Love… there are so many aspects that go into love and so many different types of love. Is it true that everyone has their own versions of love- or is love a feeling that is universal? No matter where you’re from or what you do- the pure essence, the feelings that go with it… are these things the same?
We need to start at the beginning and if you didn’t know, LOVING someone and being IN LOVE with someone are two very different things. While you may love someone to a certain degree, I believe being in love is something so much greater. I believe that being in love with someone, can be related to going insane. I believe that in some way- it is like losing your sanity, your inhibitions- yourself. What you become is something and someone completely different from your normal self. Things that you normally wouldn’t tolerate, are tolerated. Things you normally wouldn’t do, are done. For you see, being IN love is BLIND!
When you are truly in love with someone… NO ONE ELSE MATTERS. It is as if you’re a race horse with blinders on, not able to see to your right or left; not knowing who it is who is really winning the race. You are blinded from the world in a sense.
You don’t seem to notice that sexy something who’s been eyeing you, or that person who boldly strikes a conversation in hopes for your number. None of this matters- because you are IN love. When you love someone, this is something that is NOT a factor. You notice EVERYONE who’s in pursuits of you, you don’t mind talking to them, and just keeping your options open.
Over the years, I have spoken to many men and women on this topic. Men seem to grasp the concept of being IN love differently than women do- but I guess women being the emotional creatures that they are, would have a upper hand on this one. Though, I have come across many of men who have been IN love and agree with my concept of how it truly feels. I also believe that those who have never felt like a damn race horse- have NEVER truly been in love. With that, those who have never been in love, can’t and won’t be able to relate to this- not until you too have basked in the glory that is being IN love.
Now don’t get me wrong for love is like a double edged sword. When its good, its great- but when things fall apart and your heart has been broken, it can be the worst feeling in the world. That’s when you know that you’ve been in love… the feelings of restlessness- that I can’t eat, can’t sleep without you shit. Some of you may of never been there, but R&B songs are made of these feelings- and they are real.
Being in love is when the mere thought of that person leaving your life hurts not only your heart, but your soul. It is when you can’t even think about them being intimate with someone else without it angering you in some way. It is when you would sacrifice everything you have just to be with that person- why? Because nothing else matters.
The two of you melt and become one. Being in love is when that special someone is on your mind all day, and a smile crosses your face at the mere thought of them. You can’t wait to talk to them, or see them and the time spent apart seems like an eternity.
Now, loving someone is completely different… you can just love a person and not be in love with them. You love your parents, children, friends, pets, etc., and you can JUST love a person you’re seeing too. You can love them for being themselves, love them because of who they are and what they stand for, or love them for everything they do for you. There are countless reasons to why you may love a person, but take those feelings, magnify and intensify them and that is called being IN love.
Over the years, I have spoken with many cheaters in hopes of solving the greatest mystery to me- why cheat? During my research I have repeatedly been told by people, (men in particular), that they LOVE their partner. They have even gone as far as tell me they are IN love. Now, I tell you this here and now- if you can THINK about cheating on your partner, then you are not really in love. Why is this? Because when you’re in love, there are those blinders remember? And no one else matters because in essence, you don’t even want anyone else… and no one else will satisfy the need for that one person.
If you were REALLY in love with your partner, you couldn’t even bring yourself to being intimate with another. Over the years, I have noticed that there are several types of cheaters and several reasons for cheating to begin with. I will address those at a later date- those who I will address now are the GREEDY, SELFISH people. If you are in a relationship, and are cheating not because your partner is doing you dirty in some way (although 2 wrongs don’t make a right, just makes you even), not because your partner is unfulfilling in some way, and not because anything is wrong in the relationship- then FUCK YOU SELFISH BASTARDS!
You are someone who just wants your cake, and eat it too. Yet, you also have issues being lonely and feel the need to have someone in your life at all times. You come in various forms, from the serial daters, to the ones who are on never ending rebounds, to the ones who never really left the being single mentality behind when you entered a relationship. You are never one in the same, but your motives and intentions for the most part are. You have your main (your partner in a relationship) and yet, you still go on rampages fucking anything else you can get your hands on, with no good reason. If you were IN LOVE with your partner, you couldn’t do this. Why? Because when you’re in love with someone, you care- about their feelings, their well being, you care about THEM.
How can you care and love someone, but hurt them at the same time? Why, you may ask? Merely because this is not being in love. It may be an illusion, attachment mixed with lust- but I assure you, it by far is not anywhere CLOSE to being IN love. That’s another issue, the people who mistake the feelings of attachment and lust with love. If you can cheat and lie to your partner with no remorse… then it is not love, you may be infatuated and attached- but you’re not in love… if you are one of these people then please just STAY SINGLE and that way you can just fuck whatever you want without hurting innocent people on your path of self destruction.
I know this won’t happen though, because although you fuckers are lying, deceiving, greedy monsters who just want your cake and eat it too- you have a fault- you can’t stand to be lonely. You need someone there. You need to feel needed, as if you’re important to someone and you need the attention. You are some of the BIGGEST attention whores and you need constant attention to feel good about yourself- which is probably why you tend to “keep your options open”. You need people around you to boost your ego and make you feel good about the person you are- some validation for what wrong you are doing… because deep down inside, most of you know you’re wrong. And deep down inside, most of you want to be caught (again, something I will discuss at a later time).
My issue with this entire thing is the way you go about saying you’re in love with your “main”, yet you have a number of jump-off’s on the side. That is NOT being IN LOVE- at all. Now all is fair in love and war, and if your partner decides to stay with you after finding out of your infidelity they need to get smacked repeatedly with a dummy stick- not only for staying with someone not worth it, but for also selling themselves short of their worth.
Stop being a dumb ass and staying with these greedy fuckers- they are not gunna magically change and yes, they will say and do everything to get back in your good graces, all the while still fuckin someone else. Stop being so fuckin STUPID- your ignorance is the reason they are allowed to get away with it. Now, for those of you who break up with these preying animals, high five to you for being smart about shit- fuck them and try to keep the hope alive, true love DOES exist- and not everyone walking the face of this earth is a COMPLETE ASSHOLE!
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