelings, their well being, you care about THEM.
How can you care and love someone, but hurt them at the same time? Why, you may ask? Merely because this is not being in love. It may be an illusion, attachment mixed with lust- but I assure you, it by far is not anywhere CLOSE to being IN love. That’s another issue, the people who mistake the feelings of attachment and lust with love. If you can cheat and lie to your partner with no remorse… then it is not love, you may be infatuated and attached- but you’re not in love… if you are one of these people then please just STAY SINGLE and that way you can just fuck whatever you want without hurting innocent people on your path of self destruction.
I know this won’t happen though, because although you fuckers are lying, deceiving, greedy monsters who just want your cake and eat it too- you have a fault- you can’t stand to be lonely. You need someone there. You need to feel needed, as if you’re important to someone and you need the attention. You are some of the BIGGEST attention whores and you need constant attention to feel good about yourself- which is probably why you tend to “keep your options open”. You need people around you to boost your ego and make you feel good about the person you are- some validation for what wrong you are doing… because deep down inside, most of you know you’re wrong. And deep down inside, most of you want to be caught (again, something I will discuss at a later time).
My issue with this entire thing is the way you go about saying you’re in love with your “main”, yet you have a number of jump-off’s on the side. That is NOT being IN LOVE- at all. Now all is fair in love and war, and if your partner decides to stay with you after finding out of your infidelity they need to get smacked repeatedly with a dummy stick- not only for staying with someone not worth it, but for also selling themselves short of their worth.
Stop being a dumb ass and staying with these greedy fuckers- they are not gunna magically change and yes, they will say and do everything to get back in your good graces, all the while still fuckin someone else. Stop being so fuckin STUPID- your ignorance is the reason they are allowed to get away with it. Now, for those of you who break up with these preying animals, high five to you for being smart about shit- fuck them and try to keep the hope alive, true love DOES exist- and not everyone walking the face of this earth is a COMPLETE ASSHOLE!
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