So... You Wanna Be a Mistress?

In a perfect world, no one would lie. Not about themselves and not to others, or themselves for that matter. Unfortunately, lying is what most people do, mostly about themselves. Everyone walking this green Earth, has some type of front that they put on at some point of their lives. People are scared to be who they truly are, and in turn, our pure and true essence is lost in translation.


In a perfect world, no one would cheat. Not themselves, their children or their partners. Unfortunately, cheating or infidelity occurs more than some would like to admit. According to a recent survey, 45-55% of women and 50-60% of men WILL engage in some extramarital sex at least once in their marriage.


The reasons behind cheating are far too many to name, and if I had the time I would go through the top ten reasons behind cheating, (maybe in another blog), but I’m going to concentrate on the main two. Sex and Emotions. These are the two most publicized, and I will speak on them briefly before really getting the party started.


Sex. It is said that many people cheat on their partners, because their sex lives are whack! Their partners are either unfulfilling or disinterested. Others cheat because their current partner won’t try something new they want to do. Bottom line is this: learn to communicate and compromise. Remember, don’t knock it, until you’ve tried it! Lastly, if you won’t do it, someone else will!


Emotions. Other people cheat because they aren’t emotionally attached to their partners. How does this happen? Most of the time because you put other things before your relationship and put your relationship on auto-pilot. Know that, unlike a plane, your relationship will burn and crash when not tended to.


When this happens, you grow apart and then the worst thing happens- you stop communicating. When this happens, you run off and find someone you CAN talk to, who will GIVE you attention, and viola’, you’ve got an emotional affair. Nowadays, these can be trickier than physical affairs as they are hidden as such and the internet makes them oh so convenient. So that nowadays, infidelity has branched out to not just include physical involvement.


Many people don’t see emotional affairs as cheating, being that there wasn’t any penetration. Think of it like this though, all those intimate things you talk to your buddy about, are things you should be telling your spouse. The more you talk, the more intimate things become, the more you trust a person and then become curious. And you know what they said about curiosity and that damn cat!


Bottom line is this: In most aspects of a relationship, communication is KEY! It is the whole fucking kit and caboodle! Without it, your relationship will deteriorate and you WILL grow apart. People will become resentful and hostile. So, if you’ve gotten to the point that you cant talk to your mate anymore, know that something has TERRIBLY gone wrong! And that should be worked on immediately. Remember that it takes two people to make a relationship work, but only one to fuck it all up!


Now, on to the main event, someone and an area rarely covered when we speak of cheating and cheaters… The mistresses (and I’m talking about men and women)! What amazes the shit out of me, is their sheer disregard for the family they are helping to hurt and the people for that matter. The moral level of many people are severely low, and it’s sad to say that this society is not only accepting it, it is EMBRACING IT!


Look around you, everywhere in the media- there is infidelity. Turn on the radio, and you hear that my girl got a girlfriend or boyfriend number two. I really can’t even listen to shit like that only because it condones this destructive behavior and it makes me angry. This is how you know this shit has become acceptable, and even worse is that children are now growing up seeing this shit and thinking it’s acceptable.


Back to the cum buckets… So, you meet someone and learn they are taken… and it doesn’t even matter what kind of taken, (whether it’s a relationship or its marriage), taken is taken, just like a dime is a dime; but you continue to talk to that person. Not only are you WRONG, you’re a fucking ignorant with no morals or values. If you would of stopped them right there and declined their advances, that would have been the RIGHT thing to do… but that’s NOT what you did.


Ahh… to be the other woman, or man for that matter, may be a fun thing to some, but seriously, people who see nothing wrong with playing that position in life, have serious mental problems occurring. It may trace back to your childhood, it may have to do with you feeling you have no self worth, or that you don’t deserve any better. You might have self-esteem problems or be out on a vendetta, either way, you’re wrong!


I have a serious bone to pick with the people that are ok with being the “other person”, only because you people help contribute to the pain, the lies and stigmas around relationships. You are helping to deteriorate families, and although that family may of already been on the brink, you helped to destroy it in the worst way.


This doesn’t only affect the person who was cheated on. In many instances, the person your fucking has an entire family at home, and needless to say, the children of divorced parents, suffer more than their parents do. Finding out that your dad/mom had an affair equals crazy problems in that child’s future when it comes to trust and THEIR relationships. So you see, you’re not just fucking them, your fucking their WHOLE family!


What has cheating done to people in general in this society? Cheating has contributed to the creation of fronts. Fronting is pure lies and illusion and cheating goes hand in hand with that. When someone is cheated on, it often changes the person they are, and there are not many people who do not become jaded when cheated on.


This creates barriars and trust issues, making it that much harder to find true happiness… all because someone cheated and you now can’t let that shit go. It’s easy to say to just get rid of the rocks in your bag, but it’s harder to actually get it done. Many of us have unforgiving traits and find it very hard to forget the things done to us in the past. So although we try to go on and not judge a new person, for past occurances, this often happens. And we end up pushing good people away.


When a person is cheated on, it’s a blow to who they are as a person. Many negative feelings float around their heads. Many of those feelings involve the self and how you feel about yourself. Feelings of resentment, inaquedacy, betrayal, hopelessness, are among a few. This battle leaves many of us with wounds, the scars of which we will carry forever.


Back to the scum… So, mistresses help to contribute to the demise of people and families. Even worse than that is that many just don’t give a fuck, and that’s what blows my fucking lid. This irks me especially with women, who some have went as far to say “it’s not my problem he’s coming to me.”


You are right super slut, it isn’t your fault, but it does take two to tango and you are being USED! That’s right bitch, USED! It doesn’t matter whether you are a man or woman, you ARE being used and the person who is using you is the ultimate playa, for getting they cake, AND eating that shit too!


Men, know that you are not above being used. I totally see your side, and sure, many of you see it as a win for you. Understand that the ONLY reason that you feel that way is because men are not offered sex as much as women. Therefore, for many of you, it’s HARD to turn down pussy, because opportunities like that don’t always present itself.


As a result, many of you men are ruthless and don’t have morals, and it is true to say that most of you wouldn’t turn down pussy when it is offered. (STOP BEING SO DAMN EASY, that shit aint cute! We, ladies, want a challenge too!) This is the same reason why some men cheat, simply because they were given the option to do so, and they took it!


Okay dude, so you’re getting pussy right, so it MUST be a win. WRONG! You too are helping to contribute to the demise of relationships. You may think you just won, but actually, SHE won, because now she has her man, and YOU in pocket. It doesn’t matter if you don’t care about all the technicalities, she now has the power and she’s got 2 for 1, homie.


You need to understand that when you give a person in a relationship you’re goodies, you are also giving them the power. The power over you and the situation. Whenever they want you, there you are and when they get tired, back home they go. Either way, you have just given them control of the whole situation.


They have the perfect scenario, their perfect home and the ass on the side. Many of them will NEVER leave their spouses. Why? Because many of them really do love their spouses, many of them have just lost communication, and since their sexual or emotional needs are being met by YOU now, it creates the perfect win-win situation for them.


Except you lose. If you don’t think you are a loser, think of it like this. Many of you mistresses WILL fall in love with your taken fuck buddy. You will invest your time, your effort, your hearts, and you will NEVER be with them the way you want to. Those of you ruthless enough to take it to the next level and break up a happy home, (especially you conniving ass bitches), remember that what goes around comes around, and you ARE NOT above that law.


Also, know that in most situations, the person who you are with is a LIAR! They are cheating on their spouse/mate, believe me, they ARE NOT above lying. Many of them play the victim role, and lie about their home situations to make it seem worse than it is. This helps you sympathize with them, and when you feel bad, you’re more likely to fuck them. In all actuality though, many of them are content where they are. It’s usually just one or two missing elements, that YOU are just happening to now help fulfill.


Real talk if nothing else bothers you as a mistress, remember, that at the end of the day, they go HOME! And do you know what MOST of them do when they get home? They FUCK their mates/spouses. Sure, they aren’t gunna tell you and some of them may lie, and say they don’t. Know, that they DO, and do you REALLY know where their mouths have been?? I think not.


At the end of the day mistresses, you are a mere accessory to the crime. You help the bad guys get away, and enable them to do so. You let the greedy people of the world have their cake and eat it too. To be able to live with that, and look at yourself in the mirror every day is ridiculous. How do you do it? No morals or conscience. No guidelines for life. STOP enabling cheaters.


It’s a cold world we live in, and there will always be mistresses, the people who just don’t give a fuck. The ones who have no guidelines. Our jobs as individuals though, is to try to live as righteously as possible, even when we are wronged. And just keep in mind, that those who wronged us, always meet their own demise sooner or later.


So if you were cheated on, breathe deep, move on with as little baggage as possible and sit back and enjoy the show! No matter what you may want to do to the cheater, KNOW that THEY WILL get theirs too. Eventually, they too will fall and KARMA will be right on their asses being a BIGGER BITCH THAN YOU COULD OF EVER BEEN