Teen Pregnancy & Hood Babies

After a conversation with a friend [hi j =)], I felt the need to rant and rave about this subject matter. I would like to start off by saying- this is ALL A VICIOUS CYCLE and that IGNORANCE IS BLISS.

Well, off to the conversation that sparked my rant… So, my homeboy hits me up and asks me to read this conversation he had been having and so I read on. Now, the jist of it all was that the female was upset and went as far as to say literally, “what‘s wrong with you,” when he stated that he had no children at the age of 27.

She went on to say that she does not know ANYONE over the age of 16, who does not have at least ONE child. I say- WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THAT PICTURE! Now, in the hood, its true to say that there are an alarming number of teen pregnancy and single- parent households.

What is CRAZY is that 100, 50, even 30 years ago- in society, if you were a teen mother, a single-parent, had children out of wed lock, or got a divorce- you were SCRUTINIZED! Women were seen as whores for having children out of wedlock and being teen mothers, their children were ridiculed in school, and lets not even go to what they thought of you if you got a divorce.

What I believe is wrong is that these things have become an ACCEPTABLE part of society- and maybe not society as a whole, but it is definitely acceptable in the hood. It has become acceptable to become a teen mother and it is even ENCOURAGED! What the fuck happened to parents wanting better for their children? This concept has gone DOWN the fucking drain. What society is stuck with is children having children- and not just one child… but a shit load of them.

Now, it’s one thing if you had a child- it may or may not of been a mistake, and you REALIZE how hard it REALLY is and strive to make your life and the life of your child better. You work, you go to school- you handle your handle. I commend you women who work full-time, go to college at night and have a child(ren) to go home to after. I personally have classes with many women like this (and I don’t know how you do it)… You women are fierce warriors- Stay Strong and Keep Doing You! But… not everyone is as smart- the ignorant bitches continue to populate our planet and what happens to these hood babies (yes, I said hood babies)?

First of all, teens having children- you must understand that children are EXPENSIVE! Children will probably be what you spend the most money on in your entire lifetime. And if you don’t have a job- you should NOT be having a damn baby. I believe that you shouldn’t even THINK of having children until you are financially secure, but guess what- you dumb fucks will NEVER be financially secure if you keep having children every other year.

Secondly, think of what damage you are placing upon your child- children who live in poverty, are less likely to develop as quickly cognitively, socially and emotionally. Now what do these big words mean- they mean when you’re not financially secure- the child is affected even more than you are.

Children are not exposed to as much- something even as simple as a book. Socially- hood babies spend waaay too much time watching shit on tv that is not age appropriate, they are allowed to talk in certain ways, and are not taught basic social skills. Emotionally- you IGNORANT ASS BITCHES spend entirely too much time talking to your children in DISGUSTING ways.

When you put a child down, call them names, curse them out, or degrade them- you are not only destroying their self-image and self-esteem, but you are also setting an example for them to model… and it IS considered child abuse- it’s called VERBAL ABUSE bitches! And, you would know this… if you got some type of higher education- but you didn’t, instead, you chose to increase the population, and destroy the lives of your children. Now when these children go to school, they experience the most difficulty- socially, and academically. There are a lot of aspects tied into poverty.

Thirdly, teenage girls- you are not done developing yet, and you are actually FUCKING UP your body every time you get pregnant and/or have an abortion. Fourth, babies do not come with INSTRUCTION MANUELS- and chances are that if you’re in high school, you know VERY LITTLE about properly rearing children. And guess what, if you’re one of those people in the cycle- your parent knows absolutely nothing about rearing children (look at how the fuck you came out).

And if you helped raised the hood babies produced around you- that doesn’t count! You are not learning proper anything and should not be following those examples. Word of advice- PICK UP A FUCKING BOOK AND READ IT! I’ve known grown ass people with CAREERS, not a fucking job, a profession- who know SHIT about raising a baby- and they were college educated. Now, what the fuck makes YOU think YOU know anything?

Next, I need to address the parents of these broads. In the hood- it’s likely that you’ll find a girl, her mother and grandmother all under the age of 50. Why? Because this behavior has been condoned and is acceptable. You should want more and expect more from your children. You should want them to break the cycle… but you don’t because you’re a SELFISH bitch yourself.

I’ve seen mothers HATE on their children when they were doing better for themselves. I’m sorry, I don’t give a fuck if your rich or poor- EVERYONE has the same opportunities- you just have to want it. There is NO FUCKING EXCUSE for not receiving a higher education of some type- and not just college and there is NO FUCKING EXCUSE for not having a high school diploma.

We are living in an age where a high school diploma is even becoming obsolete- go ahead and try to get a decent job with just a high school diploma and see what happens. You have to plan for your future and most importantly the future of your offspring. In the hood, it is acceptable to live at home with your mom and your five kids and its acceptable because these fucking PARENTS are accepting it.

Understand that helping your kid out is one thing, but doing everything for them is something completely different. For these teens, it’s like nothing has ever changed and they do not feel the full weight of the responsibility they have because they have someone there to help them out.

I know bitches who go out every weekend and leave their kids with their parent… WTF is this? Everyone needs some me time, space and time to unwind- but not ALL the time. Know that when you have a child- there is NO YOU ANYMORE… it’s is ALL FOR THEM! I think that’s why they continue to have so many children, for they do not know the weight of such a responsibility- if they did BELIEVE ME they would stop at one.

By helping them out so much and being their crutch- they are actually becoming hindered in their natural progression through life. You are basically saying- sure, it’s ok to have a baby, even if you’re only 15- but, it’s NOT ok and should NOT be accepted.

Lastly, is the cycle of welfare. Now, I’m all for getting the government for what it’s worth- IF, you are trying to better your life. What I have a problem with is the bitches who have a million kids so they can stay on welfare FOREVER. You bitches are fucking lazy.

How about doing something CONSTRUCTIVE with your time, instead of being at the club all the time, shopping, gossiping and getting your hair and nails did. How about while you’re on welfare, you go back to school- THEY PAY FOR IT. How about you go and learn a trade? How about you acquire a skill of some kind? This would ensure a brighter future for both you and your children. But… you don’t do it. Why? Because you’re a LAZY ASS BITCH! There is absolutely no other damn excuse for not bettering yourself, and I DON’T RESPECT YOU!

Damn…. This was longer than I expected, but fuck it, two tears in a bucket. What have we learned? 1- There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with someone who does not have children and is older than 25. If anything, these are the SMART people- who will ensure that their future and the future of their children is not a fucked up one. 2- People need to stop condoning teen pregnancy. Its fucking wrong- kids, should not be having kids. You are not ready- physically or mentally. If you think you are, think again- cuz your fucking delusional. (on a side note: teens who are hell bent on having children have problems that are deeply rooted psychologically- and these problems NEED to be addressed). And 3- WRAP IT UP! People need to start talking to their children about sex.. I know it may be uncomfortable, but they need to know FACTS. Whether or not you believe it- your kids are gunna fuck with, or without your consent. The best thing you can do for your children as parents is to EDUACTE them so they can make the RIGHT decision and at least use a condom.